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Nickerson Funeral Home

87 Crowell Road, Chatham, MA

OBITUARY

Lorraine Bolus

September 27, 1930January 12, 2020
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Lorraine (Quesnel) Bolus spent 89 years bringing beauty to places and people who needed some.

Lorraine, who was born in Waterbury, CT, and passed away January 12 in South Chatham surrounded by family, was an artist by nature and floral designer by trade. In her hands, a simple clutch of wildflowers and grasses would be quickly transformed into an award-worthy arrangement.

She showed others how to find beauty. She taught her granddaughters how to fold a napkin for fancy occasions. She drew attention to sunsets and the ocean outside her kitchen window, and to every living creature – especially cats, which were her cherished companions throughout her life. She saw the good in people that went hidden to others.

As a regular exhibitor at the New England Flower Show, Lorraine brought flower enthusiasts from local nursing homes as her guests – once having to talk her way past an unsympathetic guard. That year, her arrangement took home the tri-color ribbon, the event’s best-of-show award.

Like most artists, she made no apologies for aesthetic obsessions. Hers was the color blue. What she wore, what she painted, what she collected – all in various hues.

God, faith and church lived at the center of her life. She never missed a service on Sunday until her failing health prevented her, and for much of her life she attended church daily, also praying the rosary after Mass. She applied the values of kindness and love every day of the week.

Lorraine was active in communities where she lived, as a member of the Woodridge Garden Club in Wayland, MA, the Chatham Garden Club, the Red Hat Society in Chatham, the Chatham Music Club and Holy Redeemer Choir; and as a volunteer for St. Ann Church in Wayland, Cape Cod Hospital Auxiliary in Chatham, and numerous nursing homes in Wayland and on the Cape. She also was a founding member of the Clever Hand, an artists’ cooperative then in Sudbury, MA.

Lorraine is survived by her husband of 59 years, Joseph Bolus, and two children: Naila Bolus and her husband Burton Glass of Newton, MA, and Jay Bolus and his wife Heather Bowen Bolus of Charlottesville, VA. She also is survived and loved by five grandchildren: Elisabeth, Gabrielle, Reece, Willa and Josette.

Leaving this world before her were her beloved parents, Alma (Juneau) and Damase Quesnel, and her brothers Henry (Gerald), Bernard and Roger Quesnel.

A visitation will be held from 5 to 7 pm, Friday, February 7, at Nickerson Funeral Home in Chatham. A funeral Mass will be held at 11 am, Saturday, February 8, at Holy Redeemer in Chatham.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Lorraine’s memory to the Alzheimer’s Research Foundation (https://www.alzheimersresearchfoundation.com/make-a-donation/) or St. Jude Research Hospital (www.stjude.org/donate)

  • FAMILY

  • Joseph Bolus, Husband
  • Naila Bolus, Daughter
  • Jay Bolus, son
  • Lorraine also is survived and loved by five grandchildren: Elisabeth, Gabrielle, Reece, Willa and Josette.

Services

7 February

Calling Hours

5:00 pm - 7:00 pm

Nickerson Funeral Home

87 Crowell Road
Chatham, Massachusetts 02633

8 February

Memorial Mass

11:00 am

Holy Redeemer Church

57 Highland Ave
Chatham, Massachusetts 02633

Memories

Lorraine Bolus

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myles & nina Goger

January 18, 2020

Thinking of you all & sending our love.

Gabrielle Glass

January 17, 2020

I have so so many wonderful memories with Mémère. But I think that what I'd most like to share is a small habit of her's that epitomizes who she was. Everyday, Lorraine would see the shape of a heart somewhere in the world around her; whether it be in the clouds, in the stones on her driveway, or in the food she was cooking. She'd come running from the kitchen to show me the heart she saw in the piece of cabbage she'd just cut and say, "There's my heart for today!" I think that the average person would find hearts around them constantly if they were paying attention. Most people aren't paying attention. But Mémère was always paying attention, searching for her heart of the day, and always seeing love in things and others.

I will miss you so much Mémère. I love you!

Ruth Norman

January 16, 2020

Sweet Lorraine,I loved her dearly! One of my treasured memories is when the four of us, Bob and I and Lorraine and Joe traveled to Assisi and Venice and rented an apartment together.
Her family has welcomed me in their home for so many occasions.
I will miss her warm smile and little hugs. She has passed into Heaven and is in the arms of God. I love you Lorraine. 🦋

Josie Glass

January 16, 2020

Among so many things, I will forever miss her generosity. She was constantly putting others before herself and sharing everything she had. Recently, I asked her if I could use some of her art supplies to which she responded with “Of course! You can keep as much of it as you like too!” I also remember when I was really little, looking through her jewelry drawer. She noticed me admiring it and said I could pick out something I wanted. Yet another time, I was sitting, listening to stories about her childhood, when she explained to me how she stayed home to help her dad recover from a stroke instead of going to design school. Mémère inspires me to be just as loving and generous and I will try my best to be just like her.

Heather Bolus

January 16, 2020

Everyone knows how deeply kind, giving, and gentle Lorraine always was .I read it in each beautiful memory left here and I will forever feel and in my heart.
I also cherish another aspect of this multi faceted woman. Lorraine had a “little wild child “ deep within her... this is what drew me to her from the start. She had that twinkle in her eye, that quick comment, that “lets do it “ attitude,”, or even better the “ I’ve done that” response !! I adored the stories she told of her adventures! “Borrowing” Joseph’s corvette ( much to his chagrin ) , charming her way out of speeding tickets ( I believe she charmed more than a few officers ), going up the downstairs, Redecorating her bosses office while he was on vacation…
Lorraine was all of the glowing words written about her but she was also so much more !! she was strong, she stood firmly for what she believed in, she gave solid advice and did not shy away from the uncomfortable topics. And she was so funny! One comment out of her could Double you over with laughter at the most unexpected times. ( which is always the best time, right?)
I loved and respected Lorraine even more towards the end of her life as I saw how she slowly lost so much… Weight, strength, memory ...but the core of her grew even stronger. She became simply pure kindness. Pure thoughtfulness. And much to my joy, her magical sense of humor , The mischievous twinkle in her gorgeous blue eyes… remained. She carried that spark with her until the very end. That is the Lorraine I will miss forever.
Thank you for sharing your precious family with me. I will cherish them. (And I will never tell Burt that I was always your favorite in law !! 🤗)

RJ Buckingham

January 15, 2020

Aunt Lorraine was a beautiful soul , I enjoyed visiting her and Uncle Joe in Chatham . She was a wonderful friend to my Mom and Dad as was the whole Quesnel family . Last I saw her we looked at pictures of the old Quesnel house on Main Street in Watertown CT and she told stories of her childhood there . Condolences to all her family from The Buckingham’s .

Lauren Buckingham Lundebjerg

January 15, 2020

Uncle Joe, Naila and Jay,
So very sorry to hear of your great loss.
I will always remember the beautiful flowers that Aunt Lorraine did for my wedding over 37 years ago. I still have the silk roses that she supplemented my fresh bouquet with oh so many years ago.
May she Rest In Peace as she joins her sibs, her parents and my parents in heaven❤️

Elisabeth Bolus

January 15, 2020

Memere was the most selfless women I have met, constantly blessing the world around her with beauty and kindness. Even in her final months Memere constantly wanted to know how everyone else was doing, making sure we slept and ate well. Always putting others wellbeing before her own. From letting me find the most words when we would do word searches (even when I was doing the same so no words were found) to always keeping the blue bowl filled with cookies, Memere showered the people around her with beauty and grace. I feel blessed to have have had these 18 wonderful years with such a beautiful soul. Our family has lost an angel, but heaven has gained one. I love you so much Memere, I hope heaven is filled with blues and flowers.

Reece Bolus

January 15, 2020

Memere was filled with such love and grace that it continues to reflect every day on those closest to her. She was a women of such caring nature, sending me tokens of comfort when I was hurting the most. An angel of my own definition.
Her open heart and witty comments will not be forgotten, and her family will continue to honor her kind ideals.

We love and cherish you Meme.

Naila Bolus

January 15, 2020

Though mom would never have used the term "servant leader," that's what she was. Motivated by love to serve others, she was an expression of grace.

She taught me servanthood by her example, bringing Jay and me to visit nursing homes or to share Christmas gifts with families who needed them. She was always the first to offer a meal to a friend who was sick.

Through her service she made others feel special and valued. She was the epitome of kindness, humility, gentleness and love. She was a blessing.

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