John William DeFoe

December 12, 1951March 9, 2018
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John William DeFoe, resident of Clayton, NC passed away unexpectedly on March 9, 2018 at the age of 66.

John was born in Jackson, MI to Gerald and Mildred DeFoe on December 12, 1951. He married his wife Linda on December 11, 1976 in New Orleans, LA.

He worked as a Sales Executive for WJS for 14 years. He retired in Clayton, NC in November 2017.

John is survived by his beloved wife of 41 years, Linda; his children, Ben DeFoe (Michele) and Kim Holt (Tim); his grandchildren, Adele, Davis, and Celia DeFoe; Addison and Rylan Holt; his brother, Chuck DeFoe (Jill); and his sister, Diane Voit (Bill). He is predeceased by his parents, Gerald and Mildred DeFoe.

John was a devoted father, husband, and grandfather. There was never anything he could not fix or problem he could not solve. In his free time, you would find him working on the house, his yard or traveling the world with Linda. He never met a stranger and left a lasting impression on anyone he ever met and made them smile. John will be deeply missed by his friends, family, and all who knew him.

Visitation will be at 2:00 pm Friday, March 16th followed by funeral services at 3:00 pm. Both will be held at Horne Memorial United Methodist, 121 E. Second St Clayton, NC 27520.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made in his honor to the American Heart Association.

American Heart Association: 3131 RDU Center Dr # 100 Morrisville, NC 27560 (919) 463-8300

Online condolences can be made at


  • Linda DeFoe, Wife
  • Ben DeFoe and wife Michele, Son
  • Kim Holt and husband Tim, Daughter
  • Adele DeFoe, Grandchild
  • Davis DeFoe, Grandchild
  • Celia DeFoe, Grandchild
  • Addison Holt, Grandchild
  • Rylan Holt, Grandchild
  • Chuck DeFoe and wife Jill, Brother
  • Diane Voit and husband Bill, Sister
  • Gerald DeFoe, Father
  • Mildred DeFoe, Mother


  • Visitation Friday, March 16, 2018
  • Memorial Service Friday, March 16, 2018

John William DeFoe

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Phil Allesandro

March 20, 2018

It is almost impossible to understand or comprehend, how my Best Friend, Big Brother John is gone so unexpectedly. All I can focus on is all the good times and memories that John along with Linda and Defoe Family shared with us through all the years. So many projects that John so graciously helped us with. As I look around I see his imprint on so many things that he did. Always willing to lend a helping hand above and beyond, to provide his expertise and skilled workmanship. John was truly a Craftsman. I will miss all our boating and fishing trips. John was always at the helm as he was an expert on the water.

We will hold dear the memories of all our trips together with John and Linda. We had so much fun in FL at the beach house, New York going to Broadway shows. Santa Fe and Toas NM, and all the Saints games we shared as season ticket holders. If we couldn't go on one the many great adventures that John and Linda would take . John always had us view a slide show of what a great time he and Linda had. He would always remind that life is short and you need to live it to its fullest. Which he did beyond measure.

We enjoyed just hanging out with each other, as we shared a bond through the years . It was the best of times. John loved the Allesandro family like it was his own. Treating my Mom Ann Mares as if she were his second Mom.

Charmaine and I will miss John beyond any words that I can express. We will hold him close in our hearts forever. Charmaine and I will be as supportive for you Linda, Kim, and Ben as much as we possibly can. Our love goes out to John's entire family, as well as our sincere condolences. God got a Great man.

We pray Eternal Rest Grant unto him O' Lord. And let your Perpetual Light Shine upon Him Forever and Ever. Amen.

Ann Mares

March 20, 2018

:I will miss John very much as he was in my life for 40+ years. He was my “other son” as he called himself and he always treated me as “mom”. I will miss his kindness, his infectious smile and determined personality. Loved talking sports with John. Being around John always made me feel special.
John amazed me with his mechanical, technical skills and he always got the job done-no matter how difficult. He was a true friend to me & my family.
His work is done and now he can Rest In Peace.
My heart goes out to Linda, Ben and Kim, and all his grandchildren and family. I pray you all find comfort in the happy memories of the good, fun times with John and the love he had for his family and friends.

Matt DeFoe

March 16, 2018

I remember my Uncle John to be a man of great humor and sharp wit that loved his family, and had an affinity for the latest technology and anything mechanical. He had a boisterous personality that fit his profession, and John was a man that lived life to the full. He will be missed. - Matt DeFoe

Jason Allesandro

March 13, 2018

Mr. John was an amazing guy. I have such great memories of him from as far back as the age of 6 when he would take us out in his boat and go knee boarding. We considered him to be family. You couldn't help to have lifted spirits when you were in his presence. He had an amazing natural gift that really brought out the best in you. I am deeply saddened about his passing but know he is in a great place. My prayers are with all the Defoes that you find peace and comforting during this tough time. You will forever be missed Mr. John. Thanks for always being so great to me and my family. Love,

American Heart Association

March 12, 2018

May your memories of the wonderful times you shared with your loved one comfort you and your family, today and always.