Ruth Caroline Kalmar Lewis

August 13, 1963May 10, 2019

Ruth Caroline Kalmar Lewis passed peacefully in her home in Charlotte, NC on May 10, 2019 after a courageous battle with cancer.

An architect by training and a farmer through family legacy, Ruth’s life was dominated by multitudes of projects, each executed to exacting detail. She honed her artistic talents through collaboration with like-minded friends, and she developed wonderful long-term friendships with many skilled craftsmen who converted her ideas into beautifully designed projects. Ruth definitely wore the tool belt in the family.

Ironically, she also loved to go junkin’. Nothing brought her greater joy than to find something nobody else would want, pay next-to-nothing for it, and turn it into something uniquely Ruth.

Through all her projects Ruth never really embraced the concept of a schedule. If forced upon her, there was always justifiable extension. Life, itself, was the only project she ever finished early - the timing uncharacteristically outside of her control.

Ruth took care of “her people,” people from diverse walks of life. It was through this generosity of spirit that Ruth demonstrated loyalty and unconditional love and expanded the definition of family. She had a large circle of friends from all aspects of her multi-faceted life. To know Ruth, was to love Ruth.

At her core, Ruth’s most cherished role was being a mother. With her two daughters, she loved to spend time at the beach, tell funny stories, and participate in the making of the very stories that will survive her.

She is survived by her husband of 26 years, Richard Alan Lewis of Charlotte, NC; her two daughters, Caroline Elizabeth Lewis of New York City, and Sara Reid Lewis of Charlotte, NC; her sister, Laura Kalmar of Wrightsville Beach, NC; and her brother, Walter Kalmar, of Hampstead, NC.

Ruth was predeceased by her father, John Nicholas Kalmar and her mother, Claire Reid Kalmar.

A memorial service and celebration of Ruth’s life will be held in the sanctuary of Myers Park Presbyterian Church, 2501 Oxford Place, Charlotte, NC on Wednesday, May 15, 2019 at 11:00 a.m. with a reception in Oxford Hall to follow.

Another memorial service and celebration of Ruth’s life will also be held in the Airlie Gardens Chapel in Wrightsville Beach, NC at a date to be determined, with a lively party afterwards in Ruth’s honor at The Surf Club in Wrightsville Beach, NC. All friends and family are welcome.

Interment will be held at a private service at the Kalmar Farm family cemetery in Faison, NC.

The family would like to express its deepest gratitude to the doctors, nurses and staff of H3 Healthcare for their exemplary level of care and advocacy, and to the countless friends who gave their love and support.

In lieu of flowers, donations of friendship, love and financial assistance, as appropriate, may be made from your heart to people you encounter who are struggling.


  • Memorial Service with Reception Following in Oxford Hall Wednesday, May 15, 2019


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Christian Sereduke

May 23, 2019

I would like to express my heartfelt condolences to Ruth's family. Ruth was a great friend and talent. She brought so much fun and joy for life to all her studio friends and helped make my time at UNCC a really wonderful memory. We will all miss her smile, her kindness, wit and dry sense of humor. I am grateful to have known her.

Mary Avery

May 16, 2019

Ruth and I with our great friendship would love to ride our horses together, soak up the summer sun at her home on Columbia Street at Wrightsville Beach and just being carefree girls. What a blessing to have her as my friend growing up. And also spending time with her parents, Laura and Walter. Thinking of you, Laura & Walter🙏😘

Nancy Quattrocchi

May 14, 2019

I remember when we first meet Ruth in our home in Riverton, N.J. She was so sweet and friendly. Florence ,her friend was it’s her. The last time they were there the house across the street from ours had a fire in their carriage house. We met Faron & Ruth for lunch in April of this year & enjoyed recalled catching up on past times together. We send our heartfelt sympathy to the family. We will be heading back to N.J. Tomorrow we are so sorry for your lose of a wife and Mother. Mr. & Mrs. Frank Quattrocchi .

Yesid & Mercedes Cardona

May 14, 2019

She was like an angel for our family, many of our worries we brought to her, and she always ....had a word to make these worries look like nothing, " that can be fixed, if we can't, then we go to the next level " off course, we never got to know what the next level was... that was our "sister " Ruth. Farewell Ruth

Melicent Jeter

May 13, 2019

My heartfelt condolences to the Kalmar and Lewis families.

She is your sweet angel now.

With love,

Melicent Jeter