Deirdre Mae Flannery Gollop

May 5, 1947July 20, 2021

Deirdre Flannery Gollop, described by friends as "a glowing light in this world", passed away on Tuesday, July 20th. She was surrounded by her adoring husband, Frank, and her daughters, Kirstin, Kelsey and Caitlin. She was 74 years young.

Deirdre's greatest pride and joy was her seven grandchildren. She lives on in each of them: Sadie has her determination, Cooper her sweet sensitivity, Grace her spunk, Brynn her empathy, Wyatt her curiosity, McKenna her joyful generosity, and Trevor has her love for making people laugh.

This incomparable woman of glamour, grit and grace loved and lived for her friends and family. Deirdre was a force and dedicated her energy to being a rock for all who knew her, no matter how well or how close. She taught her three girls (and often reminded their husbands, Graham, John and Ryan) to strive for whatever they wanted, never take 'no' for an answer and, above all, care for each other. She created a family, "Team Gollop", whose members are completely dedicated to one another and will continue her legacy, constantly giving their hearts and their time to others as she did.

Deirdre had a sparkle, a playful childlike spirit and no one made a room of people belly laugh as hard as she. Deirdre loved to entertain by telling stories about the children who made her so proud or the travels she enjoyed so much. Everything she touched, from the rooms she designed to her beloved gardens, was beautiful and colorful, and she was stylishly dressed for every occasion.

Born Deirdre Mae Flannery, this vivacious Irishwoman grew up in Los Angeles, California with her loving parents, Philip and Julianna, and her sister, Daniele. As a young woman, Deirdre enjoyed cheerleading and parties of every kind. Before graduating from Santa Clara University, she met Frank Gollop who would become her devoted husband of 51 years. After Deirdre pursued her Masters in Special Education at the University of Southern California (making plenty of time along the way for fun at the beaches she loved), she and Frank moved to Wisconsin where she directed research projects for specialized childhood education at the University of Wisconsin. With this work followed by starting her family in a cozy Madison house to teaching first graders in Wayland, Massachusetts at Happy Hollow School, Deirdre's lifelong devotion to enhancing the lives of others began.

The family will hold a private burial for Deirdre in her beloved garden by the sea at which her daughters will sing her favorite songs and her grandchildren will read notes and share drawings.

In place of flowers, the family requests that donations be made in Deirdre's honor to National Jewish Health in Denver, Colorado - the world's leading respiratory hospital and a place that provided her with great care and hope.

Deirdre was cherished by so many, from Weston and Chatham, MA to Madison, WI to Los Angeles and San Francisco, CA. Her vibrant presence will be missed at the Weston Garden Club, Chatham Walkers, Monomoy Yacht Club, and her many bridge groups and book clubs. There will never be anyone like her and she will be forever missed. Her family is supported by the memories of her strength and laughter. They find great peace imagining Deirdre joyful with her loved ones who have passed before as she builds another dream home in the place that her faith guaranteed.


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Tess Kanupp

July 31, 2021

Dear Frank and family Our dearest condolences to you. How sweet Deirdre was and will always be remembered by me. I only worked for you for a short time,but, her happiness was contagious,
Hoping you and family are doing well. Sincerely, Tess😢😔 and Larry Kanupp

Patty Hornblower

July 28, 2021

I met Deidre playing bridge in Weston. We then became great bridge partners and I'll always remember she wanted to play West as she was "a West girl" coming from California. I was lucky enough to be invited to a lovely neighborhood party in Chatham, even though, my cape house is in Brewster. Everything was perfect and Deidre was, of course, the ultimate hostess. She had such a vivaciousness about her all the time. Competitive, fun, energetic and above all very caring to me. She will be missed by all. I will think of her this Fall when we're back at the bridge table in person, and she won't be there with us. But her spirt will be for sure.

Gerry Di Gesu

July 28, 2021

I knew Deirdre as a fellow book club member here in Chatham. She was warm, charming, intelligent and a delight in so many ways. I send prayers to her family that their love and support for each other will help them through this hard time. She was a gift.

John & Susan Witty

July 27, 2021

We met Deirdre and Frank in 2010 when we visited for Roger and Adrienne Denk’s anniversary. We were hosted by Deirdre and Frank in their beautiful home.

They were perfect hosts and treated us like family. Deirdre was so gracious and personable and we have fond memories of our trip to Chatham with them.

It is with a heavy heart that we send our sympathy to Frank and family.

Just know that Deirdre is spreading her love in heaven.

David Smith

July 27, 2021

Our hearts go out to Frank and your entire family. Deirdre was such a warm and loving person. She always had a smile to share. We will keep you all in our prayers.

Jackie Wendland

July 26, 2021

I met Deidre only once, a few summers ago when I was visiting close friends Roger & Adrienne Denk in Chatham. My memory of the lovely garden party at their home is still vivid in my mind....the elegant grace & style with which Deidre entertained & that she welcomed me as if we'd been friends for many years. And the tour of her beautiful gardens inspired my landscaping efforts back in my Monterey home. I have grown to cherish my friendship with Deidre's goddaughter, Kecia Denk, a young woman with a huge, compassionate heart who always makes life better for all those who cross her path, just as did her godmother Deidre. I mourn the loss of this amazing lady along with Kecia & her parents. And send my condolences to her entire family.

Kecia Denk

July 26, 2021

To my loving, caring, wonderful super godmother Deirdre. I will always remember she made sure i got my medal after i was unable to finish the 2013 Boston Marathon due to being in the terrorist attack before i left to go back to Monterey CA where i live. I will always remember her simile, her willingness to help people and her positive outlook on life. I miss her greatly but i know she his in heaven smiling down on me.

Adrienne and Roger Denk

July 26, 2021

We are saddened to have lost a very dear friend, Deirdre at such a young age. Her legacy is three beautiful, competent, and compassionate daughters, three supportive sons-in-law, and a band of grands who will carry on her positive spirit into the future.

Adrienne and Roger Denk
Monterey California

Jody Davidson

July 24, 2021

Dearest Frank and girls,
It seems as though I am writing regarding a dream I had about Dee.
Fifty plus years of friendship (friend a word as fragile as it is strong) based on incredible support and love and acceptance is hard to let go. Knowing Dede she would tell me it becomes a different level of being friends.
Our last conversation focused on being grateful for those whom we have in our lives, fortunately, I had the opportunity to tell her how grateful I was that we were friends.
Friends through marriages, a divorce, children and those delicious humans known as grandkids .And now our friendship takes on a different form of memories and thoughts of time lived well because we are friends.
Thank you my friend.

Terry Hernandez

July 24, 2021

I have not lived in the the Cape for a few years, but remembered Deidre energy and love of bridge. Her great bridge gatherings in her loving home at the Cape. The bridge world will miss her energy, and her love of the game, family and friend. May she Rest In Peace.