Sorry to hear about Tom’s death earlier this year.   

I was a botany major who took his music appreciation class in 1974 and enjoyed his sense of humor and was impressed by his vast knowledge of music.  He introduced me to Darius Milhaud’s La Creation Du Monde and shared some of his own compositions.  

He and I (and sometimes my girlfriend back then, Robin Louise Duke, a geology major) would often meet in the Chaffey College cafeteria, drink some kind of not-quite Orange Julius knockoff and talk about music and whatever was happening 46 years ago.

He was a sweet guy.


If I were to share the years of memories about Tom I would have to write a book. With that said, he was a sweet , funny, gentle man and I am so glad that I have been able to know him. Rest In Peace Tom. 

I will always remember the moments I spent with Tom.  He was an intelligent and caring person.  He was funny and had the greatest sense of humor.  He was a good friend and a great husband to Connie.  He will always be a part of my family's life.  Rest in peace, Tom.

Our Spirited Choir is so sorry for your loss!  Tom was a dedicated and passionate musician.  We enjoyed making music with him, both during mass and also the times he was able to join us at a nursing facility.  He was always smiling and being positive, even when his health was an issue.  I'm sure he is making music in heaven right now!!  God Bless you and your family during this difficult time, Paula Mendoza, Spirited Choir Director

Tom you leave the world a better place when I needed a friend so many years ago you were there.  I remember your wonderful music and how you loved to teach   I was happy for you when you remarried.  You were so looking forward to this marriage and composing your beautiful concert.   Your happiness shown   I send a tribute to a wonderful man and the most unforgettable absentminded professor I knew. May your family find peace in the knowledge of your goodness. With fond memories joanna

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Thomas Raymond De Dobay

May 19, 1943 – March 5, 2020

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