Swan Funeral Home

80 East Main Street, Clinton, CT


Robert . Pinder Jr.

November 15, 1953November 7, 2019

Robert Joseph Pinder Jr., of Clinton, passed away peacefully with his wife by his side on November 7, 2019 at Yale New Haven Hospital. Bob was born on November 15, 1953 in Norfolk, Virginia to the late Robert Joseph Pinder Sr. and Margaret (Crocker) Pinder. Bob and his family moved to Connecticut in 1954 where lived until his passing.

Bob enjoyed fishing, boating, hunting, camping and NASCAR racing. Bob was very proud of his sobriety of 33 years clean. He was friends with founder of NA, Jimmy K.

Bob is survived by his loving wife Lisa (Wiles) Pinder of 19 years; Daughters, Bobbie-Jo Matthewson (Duane) of East Lyme and Jennifer Denysenko of Clinton; Granddaughters Krista Garofalo (Vincent) of Delaware and Shannon Matthewson of East Lyme; Sisters Deborah Pinder of Westbrook and Karen Pinder (Darren) of Niantic; several Nieces and Nephews. Bob also leaves behind his life long best friend Jeff Midgley of Clinton along with his dog Zoe and his cat Luke.

In addition to his parents, Bob was pre-deceased by his step-son, Bryan Hall Jr.

He will be dearly missed by many family and friends including the J. Dock family.

Friends may greet the family on Monday, November 11, 2019 from 4pm - 6pm, with a service at 6pm, in the Swan Funeral Home, 80 E. Main St., Clinton, CT 06413

In lieu of flowers please make a donation to a charity of your choice on Bob's name.


  • Visitation Monday, November 11, 2019
  • Memorial Service Monday, November 11, 2019


Robert . Pinder Jr.

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Susan and Michael Avery

December 9, 2019

I just found out of the passing of Bob....
I’m still not sure what to say about someone who meant so much to me and the core foundation of my recovery. Mike and I had many great times and some soul searching times with Bob through the years. As others have said this man had a loving heart almost to a fault at times. Was always there to help anyone and will never forget when he said why don’t you come to Pond’s and get a job after the place I worked closed. Well that was another whole start of 15 years together... Good times,Good people,Good Memories. Bob, may you be at Peace in heaven and know we will see each other again. Dear Lisa you were such a blessing when you came into Bob’s life and brought back his happiness. To his girls I am so sorry for your loss and the rest of the Family I will be praying for you, with Love and Prayers, Susan Bush Avery

Alyson Somerville

November 16, 2019

Worked at Pond's/Unilever with Bob for many years. I will always remember him as one of the nicest, kindest people there. My condolences to Lisa and the rest of Bob's family. He will be missed.

Kim Kriksciun

November 11, 2019

For many years Bob worked with my sister and I ..(even my brother) at Chesebrough-Ponds in Clinton. There was never a dull day with Bob around. My daughter's father Edwin Felix had known him since he was a teenager as he hung out with Bob's brother in law at the time..Richie. Anyways I wanted to say my prayers to Lisa and his daughters...and my thoughts are with you. Bobber was definitely one of a kind and he will be missed. Loveya Bob..say Hi to Leroy for me. 😘💔🥀

Jeannie Johnson

November 10, 2019

I want to pass on my condolences to Bob's family and friends. Bob was such a kind person and a true gentleman, generous, and always willing to help anyone in need. He was a staple on saturday nights in New Haven, a meeting he was a trusted servant at for many years. He will be greatly missed. I hope his family finds peace from knowing that Bob helped so many hopeless people find hope. He was a perfect example that people can and do change when you do the footwork. His spirit will shine thru everytime a new comer walks thru the church basement doors, because he made sure that this meeting didnt close.

Sandra Freeman

November 10, 2019

You have been an amazing strength to so many and will be greatly missed. I am so blessed to have known this great man.
My sincere condolences to his family...

Kathy gary Johnso

November 10, 2019

Bob, we enjoy many years of nascar races with you and lisa. I can remember one time at the camp ground when u guys arrived and was setting up. Lisa found a mouse or 2 running around in camper and she was screaming and we were laughing she had broom trying to get them out. One came out down over the wheel. We enjoyed thoses weekend of fires story’s and many laugh. We will miss you bob. Fly with the angels.
Love , kathy and gary Johnson
Fairfield Maine (Maine holes) lol

Paul Boyne

November 9, 2019

The last time I saw Bobby was at Swans for Chris Allen's service. When he approached me that day I didn't recognize him at first we had not seen each other since the mid 70's .We were both downhearted about our friend then Bob said "that would've been me had I not gotten sober " . I nodded and said yeah me too. We soon realized we had cleaned up right around the same time . We both considered ourselves very lucky and then it was like the good ol days all over again . He still had that infectious laugh that made me laugh and those stories never get old. When I saw the post today of his passing I went numb ,"Ohh No" . Bob said he was looking forward to enjoying his retirement filled with fishing, camping his wifes companionship ,their kids enjoying everything life has to offer in sobriety . RIP my old friend I'm happy to have reconnected with you on that day something I will remember the rest of my life. You were a wonderful person that I was fortunate to have crossed paths with. May God bless you ,your friends, and family.

Patricia Dotson

November 9, 2019

Graduated with Bobby, always such a sweet lovable guy. I know he will be missed because he was so loved.

Toni Ferraro

November 9, 2019

My deepest condolences for Lisa, Jenn, Bobbi-Jo, family, and friends of Bob. May he rest in peace in Jesus' name, Amen.

Michael McAllister

November 9, 2019

Lisa and Family,
Please accept my most sincere condolences on the passing of your Husband. Bob was many things to many people.Husband,Father,Grand-Father,Uncle,Brother,Cousin,Best friend, fellow boater,NASCAR fan,neighbor ......the list could go on and on.
Bob and I became acquainted nearly three years ago which seems like a small fraction of his nearly 66 years.In those three years I have witnessed Bob perform countless acts of "true charity"(when you think no one else is watching) Seek out people who are experiencing the worst times of their lives and give them something that they were all truly lacking...Hope.
It was my honor to call Bob Pinder my mentor,sponsor and friend and I am positive that I speak for so many people when I say...Thank you Bob. I love you and I am a better person for having you in my life.
With sincere gratitude and condolences,
Michael P. McAllister