Eleanor L. Greenhalgh-Kilty
April 22, 1923 – January 6, 2019
Constance Eleanor Laing Greenhalgh-Kilty of Chatham died peacefully in her sleep on January 6th, midway through her 96th year of an eventful life. “Ellie” was born in Wellesley MA on April 22, 1923 and grew up during the great depression, raised by her mother Rena after her father passed away when she was 9. She moved to Chatham in 1947 and has lived the past 63 years in her current home. Ellie was predeceased by the father of her 4 children, Herbie in 2006 and by her second husband Jack Kilty in 2002. Early on, her father nicknamed her “Wunk”, a name that stayed with her well into her 90’s through multiple vanity license plates. After attending 2 years of college at Lasell in Newton MA, she left school in 1944 to join an already active WWll as a member of the US Naval Women’s Reserves (WAVES). This took her cross country to San Francisco and then back again over the next 2 years until the end of the War. Once back in Wellesley, she rekindled a high school romance with Air Force Major Herbie Greenhalgh who had also recently returned from his bomber pilot duties of the War. Marriage was soon the result and the move to Chatham to help Herb’s dad run Chatham Crest, a Cottage Colony on Ridgevale Road. Later there were: 4 children, the duties of the Crest, Herbie returning to War in Korea, many happy years until the children were all raised and a divorce in the late 70’s. Ellie met Jack on the clam flats and they were married in 1991. She dedicated herself to be a Wife, a Mother, a Grandmother and a Great Grandmother. Anyone who met Ellie knew her to be consistently caring, unassuming, staunchly family oriented and almost naively positive. She grew up in a privileged city under very controlled and proper principles from Rena which sheltered her from negativity. The divorce from Herbie launched another life for Ellie who until then had been very content and not overly independent. Forced into self-sufficiency, she started working in the Chatham Town Offices. She followed that with a short career as the Assistant Shellfish Warden. A position of authority comes with a need to enforce the rules and she quickly learned that kindness often needed to take a back seat to firmness. And yet, she referred to all of the shell fishermen as “hers” and there was a mutual respect, appreciation and friendship that developed because she was so human. But it was with her closest friends and relatives that she was so known for warmth and caring. To her family she was Gar, a name given to her by her Grandson Brian. Her family meant everything to her and Gar to them. Being close to Gar meant we are all better people and thankful for the time we had with her. She lived a humble life and passed along the same…..quietly and gracefully. Ellie is survived by daughter Kim Wilson and husband Rich of Chicopee MA, son Todd Greenhalgh and his wife Charleen of Chatham and son Darr Greenhalgh (Pudge) and wife Kathy of Mooresville NC. She is predeceased by son David Greenhalgh of King George VA. She is also survived by her 2nd family of Jack’s 3 Daughters and 3 Son’s. Also, Grandchildren Casey, Brian, Brittany, Nikki, Kyle, Kelsey and Grant. And her dear Great Grandchild Jameson. Special survivor acknowledgement to loyal friend Paula Liska and lifelong friend Syl Mitchell of Georgia. Ellie will be cremated and all are welcome to a memorial service at 3:00 PM on Saturday February 2nd at the Chatham VFW hall. In lieu of flowers, please donate to a charity of your choice.
- Memorial Service Saturday, February 2, 2019
Eleanor L. Greenhalgh-Kilty
April 7, 2019
To the family-
I was truly heartbroken to read of your mother's passing. It was always a pleasure to see her the short time I lived on the Cape. Please accept my condolences and deepest sympathies...
February 13, 2019
You may or may not remember me,but I worked at the Crest and married Ken MacLeod. Irene and I want to send you all our deepest condolences. There are so many wonderful memories of Elle and summers on the Cape for both the MacLeod family and me. We (Sandi was married to Skip) and myself had just connected with Ellie two years ago on trips to the Cape to see Jody MacLeod (was married to Doug) who lives in Harwich. We had the best visit with her this past summer and I feel so fortunate that she was home and we could sit and catch up with her. She was an amazing person and holds a very special place in my heart!
Irene turns 95 on Feb.17th. We have been going through old family photos and the majority of them are from the Chatham Crest. Please know that we are sending our loving thoughts to you, Todd, Kimmy, Darr. You had a terrific, strong mother and she will be missed.
Deborah Cotter Horne
February 11, 2019
Todd, Charleen & family please accept my deepest sympathy with the loss of your Mom and for my whole life known to me as my Aunt Ellie from when she and my Mom were friends. What a very special person she was and I always enjoyed seeing and chatting with her; asking about my girls and my boxers of course. I have very fond memories of my childhood playing at the Chatham Crest or at the house with you all, especially with you Todd going down to the marsh to catch snapping turtles; me always the tom boy wanting to keep up with you. My thoughts and prayers are with you, what a wonderful full life she had and I am so happy to have been apart of it. Love always Debbie
February 5, 2019
I just want to say that our thoughts are with Kim and Darr and Todd and all of Eleanor’s family. She was an unforgettable person. I first knew her when I was a kid, one of the ragamuffins roaming the woods and beaches, and playing baseball with her boys. In a time before we knew it takes a community to raise a child, she was a universal mom to all of us, someone who was down to earth, generous and thoughtful, and had a sense of grace that set her apart. Lives change and I saw her only intermittently over the years, and less as she grew older, but any time we met she was always the same. If anything, that sense of grace had deepened. My wife Carole got to know her at Town Hall and was equally impressed by her and the care she gave to things. All of us were lucky to have shared time with her. Her grandchildren, who I’m sure received some her soul, have a great legacy to look back on. She’s someone who will always be in our hearts.
February 2, 2019
I first met Ellie when I began work at town hall in Chatham. She was, at the time, Assistant Shellfish Constable under Casie Abreu. She and I hit if off almost immediately since her office was in the Assessors office where I worked. We stayed in touch for years after and I will always cherish those "cocktails on the deck" afternoons at her house.....something she always looked forward to.
I am sorry I missed her memorial this afternoon at the VFW but she will always be remembered. Thank you, Ellie.....
February 2, 2019
Todd, Pudge and Kim,
I just want to pass on my thoughts and prayers at the loss of your mother.
You were great neighbors and very thoughtful about keeping your eye on our cottages. Your mom was always a fixture in the window or in the garden and very welcoming to all of us.
Thanks for many great memories of Chatham, gatherings at your house the walks to Larry's PX and most important - naming 10 cigarettes while getting hammered on your arm by Peter, Todd and Bruce Reed.
Wish you all the best!
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Norwood, MA 02062
January 28, 2019
My heartfelt condolences to all the Greenhalgh family. Having grown up in Chatham and sharing classes/friendships with Pudge, Todd, and Kim, I remember Ellie as the strong, independent woman she was. I admired her devotion to her family and her kindness; a great lady and truly the Matriarch who will be missed by many.
January 14, 2019
So sorry to hear of Ellie's passing. She was a wonderful woman with a contagious laugh. Will always remember her kindness and generosity and for giving me my first job!