Mr. Tommy Ray Miller Jr.

April 10, 1968September 27, 2010

Mr. Tommy Ray Miller, Jr. Mr. Miller, age 42, of Charlotte passed away at home from this life to his heavenly home on Monday, September 27, 2010. He was born April 10, 1968 in Charlotte, North Carolina the son of Tommy R. Miller and Janice Randolph Miller. He graduated from Olympic High School and attended NC State University and Central Piedmont Community College. Ray worked for Mid-South Consulting Engineering Inc., Miror Telephony Software and P.C. Jackson Plumbing. Surviving are his mother, Janice Kuykendall of Charlotte; father, Tommy R. Miller and stepmother Melissa Miller of Charlotte; brother, Joel Bright of Dallas, TX; sister, Shelley Kuykendall of Charlotte, aunts and uncles, Christine and Ed Lloyd of Chapel Hill; Linda Miller of Pensacola Fla., Dennis and Gerlyn Miller of Columbus Ga., Charles and Rita Byrd of Poquoson, Va., Mary and Danny Edmonds of Hampton Va., Wanda and Heinz Trulley of Hampton, Va., Gail and Lynwood Gay of Houston, TX; his cat, Asia; and numerous cousins; family and friends who loved him. Ray was a gentle, quiet, caring, humble, lovable giant of a person with many gifts and talents. He was always willing to help anyone. He loved sports, especially the Panthers, racing, gun shows, and working on his Monte Carlo and many other cars with his best friend, Thomas Lewis. Tom and his family were a very integral part of Ray’s life. We rejoice that Ray was a believer in Jesus Christ as his Savior. We will all miss him immensely. The visitation will be from 12:30 PM until 2:00 PM Saturday, October 2, 2010 at Calvary Church in the Chapel. A Celebration of Ray’s life will begin at 2:00 PM with Senior Pastor, Dr. John H. Munro officiating. Interment will follow at Forest Lawn West. Memorials in Ray’s honor may be made to Calvary Church 5801 Pineville-Matthews Road, Charlotte, NC 28226. Condolences at or


  • Celebration of Life Saturday, October 2, 2010
  • Visitation Saturday, October 2, 2010

Mr. Tommy Ray Miller Jr.

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November 11, 2010

Dear Tommy and Melissa,
Robert and I both are praying for you to know that Tommy is with the Lord and is joyful. You will indeed see him again.
Robert and Linda Wilber

Bruce & Lori Stadler

November 7, 2010

Dear Tommy and Melissa,
We were so sorry to hear of Tommy's going home to be with the Lord. Our prayer is that God's comfort and love has been sustaining you and will continue to carry you through this time. We also pray that God continually bring to your remembrance all the joyful times you shared with him. HOld those memories in your heart until the day you see him again.

Beverly Manchester

November 7, 2010

In Memory of Ray:

Although I never knew you well,
Ray, I've prayed so hard for you.
I love your folks so very much
And their sons are my sons too.

So one night in late September,
While we all so sweetly slept;
God called you, and you knew His voice;
Into His arms you were swept!

No heartaches now, for the living;
For we did the best we could.
No looking back in anguish now,
Thinking we did you no good.

God sees all things before their time.
He knows wayward paths we roam.
He knew of the pain you'd suffered;
So He said, "Son, come on home"!

Now, you're in Christ's holy presence-
He's restored your every loss!
For He died too young, as you did,
But He spared us all the CROSS!

Beverly Manchester

Carla & Hiro Mirchandani

October 25, 2010

Dear Tommy and Melissa,
Our hearts go out to you and your family and to all those who knew and loved Ray.
Our prayers and love always for you to find comfort.

October 13, 2010

Dear Tommy and Melissa,
My heart grieves with you in this time of sorrow. I have found this poem which I hope will bring a little comfort.
I love you both. Katherine

We little knew that morning
God was going to call your name,
In Life we loved you dearly
In death we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you
You did not go alone,
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home.
You left us beautiful memories
Your love is still our guide,
And although we cannot see you
You are always at our side.
Our family chain is broken
And nothing seems the same,
But as God calls us one by one
The chain will link again.

~ Author Unknown ~

October 12, 2010

Dear Tommy and Melissa,
Bill Hall let us know of the passing of your son. We are so very sorry. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers at this time.
Perry and Jenny Hustad
Lay Witness Mission
Bristol, VA.

Denny Miller

October 11, 2010

Uncle Tommy & Auntie Melissa,
I am so shocked at the news. My heart goes out to you. And I take hope with you in the love and grace of our Lord Jesus Christ. May the Comforter be very near to you.
Love, Denny, Sara, Kayla, Daniel, & David

Lisa (Miller) Queen

October 4, 2010

Aunt Melissa and Uncle Tommy and Janice, my heart is heavy for you. I cannot imagine the loss of your child no matter what age. I cannot believe my younger cousin is gone. Just as Uncle Tommy said at the service, we know that we will see Ray again. He will be missed by all of us. My childhood memories of me, David and Ray and later Joel, playing and visiting together remain and comfort me. I will be here for you whenever you need me.

Angela Maddox

October 4, 2010

Dear Tommy and Melissa and Janice,
I am praying hourly for you as you go through this sad time. I am so thankful that God does not leave us without comfort, but He comes personally to us. He is faithful and I am praying that you feel his presence in a very real way. I know you miss Ray, but he is just a step away. I loved the pictures. Grace and Peace be to you from our Lord Jesus Christ.

evelyn griggs

October 3, 2010

my dearest cousin tommy and sweet melissa, i wish i had the words to say to bring some comfort to you both and jan also. unfortunately, i dont..all i can do is tell you how much i love you all, and that you are in mythoughts and prayers. i also want to say that i loved ray dearly,and will never forget our little "raisin cake". he was a sweet spirit, always quiet and humble and helpful and loving.I know he is in a better place, but we will miss him so. i wish i could wrap my arms around you and envelop you with comfort and peace. may God be with you in the days ahead to comfort and sustain you in this time of great sorrow...again, All MY LOVE to so sorry i couldnt be there with you yesterday, but my heart was there...i hope to see you soon....always, evelyn