Marlene Joyce Impallaria
March 20, 1961 – April 26, 2021
Marlene Joyce (Gutowski) Impallaria, was called to heaven by our Lord after suffering with cancer on April 26, 2021 at 4:44 PM. Marlene just turned 60 years old. She was truly a living Saint, and like many saintly people she was called early to paradise.
Marlene was born and raised in Baltimore, Maryland. She was educated at Most Precious Blood Catholic Elementary School, The Catholic High School of Baltimore, and Villa Julie College in Greenspring Valley, Maryland. Marlene was a Court Reporter (machine stenographer), but retired from full-time work to be a Mom and Homemaker. Marlene, as an active and retired military spouse mentored many service members, spouses, and military children throughout the US and Internationally over the years. Most recently, Marlene was a Key Spouse Mentor at 21st CONS, US Space Force, Peterson Air Force Base, in Colorado Springs, acting as a mentor to younger active duty military families. She also worked at Hutzler Brothers Department Store, Johns Hopkins Hospital, and the 21st Air Base Group in Izmir, Turkey.
Marlene was a dedicated wife and mother first and foremost. She treasured her children and embraced every moment with them. She never missed a game, ballet recital, or any of her children’s events. Marlene supported her husband Joe in 36 years of marriage and for 31 years traveling around the world as an Army Officer’s wife. The Matriarch of the Impallaria family, she supported the children alone when Joe deployed twice to Iraq. Marlene was loved by everyone and has friends all over the world. She is the loving and devoted wife of Lieutenant Colonel (Retired) Joseph John Impallaria, Jr. and mother of Marlena Joyce Impallaria, Joseph John Impallaria, III, and daughter-in-law Masha Ilin Impallaria (attending Creighton University Medical School Omaha, Nebraska), and Dominic Anthony Impallaria, all currently residing in Colorado Springs, Colorado.
Loving daughter of the late Walter M. Gutowski and Joyce (Bonolis) Gutowski. Dear sister of Walter and wife Charlene Gutowski, Michael Gutowski, Paul Gutowski, Debbie (Gutowski) Trabing and husband Michael Trabing, and the late Wanda Gutowski. Daughter-in-law of the late Joseph John Impallaria, Sr. and Nancy (Pistorio) Impallaria. Sister-in-law to Ricky and wife Sheri Impallaria, Timmy and wife Kristi Impallaria, and Michelle (Impallaria) and husband Jack Urbanski, all of Baltimore Maryland, and many nieces & nephews.
Marlene was an avid downhill skier, hiker, white water rafter, biker, sung beautifully, and loved her Siberian Husky Aviani (Avi). She enjoyed Bible study with Joe and friends at Saint Paul’s Roman Catholic Church.
Marlene met Joe in what can only be described as a “Hallmark Movie Moment.” Joe entered the gymnasium of Archbishop Curley High School, an all-boys school, on February 5th 1977. He was with a group of friends, there were hundreds of High school girls. Joe asked his friends to pick the most beautiful girl at the dance and he would ask her to dance, they looked around and pointed to Marlene. Joe asked Marlene to dance and she accepted, for 44-years they were never separated. Marlene was a beautiful person in every way. Her radiant physical beauty was only exceeded by her saintly spiritual beauty.
For friends in Colorado Springs, there will be a Rosary Ceremony on Wednesday, May 12th, at 6:30PM, at St. Paul Catholic Church, 9 El Pomar Road, Colorado Springs. A Mass of Christian Burial will commence on Thursday, May 13th, at 3pm, at St. John Henry Newman Chapel, located on the UCCS Campus, at 4785 Stanton Road, Colorado Springs, CO. A reception will follow. Internment will take place at Pikes Peak National Cemetery, Department of Veteran Affairs (VA) 910545 Drennan Road, Colorado Springs, CO 80925,Monday, May 17th, at 9AM.
Everyone who knew Marlene, Joe, Marlena, Joseph, and Dominic are invited to a family and friends’ reception at the Chapel following the Funeral Mass on May 13th. You do not have to attend the church service or internment to come to the reception. The Impallaria family urge all friends to join us at the reception to celebrate Marlene’s life. Please do not send flowers to the family’s residence. Flowers can be sent to Swan-Law Funeral Directors, 501 North Cascade Ave, Colorado Springs. Please feel free to leave a condolence and memory on Marlene’s obituary page, for retention in the family book. You may also make a donation to the Fisher House Foundation at https://fisherhouse.org/ in Marlene’s name, please let me know if you do so. Fisher House Foundation builds comfort homes where military and veteran’s families can stay free of charge, while a loved one is in the hospital. These homes are located at military and VA medical centers around the world. Since inception, the program has saved military and veterans’ families an estimated $500 million in out of pocket costs for lodging and transportation. Marlene and I stayed at the Fisher House in Denver while she received treatments and was hospitalized. I resided in the Denver Fisher House for about 2 ½ months. It would have cost me approximately $10,000 to stay in a hotel or I would have had a 4 hour daily commute from Colorado Springs to Denver and back. While I could have afforded a hotel, many young soldiers, sailors, airman, coasties, or guardians as we are now referred to in the US Space Force, cannot afford lodging and often cannot be there to support a spouse or child. This a great organization, similar to Ronald McDonald House, but better.
Cards for the family can be send to: 5595 Jarman Street, Colorado Springs, CO 80906. Send text to 410-868-0026, e-mail to firstname.lastname@example.org
For Family and Friends in Maryland and the east coast, there will be a memorial service and family and friends reception at a time and place to be determined. The Impallaria family refuse at this time to be limited by mask or distance requirements. As soon as Maryland dispenses with those requirements we will plan the memorial and reception, hopefully sometime this summer.
Livestreaming Services can be accessed during the Funeral Mass on 5/13, 3PM Mountain Time. A link can be found next to the Funeral Mass listing on this obituary page. Please click "Join Livestream" to be brought to Swan-Law Funeral Directors page, where livestreaming will appear.
Thursday, May 13, 2021
Marlene Joyce Impallaria
Karen Fitzpatrick Tully
May 13, 2021
Marlene, beautiful inside and out. She never had a bad word to say about anyone. Marlene had a long term illness but she was so brave , never complained and it never stopped her living life to the fullest. The video was so touching , she beamed with happiness .
Joseph was surely her soul mate. She loved him and they were great together. Marlene knew just how to handle him “ Now Joe, “ and then smile .
Marlene proudly proclaimed, “ I never wanted a career , just to be a Mother and Wife.” She lived out that dream with her family. She loved her family so much. Marlena and her Mom weren’t just Mother & Daughter but best friends.
I admired Marlene for her kindness , at family gatherings we always talked and I’ll always miss her. She was a wonderful Catholic witness.
Marlene’s , husband Joe , children and God were her life . Marlene , Rest In Peace , my beloved cousin, until we meet again. Love Karen 🙏💕🙏
May 13, 2021
Aunt Marlene -- I am writing this still udderly baffled as to why such a good person was taken from the earth and our family so soon, but God has a plan for everyone and he must truly need your loving soul with him to help watch over the crazy world we find ourselves in today. I know everyone in our family finds comfort in the fact that we have one amazing guardian angel watching over us!
I am fortunate to have spent a bunch of time at your guys house during the years at Calvert Hall and I will never forget how loving and motherly you were. You always made me feel so "at home" when I was there and asked me questions about my day, just as you did Joseph. Honestly, I don't know if I ever saw you get mad. My last memory of you was when we FaceTimed and you got to meet our little baby Breelyn. You took a few screenshots during our call so you could have her saved in your phone and the huge smile on your face is the picture I'll forever have pop into my head when I think of you. You were a very special person that touched the lives of many in such a positive way and I'm grateful to be able to call you my Aunt Marlene. <3
With eternal love,
May 13, 2021
I first met Marlene at a 21 CONS Squadron picnic a few years ago. She was very friendly and we ended up seated at the same table. I could tell that the Impallarias were a very loving, close-knit family. She told me stories of her various travels, skiing, and Maryland crab cakes! I could easily see why she was a Key Spouse.
Romans 12:15 says “mourn with those who mourn”, so you have my heartfelt condolences. I’m truly sorry for your loss. May the Lord bless you and keep you, and may you find comfort and peace in the wonderful memories of all the good times you had together.
May 13, 2021
I am so sorry to hear of Marlene's passing. She was one of the nicest people I've ever met and exuded kindness in everything she said and did. I remember warmly all of the family events where I got to see her, Joe Jr., Marlena, Joseph, and Dominic over the years.
May 12, 2021
Dear Impallaria Family,
Words cannot even begin to express our sorrow with the passing of Marlene. Our deepest condolences to the entire Impallaria family. Marlene was an amazing mother-in-law to our daughter Masha and loving and kind mother for all her kids. She always put a smile on everyone's face and had the biggest heart. Her spirit and faith always gave us strength and hope. She was constantly so uplifting and always in a positive mindset. The entire Ilin family will always have so much love for Marlene and she will always be in our thoughts and prayers.
May 12, 2021
May 12, 2021
She was my aunt Marlene, and my godmother. Even though my uncle Joe’s job took them to different parts of the world/country, I was lucky to have her by my side during key milestones of my life. The first picture below shows how happy I was to have her by my side during my First Communion when I was in second grade.
There are many memories that I could mention but I’ll limit it to just a couple more. In high school I had the opportunity to see her more frequently as she would be at Calvert Hall often (probably dropping something off for Joseph) or at our sports games. Whatever it was, she was always there supporting Joseph, as well as my brother, myself, and even our friends. She treated all of as her own children which I will always remember and be forever grateful for.
Lastly, I wanted to leave the last picture I ever took with my aunt/godmother and her entire immediate family, plus my brother (this picture will be included in the next post above as it will only let me post one picture at a time). I will always cherish this moment/picture. I am truly honored to call you my aunt/godmother and I know that you will always look down on me and be my guardian angle.
May 12, 2021
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My apologies...here are the 3 pictures that didn't make it in my initial post...
May 12, 2021
I consider Marlene to have been a mentor and peaceful presence. She was so incredibly easy to talk to and I felt myself mentored as a mother. Her support was felt when our son had his cancer diagnosis last summer and how she always checked up on our family. With the birth of our youngest, I’ll forever treasure that evening when the Impallarias stopped by with gifts not just for the baby, but the other kids as well. To know my youngest was held by an angel will be a treasured memory we will hold on to. Thank you Impallaria family for sharing her with us.
May 12, 2021
When Walt & I met, Marlene & Joe were already dating for many years. Marlene welcomed me into the family with open arms. We were in each other's weddings and shared so many wonderful memories throughout the years. Even when their family moved around when Joe was in the military, Marlene would make a point to keep in touch which included many lengthy phone conversations.
- A visit they made to Baltimore when Marlena was a little girl. We had a delightful day and Marlena was wearing a pretty pink dress. We stopped for ice cream and Marlena was eating a chocolate ice cream cone that was quickly melting and then dripping on her dress. Marlene was not concerned with the mess it was making but just enjoyed watching the delight in Marlena's eyes as she ate her ice cream. (see picture below)
-Another trip they made to Baltimore when Joseph was about 6 months old. Marlene bought matching outfits for Joseph and our twin boys. When we went out, Marlene got a kick out of how people thought they were triplets. (see picture below)
- Marlene chasing after Dominic as he would run around with his long flowing hair and we would call him Fabio. (see picture below)
- When they moved back to Baltimore for a while, great memories of our kids going to school and playing sports together.
- All the happy holidays we got to spend together.
- The many delicious brunches together at the Officer's Club at Fort Meade. (see picture below)
- When they came back to Baltimore to visit after moving to Colorado, we would stay up until the wee hours of the morning talking.
Marlene had an unwavering Catholic faith which never faltered even as she was faced with battling aggressive cancer. Joe was the love of her life and she loved her kids immensely. She will be missed but will surely be smiling down on all of them. She will be their guardian angel.
May 12, 2021
My sister Marlene was a person who could light up a room with her smile and pleasant personality. From the time her siblings would excitedly race to retrieve the items she’d thrown from her playpen (she was the youngest of 5 kids separated by 3 1/2 years), to the beautiful sound of her singing voice, to her love and unfailing commitment to her family and friends, and a deep devotion to her faith -- Marlene had a special way of lifting the spirits of everyone around her.
As kids, seeing Marlene's excitement on Christmas morning as we all sat on the steps waiting to go see what Santa had left under the Christmas tree -- and looking for the presents hidden around the house after she learned the real deal; watching with pride as she won different awards for her baton and marching skills; watching her perform at tap and ballet recitals; singing songs together at home or in the car (well, she did most of the singing); watching our favorite TV shows, movies and our Colts and Orioles; and teaching her the rules and how to play different sports.
As adults, having Christmas and Easter dinners at Marlene's house and her family coming to our house for Thanksgiving; watching Austin, Ryan and Joseph play high school football, lacrosse and graduating together; walking along the waterfront in downtown Baltimore with Marlene and Joe and then having dinner together during their last visit to Baltimore; visiting with Marlene a couple days before she left us and giving her a picture of one of the happiest times we'd ever spent together. It was a picture of the two of us taken moments before Joseph and Masha's wedding -- pure joy.
Growing up, Marlene was always a "daddy's girl" and dad has already welcomed her to heaven with a big hug and kiss. And Marlene is lighting up God's house now, just like she did all of ours.
Love you always my "baby sis."
May 11, 2021
Before I joined my brothers in the Sinclair Lane back alley sports events organized primarily by Walt, I did a good bit of reading while sitting on my bed on the second floor. Sometimes I would take a break and walk about the house, look out the back window and observe the event Walt had organized, and then walk down to the basement where you and your friends played Barbies. I sat on the basement middle step sometimes and watched you organize the Barbie dolls and their furniture into pretend rooms, and listen to your explanations of the purpose of each room, and which doll should stand or sit or work in varied parts of the floor arrangement. I learned much how to share and work together from your example. Love Always, Mike.
May 11, 2021
Dear Joe and family,
I haven't written earlier because I guess you could say I'm stunned. I thought she was well on her way to full recovery. This is such a great loss of such a wonderful and beautiful mother who loved life, and adored you and your precious children. Life going forward will certainly be different and the holidays will never be the same! She was always so happy and joyful and loved to have guests and show her loving hospitality. To say I'm sorry is just not sufficient. Marlene was very special and no one can replace her uniqueness. Sending love and prayers now and always.
May 4, 2021
I have know Joe and his family since middle school and spent many nights sleeping over their house. Joe’s mom was one of the most genuine, sweet and kind souls I have met. She made you feel right at home and her motherly character was apparent with anyone who stepped foot inside their home. She will be dearly missed. “To be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord”. We will soon you again Mama Impalaria.
Love , Tyler DeYoung (long time friend of Joe and the family )
May 3, 2021
Dear Joseph and Family,
My heart goes out to you all on your lose of someone so dear. Marlene was a sweet and friendly person. Even when we didn't see each other for years at a time, she would always make you feel that you just saw her yesterday. I loved that about her. She will surely be missed. A donation will be made to the Fisher House Foundation in Marlene's memory.
May 2, 2021
We moved into our new house on Purple Sage Ct. in 1986 and Marlene and Joe moved in next door a few months later. Joe would drive up the cul-de-sac singing opera in his Alpha Romeo. I figured any woman who could tolerate that singing had to be worth getting to know. Marlene instantly became a best friend and I am thankful for so many memories as we started our military lives and families in Colorado Springs.
She will be missed greatly.
April 30, 2021
When I first met Marlene all I could think of was how strikingly beautiful she was. When I think of Marlene now all I can think of is the beautify of her heart and soul and her devoted love for her husband and children. Today there is an angel in heaven who is just as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside. Our hearts break for Joseph and her children.
With much sorrow,
Tina and Richard Orwig
April 29, 2021
I am so very sorry for your loss. The family are in my prayers.
I went to Catholic High with Marlene. She was my lab partner in IPS class. She was soooo smart and I struggled with that class and she always helped me without ever complaining. She was so kind and funny too. She was beautiful inside and out.
May she rest in peace.
April 29, 2021
My wife and i have been close friends with Joe and Marlene since we first met them at Fort Carson Colorado in 1987. We remember one of the best Christmas Celebrations ever with Joe and Marlene inviting us to share an Italian Christmas at their house with them and their extended family.
April 28, 2021
Mr. Joe, Marlena, Joseph, and Dominic,
Words can not express my extreme sorrow. Ms. Marlene has been a part of my life for the past 23 years and for that I am forever grateful. I can still hear her answering the phone or door “Kali sweetie, I will have Marlena call you back” or “hold on hon, Marlena, Kali is on the phone.” She became affectionately known as Aunt Marlene to my kids and has been there for everything from birthdays, to graduations, to weddings, births, and baptisms. To say I will miss her does not even begin to describe it, but I know she is waiting with open arms and enjoying the beauty around her. I am here for all of you; today, tomorrow, and for all the years ahead as you carry on the memory of the special person that you call wife and mom.