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Stella I. Messer

July 27, 1934November 10, 2020
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Stella Irene (Frady) Messer was born on July 27, 1934 to Robert & Clarabelle (Davis) Frady. She was preceded in death by her parents and brothers Samuel Frady & Robert Frady.

She is survived by her loving husband of 46-yrs Handy Messer of Clovis and Daughters Liz Ann Lampkin of Clovis and Shirley (Kemet) Stine of Bigfork, MT, sisters Mary (Don) Garner of Clovis and Bonnie Wagers of Pueblo West, CO and, seven grandchildren (Andrew and his wife Michele, Tony, Elizabeth and her husband Stewart, Andriana and Fiance Adam, Geoff and Fiance Mary Kate, Christian and Fiance Trinity and Clara) and five great grandchildren (Justin, Shane, William, Aelish and Luca) numerous Nieces, Nephews, and Great-Nieces and Nephews and a few Great-Great Nieces and Nephews

Stella was a Secretary for 20+ years until she accepted the position of Wife and mother to two young daughters at the age of 40. She would spend the next twenty years raising her two daughters with equal amounts of love and exasperation. The grandchildren and great-grandchildren made the trying teenage years of two daughters all worthwhile. She adored all the grandkids and great grandkids and was especially in love with the newest addition Baby Luca.

“Auntie” Stella was loved by her numerous Nieces, Nephews, & Great Nephews. She spoiled all of the “young’uns” whether with candy, cookies or treats. She was known to “slip a $5” for a good report card and assignment on the down low.

She was “Bumble Bee”, “Sweet Pea” “Short-Stacks”, “Honey Bee” to her soul-mate of 46 years who was her “Country Bumpkin”. Although there were those who tried to steal her heart, she waited until she was 40 to finally say I Do!

She never met a stray cat she didn’t love. She had numerous cats over the years and loved each of them like family. It was like Stella was the female Doctor Doolittle. All cats migrated to her. There was 27 at one time. She knew all of their names.

She left an indelible mark on everyone she met and her loss will be felt for a long time to come.

The family especially wants to thank Crystal Ortiz who has been more than a caregiver, she has become an essential part of our family.

Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.boicefuneralhome.com for the Messer family.

  • FAMILY

  • Handy Messer, Husband
  • Elizabeth Ann Lampkin, Daughter
  • Shirley M. Stine (Kemet), Daughter
  • Mary Garner (Don), Sister
  • Bonnie Wagers, Sister
  • Samuel Frady, Brother (deceased)
  • Charles Frady, Brother (deceased)
  • Stella also leaves behind seven grandchildren (Andrew and his wife Michele, Tony, Elizabeth and her husband Stewart, Andriana and Fiance Adam, Geoff and Fiance Mary Kate, Christian and Fiance Trinity and Clara) and five great grandchildren (Justin, Shane, William, Aelish and Luca) numerous Nieces, Nephews, and Great-Nieces and Nephews and a few Great-Great Nieces and Nephews

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  • PALLBEARERS

  • Geoffrey Lampkin
  • Christian Lampkin
  • Brandon Earheart
  • Richard Earheart
  • Rob Earheart
  • Scott Lampkin
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Elizabeth Ann (Messer) Lampkin

November 19, 2020

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Mom -

It is difficult to stand before you and attempt to honor my mother in words, it is never an easy task to capture in a speech, as words fall short of capturing her true essence. Mom was many things to many people. A loving companion to my father for 46 years and being my “mom” since I was five. She was a loving daughter, sister, aunt, great aunt, grandma, and great grandma to a family she loved dearly. As kids growing up, we could not begin, to count the times she tolerated out moods, consoled our heart breaks and disappointments and endured our ups and downs. As young teenagers’ mom did not tolerate a lot but as the years past, she tolerated a lot more than she had with our foolishness she said, but she still had moments with us that we did not see eye to eye. The years hold many precious memories for all us in some way or another. I am sure that each one of you hold wonderful memories of her in your heart. Mom was a very devoted wife to my father. She loved him unconditionally and cherished each moment she spent together with him, and each day for the last 46 years they have walked life together for better or worse and she made it a point to take care of his every need, he was her “Country Bumpkin” and every night she said “Goodnight Country Bumpkin.. How’s the frost out on the punkin”

Elizabeth Ann (Messer) Lampkin

November 19, 2020

I thought she had made it up until I realized watching tv with her one night that it was an actual song. So out of curiosity, I went and listened to it. If you get a chance to listen the song Country Bumpkin you will know it was their life together. Dad had numerous names for her… it was either goodnight bumble bee, or short stacks (if you had not notice she was just a little shorter then he was) and finally honeybee. She was his honeybee. So, after the lights were off… I would proceed to yell down the hallway goodnight maw and paw and occasionally I would get back from her Goodnight Elizabeth.

Mom was always concerned about family if you will sick, well or missing she was calling to chat with you to find out how things were. If she didn’t see Rob around the property, she was looking for him and asking about Duane and calling her sisters all the time to see how things were going, asking me if I had talked to my sister. She was asking about everyone. There were even times that mom would think about the past and would have me pull out the smart phone as she called it and look up people. She even contacted a few from the past and had me sit down and write down her thoughts on paper to them. She even made it a point to make sure Henry the Gardner was well taken care of with water and pastries as he mowed the grass every two weeks.

Elizabeth Ann (Messer) Lampkin

November 19, 2020

Mom was very much like her mother in the way she cared for her family and friends. I used to tell her all the time that the “apple didn’t fall far from the tree”. She was a very simple humble carrying mother and grandmother. She enjoyed visiting with family more than anything in the world. You could ask her what she wanted for Christmas birthday or Mother’s Day. The answer would always be the same “nothing” she just enjoyed the simple things in life “spending time together”. Mom loved visiting watching videos or looking at pictures of Luca and even in the final weeks of her life when she struggled to talk … I continued to share videos with her, and her heart was filled with love... her words to me were “how sweet he is.”
Some final thoughts as I close today wanted to share that we have placed a few of her favorite things with her…

• Her coffee cup (had to have it first thing and had to be reheated for 40 seconds if it got cold)

• Gum…. Always had to have it by her chair …she could chew more gum than anyone I know and one piece right after another

• Her Tooth brush... Important to mom she had the best teeth ever it was brushing them three – four times a day and flossing, and when she couldn’t walk she was still brushing them in the living room or having us wheel her to bathroom. She would never ever let you forget…

• Her blanket from her bed to stay warm

• A jar of Apricot jelly... ask her what she wanted for breakfast and it always included toast with apricot jelly. I had to keep asking Richard for more.

• Sweater…this sweater belonged to her mother and she wore it all the time when she was cold and in the pocket is Kleenex. Always had to have boxes of Kleenex for her in the house everywhere.

• Book “Night Night Stella” that was given to her by Clara. We had a great time reading it to her and showing her the pictures. Richard came over one night and was jealous so Waunema re-read the book and showed the pictures again. Mom just laughed... What a fun time.

• Hairbrush – Mom always like to have her hair fixed. She loved when it was clean and curled, she would always ask about when we were doing hair (usually weekends). But I must share a funny story with you. Mom had Occupationally therapy every week for the last 6 months in hopes to help her walk again, her therapist was Yon... He had a way of talking with her and getting her to do anything (most of time.) She referred to him as “Bad News and greeted him like that” and he called her trouble, but on days he was coming over she had to have her hair combed and look presentable. We used to tease her and say her boyfriend was coming over. Yon had a way of making her and my dad laugh all the time. Yons words “She was fighter and fought hard at least in my eyes she did .. I could not ask anymore from her. I know that she is in a better place... not suffering. She is looking down on all of us saying whos’ lazy now? (on occasion her nick name was stelllazy). She will be missed and I will always be her bad news. and I would not have it any to other way.”

• And most importantly her Bible …. She believed in the birth, life death and resurrections of Jesus Christ our savior.

Mom will always and forever be my mother. The definition of a mother is “a woman who loves and cares for children unconditionally. Although her role in their life changes with time, her love and care for the children grandchildren and family remain the same all the time! My mother was every bit of a mother to me as I am to my own children, and to my father I will forever be grateful for choosing her to be the one I called “Mom”.

Mom - I found this poem and I thought of you.

Elizabeth Ann (Messer) Lampkin

November 19, 2020

God's Garden

God looked around his garden
And found an empty place.
He then looked down upon the earth,
And saw your tired face.

He put His arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God’s garden must be beautiful,
He always takes the best.
It broke our hearts to lose you
But you did not go alone…
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home.

You will forever be in my heart….and never forgotten until we meet again.

Shirley Stine

November 18, 2020

Shirley Stine eulogy part 2
All of the grandkids and great grandkids though it was the huge deal to finally be taller than Mom. They would all stand next to her and see if they were FINALLY taller than Grandma Stella. It really wasn’t that big of an accomplishment as Mom was only 5 feet tall.
I have absolute faith that Mom is in Heaven. She loved Jesus and truly believed in God and had accepted Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior. I know that Granny, Pappy, Charles, Samuel and Tim were there to meet Mom at Heavens Gate. What a joyous reunion!
To Those I Love And To Those Who Love Me”
When I am gone,
Release me, let me go
I have so many things to see and do.
You mustn’t tie yourself to me with tears;
Be happy we had so many years.
I give you my love,
You can only guess how much you gave to me in happiness.
I thank you for the love
You have shown me;
But now it’s time I travel alone.
So grieve a while for me,
If grieve you must.
Then let your grief be comforted by trust.
It’s only for a while that we must part,
So bless the memories within your heart.
I won’t be far away for life goes on.
So if you need me,
Call me and I will be near.
And if you listen with your heart,
You’ll hear
All my love around you,
Soft and clear.
And when you must come this way along,
I’ll greet you with a Smile,
And a “Welcome Home”.
She left an indelible mark on everyone she met and her loss will be felt for a long time to come.

I know that as I read this, we can feel Mom, she is listening with us, she is comforting us, she is living in us. Mom we do not say goodbye, we say see ya later. It is not good bye for we will meet again in Heaven.

Shirley Stine

November 18, 2020

Shirley Eulogy Part 1

Good Afternoon and thank you for coming to celebrate the life of our Mother Stella Messer. Today is also a day for memories, today will be remembered for many reasons, but mainly I hope it will be remembered by you all, as a very special day, a special day in which you shared some time with others; in order to pay our last respects; and to say both mentally and physically; a sad and fond farewell to a wonderful lady…. A lady whom we were all so very privileged to have known.
We have come together from different places, and we are all at different stages on our journey through life. Our paths are varied and we look at life in different ways. But there is one thing we all have in common, at one point or another, and to some degree or other, our lives have touched the life of Stella and she ours.
When Mom was born Franklin D Roosevelt was the President. Average annual salary was $1,780. A gallon of gas was $.10. A loaf of bread was $.09.
She was not afraid of getting into our chili!
Mom was little, but she was mighty. She was not afraid of getting into our chili! As a teenager, I had broken up with a boyfriend and he went to church on a Sunday morning crying on her shoulder about why did I break his heart……… I hadn’t gone to church that Sunday and when she came home, she was giving me the what for. Granny told her to hush. Evidently Mom had done something similar and a boy had went crying to Granny. Granny said what goes around comes around.
When my Mom met my husband Kemet for the first time, the house was a bit chaotic. My two younger male cousins were chasing each other with baseball bats and threatening to end one another so Mom of course had the door locked. I came in with my key and she said Hello Butthead. In came Kemet right behind me and Moms hand flew to her mouth and she blushed bright red. “I don’t normally talk like that!” Kemet and I still laugh about that to this day….

Angela Allen

November 17, 2020

My sympathies are with your family. I know Papa (Charles) always enjoyed Stella’s phone calls. That is a beautiful collection of photos and wonderful to see Papa smiling with Stella and family. Prayers for your family during this difficult time.

Messer Family

November 15, 2020

Mom at 21

Jim Davis

November 15, 2020

Stella was the daughter of my great aunt, Clarabelle Frady. Stella moved from North Carolina to California before I was born. While growing up, I remember visiting her and her family numerous times. She was a sweet and loving host. Her door and table were always welcoming and open to us. We shared many memories and laughter through the years and she will truly be missed.

My thoughts and prayers go out to her husband, Handy and their loving daughter’s Ann and Shirley.

Love,
Jim Davis & Family
Waynesville, NC

Harold Allen

November 14, 2020

I remember Stella beginning about 1950 in NC. After she moved with her family to California, I can count only about seven or eight times that I visited with her over the years including four times in Calif. So my most significant contacts with Stella was by phone in recent years. I found Stella to be a humble, sincere, loving and caring person. I feel she placed her own happiness and welfare second to others, especially to her family whom she loved so very much. May she be received into the arms of Jesus and may her heavenly rewards be great!

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Stella and her Mom, Clarabelle Frady

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