OBITUARY

Arbutus May Patterson

September 16, 1919January 8, 2019
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Arbutus May Patterson, age 99, of Brooksville, Florida passed away on Tuesday January 8, 2019. Arbutus was born September 16, 1919 in Hagaman, NY. A funeral service for Arbutus will be held Friday, January 18, 2019 from 11:00 am to 11:30 am at Sylvan Abbey Funeral Home, 2853 Sunset Point Rd., Clearwater, Florida 33759. A burial will occur at 12pm Sylvan Abbey Memorial Park, 2860 Sunset Point Rd., Clearwater, Florida 33759.

For Family there is a gathering from 10 am to 11 am with Danish’s and Refreshments. After Arbutus is laid to rest, we will Gather at one of her nieces home, Brenda Barker Serhane, for a remembrance of life, food and drink.

Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.sylvanabbey.com for the Patterson family.

Services

  • Visitation Friday, January 18, 2019
  • Funeral Service Friday, January 18, 2019
  • Committal Friday, January 18, 2019
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Darlene Holubetz

February 9, 2019

My Aunt Feetsie was a very special lady. I will always remember her soft laugh and her warm smile. She always had a kind heart. Aunt Feetsie was one of the people in my life who influenced me to travel and she taught me that travel creates amazing memories.

Why was Arbutus called “Feetsie”? Well, her dad always called her “Sweetie” when she was a little girl and her younger sister, Bernice (Bernie) and younger brother George (Bud) could not say Sweetie correctly so they said “Feetsie”. The name stuck and she was called Feetsie by her four younger siblings (Madeline, Herbert (Herb), Hulda (Dolly) Darlene (Cooky)), her older sister Dorothy ( Dot), and then her nieces and nephews and her great-nieces and great-nephews.

As a child, it was so special for Aunt Feetsie and Uncle Clyde to visit our home in Upstate New York in the summertime since they lived in Florida. When I was eleven years old (1965) my family visited them for Christmas and New Year’s. They rolled out the red carpet for us. Aunt Feetsie and Uncle Clyde both helped my mom and dad so much by preparing food for John’s and my wedding in 1977. In the mid-1980s , my husband and I visited them with our son. They were always the best hostess and host by graciously allowing us to stay with them, they were both great cooks and the meals they prepared were delicious and they always suggested the best places for us to visit. I was so lucky in 2011 to visit Aunt Feetsie with my three grandchildren and daughter-in-law as we were passing by Brooksville. In March 2017, John and I did a quick trip to Florida and we were blessed to see Aunt Feetsie two afternoons and tell her we would be taking a cruise around the world.

Aunt Feetsie will be greatly missed but I know she was welcomed by so many family and friends in Heaven.

The photo is of Aunt Feetsie, my granddaughter Emily and me at the cabin in 2011.

Barbara Becker

January 17, 2019

Mom Patterson came into my life when Marilynn and Dennis got married. She became my second Mother. She make a lot of Pottery items for my family as the years passed. Marilynn became the daughter she never had and adopted all of us into her life. She was a Grand Lady.

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Biography

If anyone ever cared, really cared for someone else it would have to be Arbutus May Patterson. She was a warm hearted and well liked individual, and these wonderful traits came easily to her because she was such a sociable and amiable person, someone who was always making certain that those around her had whatever they needed. Arbutus was a talkative person who was tactful at all times but typically said what she meant.

      Arbutus was born on George Lang Farm on Rogge Rd. In Hagaman, NY. She was the daughter of George Menge and Hulda Nadler Menge. Arbutus was raised in The Menge Homestead, on Morrow Rd. Hagaman, NY. During her childhood she learned to be reliable and respectful. Arbutus was an obedient child who wanted to win the favor of others. She found it easy to show sympathy and to perform kind acts for others. These admirable qualities would become a part of Arbutus's personality throughout her life.

      Though Arbutus was frequently the one to initiate games and activities with her family, she was also quite often the family member who took the role of referee. Arbutus was a peace-maker with an ability to resolve all sorts of family conflicts. In fact, Arbutus worked conscientiously to keep those typical family spats at bay. Arbutus was raised with 7 siblings. She had two older sisters, Dorthy and Bernice, two younger brothers, George and Herbert, and 3 younger sisters, Madeline, Hulda, and Darlene. Arbutus and her siblings had the typical rivalries while growing up, but they cared deeply for one another.

      Arbutus was a faithful and loving person. Some would even call her sentimental and a romantic at heart. Her kindness and consideration radiated an aura of warmth to those around her. Arbutus cared for what others thought and carried that into her marriage. On November 7th, 1937 Arbutus married Harold Clyde Patterson (b1916 - d2010) at St. Lutheran Church of Amsterdam, NY. Compassionate and devoted, Arbutus worked hard to make her new life partner happy.

      Harmony was important to Arbutus and she made every effort to maintain it with her family. Arbutus was blessed with 1 child., Dennis Clyde Patterson. They were also blessed with 3 Grandchildren., Robert Clyde, Gregory Scott, and Cheryl D’ann. Arbutus was always conscious of the feelings others had. She was reasonable and understanding. As a result, Arbutus was quick to solve disputes and did so without much fuss. Her secret of success in this area was simple: Arbutus would listen before she would act.

      A methodical woman, Arbutus enjoyed spending time working on her various hobbies. She had no problem following all of the steps and instructions on a given project and was proud of the fact that she could have something to show for her efforts. Her favorite pursuits were the outdoors, wildlife, camping, travel, Grand & Great Grandchildren.

     Her keen interest in things that affected the lives of other people led Arbutus to become actively involved in professional and community organizations. Because she was outgoing and worked well with others, Arbutus did her fair share of volunteer work. And she wouldn’t shy away from taking the lead on committees or events, either. She was a born list maker and was great at creating and sticking to schedules. Throughout her later years, Arbutus was an active member of the Coachmen Caravan Trailer club.

      A generous and compassionate woman, Arbutus accomplished much during her lifetime. Though she never set out to gain individual recognition, Arbutus was recognized and given awards for her many and varied efforts throughout her life. Her Grand Children gave her the Dr Doolittle’s Award for her abilities to talk to animals.

      Not only did Arbutus enjoy traveling, but she also seemed to enjoy planning all of those trips and vacations. She was a facilitator who could easily make up a near perfect schedule of all of the things to do and see. She rarely tired of going back and revisiting her favorite places. Her favorite vacation was to return to Hagaman NY and spend the summer with her siblings.

      Arbutus was a lover of animals and cherished her pets. One of her favorites was Boot’s, the meanest Roster you would ever meet.

      Arbutus passed away on January 8, 2019 at Westminester Funeral Home. She is survived by her son Dennis, Grandchildren Robert, Greg, and Cheryl, 7 Great Grandchildren, 7 Great/Great Grandchildren, her sisters Dolly and Cookie, and many other nieces and nephews. Services held at Sylvan Abbey. Arbutus is to rest in Sylvan Abbey Cemetery.

      Arbutus was a fantastic conversationalist who could engage just about anyone in a discussion. And whenever she said something, she meant it. Arbutus was a down to earth person, outgoing and gregarious. She was without question the type of person who enjoyed experiencing things first hand. She was practical and sensible, but what friends and family will remember her for most is the fact that she was so understanding and kind. Everyone whose life she touched will miss Arbutus May Patterson.