OBITUARY

Marlene Joyce Impallaria

March 20, 1961April 26, 2021
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Marlene Joyce (Gutowski) Impallaria, was called to heaven by our Lord after suffering with cancer on April 26, 2021 at 4:44 PM. Marlene just turned 60 years old. She was truly a living Saint, and like many saintly people she was called early to paradise.

Marlene was born and raised in Baltimore, Maryland. She was educated at Most Precious Blood Catholic Elementary School, The Catholic High School of Baltimore, and Villa Julie College in Greenspring Valley, Maryland. Marlene was a Court Reporter (machine stenographer), but retired from full-time work to be a Mom and Homemaker. Marlene, as an active and retired military spouse mentored many service members, spouses, and military children throughout the US and Internationally over the years. Most recently, Marlene was a Key Spouse Mentor at 21st CONS, US Space Force, Peterson Air Force Base, in Colorado Springs, acting as a mentor to younger active duty military families. She also worked at Hutzler Brothers Department Store, Johns Hopkins Hospital, and the 21st Air Base Group in Izmir, Turkey.

Marlene was a dedicated wife and mother first and foremost. She treasured her children and embraced every moment with them. She never missed a game, ballet recital, or any of her children’s events. Marlene supported her husband Joe in 36 years of marriage and for 31 years traveling around the world as an Army Officer’s wife. The Matriarch of the Impallaria family, she supported the children alone when Joe deployed twice to Iraq. Marlene was loved by everyone and has friends all over the world. She is the loving and devoted wife of Lieutenant Colonel (Retired) Joseph John Impallaria, Jr. and mother of Marlena Joyce Impallaria, Joseph John Impallaria, III, and daughter-in-law Masha Ilin Impallaria (attending Creighton University Medical School Omaha, Nebraska), and Dominic Anthony Impallaria, all currently residing in Colorado Springs, Colorado.

Loving daughter of the late Walter M. Gutowski and Joyce (Bonolis) Gutowski. Dear sister of Walter and wife Charlene Gutowski, Michael Gutowski, Paul Gutowski, Debbie (Gutowski) Trabing and husband Michael Trabing, and the late Wanda Gutowski. Daughter-in-law of the late Joseph John Impallaria, Sr. and Nancy (Pistorio) Impallaria. Sister-in-law to Ricky and wife Sheri Impallaria, Timmy and wife Kristi Impallaria, and Michelle (Impallaria) and husband Jack Urbanski, all of Baltimore Maryland, and many nieces & nephews.

Marlene was an avid downhill skier, hiker, white water rafter, biker, sung beautifully, and loved her Siberian Husky Aviani (Avi). She enjoyed Bible study with Joe and friends at Saint Paul’s Roman Catholic Church.

Marlene met Joe in what can only be described as a “Hallmark Movie Moment.” Joe entered the gymnasium of Archbishop Curley High School, an all-boys school, on February 5th 1977. He was with a group of friends, there were hundreds of High school girls. Joe asked his friends to pick the most beautiful girl at the dance and he would ask her to dance, they looked around and pointed to Marlene. Joe asked Marlene to dance and she accepted, for 44-years they were never separated. Marlene was a beautiful person in every way. Her radiant physical beauty was only exceeded by her saintly spiritual beauty.

For friends in Colorado Springs, there will be a Rosary Ceremony on Wednesday, May 12th, at 6:30PM, at St. Paul Catholic Church, 9 El Pomar Road, Colorado Springs. A Mass of Christian Burial will commence on Thursday, May 13th, at 3pm, at St. John Henry Newman Chapel, located on the UCCS Campus, at 4785 Stanton Road, Colorado Springs, CO. A reception will follow. Internment will take place at Pikes Peak National Cemetery, Department of Veteran Affairs (VA) 910545 Drennan Road, Colorado Springs, CO 80925,Monday, May 17th, at 9AM.

Everyone who knew Marlene, Joe, Marlena, Joseph, and Dominic are invited to a family and friends’ reception at the Chapel following the Funeral Mass on May 13th. You do not have to attend the church service or internment to come to the reception. The Impallaria family urge all friends to join us at the reception to celebrate Marlene’s life. Please do not send flowers to the family’s residence. Flowers can be sent to Swan-Law Funeral Directors, 501 North Cascade Ave, Colorado Springs. Please feel free to leave a condolence and memory on Marlene’s obituary page, for retention in the family book. You may also make a donation to the Fisher House Foundation at https://fisherhouse.org/ in Marlene’s name, please let me know if you do so. Fisher House Foundation builds comfort homes where military and veteran’s families can stay free of charge, while a loved one is in the hospital. These homes are located at military and VA medical centers around the world. Since inception, the program has saved military and veterans’ families an estimated $500 million in out of pocket costs for lodging and transportation. Marlene and I stayed at the Fisher House in Denver while she received treatments and was hospitalized. I resided in the Denver Fisher House for about 2 ½ months. It would have cost me approximately $10,000 to stay in a hotel or I would have had a 4 hour daily commute from Colorado Springs to Denver and back. While I could have afforded a hotel, many young soldiers, sailors, airman, coasties, or guardians as we are now referred to in the US Space Force, cannot afford lodging and often cannot be there to support a spouse or child. This a great organization, similar to Ronald McDonald House, but better.

Cards for the family can be send to: 5595 Jarman Street, Colorado Springs, CO 80906. Send text to 410-868-0026, e-mail to ozdere@aol.com

For Family and Friends in Maryland and the east coast, there will be a memorial service and family and friends reception at a time and place to be determined. The Impallaria family refuse at this time to be limited by mask or distance requirements. As soon as Maryland dispenses with those requirements we will plan the memorial and reception, hopefully sometime this summer.

Livestreaming Services can be accessed during the Funeral Mass on 5/13, 3PM Mountain Time. A link can be found next to the Funeral Mass listing on this obituary page. Please click "Join Livestream" to be brought to Swan-Law Funeral Directors page, where livestreaming will appear.

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Karen Fitzpatrick Tully

May 13, 2021

Marlene, beautiful inside and out. She never had a bad word to say about anyone. Marlene had a long term illness but she was so brave , never complained and it never stopped her living life to the fullest. The video was so touching , she beamed with happiness .

Joseph was surely her soul mate. She loved him and they were great together. Marlene knew just how to handle him “ Now Joe, “ and then smile .

Marlene proudly proclaimed, “ I never wanted a career , just to be a Mother and Wife.” She lived out that dream with her family. She loved her family so much. Marlena and her Mom weren’t just Mother & Daughter but best friends.

I admired Marlene for her kindness , at family gatherings we always talked and I’ll always miss her. She was a wonderful Catholic witness.

Marlene’s , husband Joe , children and God were her life . Marlene , Rest In Peace , my beloved cousin, until we meet again. Love Karen 🙏💕🙏

Ryan Gutowski

May 13, 2021

Aunt Marlene -- I am writing this still udderly baffled as to why such a good person was taken from the earth and our family so soon, but God has a plan for everyone and he must truly need your loving soul with him to help watch over the crazy world we find ourselves in today. I know everyone in our family finds comfort in the fact that we have one amazing guardian angel watching over us!
I am fortunate to have spent a bunch of time at your guys house during the years at Calvert Hall and I will never forget how loving and motherly you were. You always made me feel so "at home" when I was there and asked me questions about my day, just as you did Joseph. Honestly, I don't know if I ever saw you get mad. My last memory of you was when we FaceTimed and you got to meet our little baby Breelyn. You took a few screenshots during our call so you could have her saved in your phone and the huge smile on your face is the picture I'll forever have pop into my head when I think of you. You were a very special person that touched the lives of many in such a positive way and I'm grateful to be able to call you my Aunt Marlene. <3

With eternal love,
Ryan

Melaine Sodel

May 13, 2021

I first met Marlene at a 21 CONS Squadron picnic a few years ago. She was very friendly and we ended up seated at the same table. I could tell that the Impallarias were a very loving, close-knit family. She told me stories of her various travels, skiing, and Maryland crab cakes! I could easily see why she was a Key Spouse.

Romans 12:15 says “mourn with those who mourn”, so you have my heartfelt condolences. I’m truly sorry for your loss. May the Lord bless you and keep you, and may you find comfort and peace in the wonderful memories of all the good times you had together.

Melaine

Laura Bianca-Pruett

May 13, 2021

I am so sorry to hear of Marlene's passing. She was one of the nicest people I've ever met and exuded kindness in everything she said and did. I remember warmly all of the family events where I got to see her, Joe Jr., Marlena, Joseph, and Dominic over the years.

Andre Ilin

May 12, 2021

Dear Impallaria Family,

Words cannot even begin to express our sorrow with the passing of Marlene. Our deepest condolences to the entire Impallaria family. Marlene was an amazing mother-in-law to our daughter Masha and loving and kind mother for all her kids. She always put a smile on everyone's face and had the biggest heart. Her spirit and faith always gave us strength and hope. She was constantly so uplifting and always in a positive mindset. The entire Ilin family will always have so much love for Marlene and she ​will always be ​in our thoughts and prayers.

-Ilin Family

Austin Gutowski

May 12, 2021

Austin Gutowski

May 12, 2021

She was my aunt Marlene, and my godmother. Even though my uncle Joe’s job took them to different parts of the world/country, I was lucky to have her by my side during key milestones of my life. The first picture below shows how happy I was to have her by my side during my First Communion when I was in second grade.

There are many memories that I could mention but I’ll limit it to just a couple more. In high school I had the opportunity to see her more frequently as she would be at Calvert Hall often (probably dropping something off for Joseph) or at our sports games. Whatever it was, she was always there supporting Joseph, as well as my brother, myself, and even our friends. She treated all of as her own children which I will always remember and be forever grateful for.

Lastly, I wanted to leave the last picture I ever took with my aunt/godmother and her entire immediate family, plus my brother (this picture will be included in the next post above as it will only let me post one picture at a time). I will always cherish this moment/picture. I am truly honored to call you my aunt/godmother and I know that you will always look down on me and be my guardian angle.

Charlene Gutowski

May 12, 2021

Charlene Gutowski

May 12, 2021

Charlene Gutowski

May 12, 2021

My apologies...here are the 3 pictures that didn't make it in my initial post...

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