Charity-Joy Stobbe

I lived LIFE. God gave me a beautiful terrible life. My husband B I love you for life. So glad I met you in 1981. Thank you for your many kindnesses, loyalty, and love. You can handle knife threats or goat crisis. You definitely were my helper and partner. I love you so much! My kids Clayton and Joy with her Steven you gave me such joy and happiness, as well as tears and sadness. C your creativity brought me some proud moments. I feel like you get that ‘think out of the box’ part from me. I enjoyed hearing your problem solving stories. I just love to listen to you. J your love for farming and living off the land is not always easy but you have a gentle but mighty way with animals and people. You are the best, kindest, most caring daughter. You are stronger than you know but have a soft, thoughtful heart. Thanks for all the effort you and S put into caring for this Mom. I love you 4 to the moon and back.

To the Back 40 kids I love you too: Toby - you are a good man and I fully enjoyed our early am convos and your fam; Rachel - talented and kind thanks for adventures, IHIT, paddling, photos, and bringing Joey and Spencer into my life; Kyle, Hannah, Alanna your baby snuggles and quiet love/support for my family and I made all days better (a new Mom shouldn’t have to make dinner for an old Mom).

My friends you supported me during life and in my final year. J and B as my friends for more than 40 years and bridesmaids at my wedding = Jen, there is always Portugal, your weekly letters made me joy cry/feel big and encouraged me towards a life full of glimmers, our monthly adventures as I was leaving fulfilled my deep need for connection and love; Brenda, I enjoyed our many ‘grand adventures’, first facials at 60, Island 22 with Red and Cleo, tea for two, flowers, the van, your love and loyalty; Deb thanks for the prayers, notes, talks, walks; AL you are so alive and loving, thanks for biking, kayaking, chicken soup, and cleaning, you are a beautiful soul; Sherry whether far or close your love shook and never have I had a humble, caring foot rub like yours, thanks for planting sweet peas, dahlias, and Scarlett runners with me and for staying; Selena thank you for sharing prayers and your hard but amazing spiritual journey with me; Lydia you have been through much in life and you continue to listen and give; Tammy you are a good friend, negotiator, teacher, I admire your willingness to learn, thanks for all the farm forest visits; Heidi we would have had a blast retired together; Ciera you gave me hope and friendship, such generosity and love. Thanks!

To my brothers thanks for stepping up when I started having a hard time. I love you guys and your amazing kids. Sis you did some hard things to be here for me and I love that you could rise to the challenge and open up as my dearest fight partner. Your love was clearly visible. Thank you for the crazy cards the glow, texture, sentiment, window washing, vacuuming, dress, ferry rides, lawn mowing in pink sparkly sandals…I love you also. Be ok. Laurie and Wayne you give and give, your home felt like home, thanks for being my sis and for loving my B now (and CJS). Dora, you are my favourite cousin. I love you and thank you for checking in and caring about Dad. Aunt Mary, you are a beautiful MoMA and kind friend to Dad. Thanks for being so unselfish and ready for fun in spite of age. Myrtle, your family dinners were the best. Your prayers and cares are so necessary. Thank you Stacey for caring for my sweet Little Red and the fam rate. Please be patient with B as he navigates his new reality.

To the many unique kids out there that I was Mrs. Stobbe to thanks for giving me a teaching career I loved for 35 years in public school. You were my pleasure mostly to sing with, learn to read, figure out Math, write creatively so young, play dodgeball, hang out with rabbits, lego, goats, and marbles.

Paddle Women, you showed me rest and rejuvenation could happen for strong working women. I didn’t practice that much in most of my life but I like the idea for healthy woman.

To my Layla be brave through this, lean on that darling Mom of yours, I love you so much, be determined and learn to forgive. You are beautiful. (I still think life guarding is for you.)

For anyone who wants to enjoy a new valuable life experience and connection in volunteering think about joining Big Brothers Big Sisters. There are 66 kids in Chilliwack on the wait list. They need an adult mentor to commit 2 hours a week to be friends with a young person. You will love it. I did.

Goodbye Chilliwack. Hello Heaven.

Celebration of Life will be held at Southside Church, 45636 South Sumas Rd. on Friday, January 10, 2025, at 2:30pm.