Pamela Ann Carlson

September 22, 1953October 29, 2018

Pamela Carlson, a longtime resident of Lindenhurst, L.I., passed on Monday, October 29th, at the age of 65 years.

Pam was born in Jamaica, Queens, to her parents, John and Anna Flynn. She was raised in West Islip, attending and graduating from West Islip schools. Pam met her future husband, Richard Carlson, in 1971 at the age of 19; and dated for many years prior to their being married in Our Lady of Lourdes Church in West Islip. They made their home in Lindenhurst where they raised their family. In her years of work, Pam enjoyed working in retail, spending many years with Target, where she retired as Manager. She cherished her family, enjoying spending time with her grandchildren.

Predeceasing Pam is her husband, Richard, and her father, John Flynn. Surviving is her mother, Anna Flynn; her children – her daughter, Regina Carlson, her daughter, Tina Bickmeyer and son-in-law, Warren; and her son, Shaun Carlson; her grandchildren – Krystena Carlson, Brianna Carlson and Lauren Bickmeyer; and her siblings – Debbie, Denise, Patricia, Patrick, Dennis and Donna.

Family and friends will gather at the funeral home on Friday, November 2nd, from 2-4:30 and 7-9:30 p.m. During the afternoon visitation hours, the Funeral Service will be offered by Father Fedelis of Our Lady of Perpetual Help R.C. Church of Lindenhurst. Cremation services are private.



  • First Visitation Friday, November 2, 2018
  • Second Visitation Friday, November 2, 2018


  • Private Cremation

Pamela Ann Carlson

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Kathy Wilson iddings

November 9, 2018

RIP Pam. You were a person I called friend for many years. My condolences to the family.

Denise Spencer

October 31, 2018

I don't have just one moment, but the memory of all the Christmas Eves spent with Pam and the family with Santa; the caravan road trips to go apple picking with everyone; the birthdays; the christenings, communions; all with Pam's sense of humor. When she had the stroke & we were sharing breakfast in rehab & playing yahtzee, I told her the one thing she was going to have the hardest time adjusting to was her trouble with her speech-since we all know how she liked to express herself-she laughed & shook her head in total agreement & then she said her favorite word (which we all know) & I knew Pam was still there. We will miss her.

marie dodd

October 31, 2018

Pam and I were best friends during our high school years. We also worked together in King Kullens in West Islip where we both remained for about 3 years, always laughing together. She married at 19 as did I and we lost touch with each other until one day about 2 years ago when I ran into her in Targets. We briefly caught up on our previous lives and exchanged phone numbers. We both enjoyed bowling in our high school years and decided to pick up where we left off and met every Friday to bowl and reminisce. We laughed and laughed during our bowling sessions and shared our lives experiences with each other. Work hours prevented us from continuing our weekly meetings and it wasn't until a few months ago that I heard from her sister Denise who informed me Pam had suffered a stroke. I am happy I went to see her in Huntington where she was being rehabilitated, never thinking it would be the last time I would see her. Unfortunately I never made it to her home to further our times together. But I can truly say I have the fondest of memories with Pam. I will miss her and her laughter terribly. I am happy and blessed to have known her. RIP Pam

Donna Bryant

October 31, 2018

I was on my way to the airport for my first flight alone to visit a dear friend in Florida. I spoke to Pamela and Patricia about how i was invited ( by my now husband of 30yrs.) to attend a wedding that VERY same weekend while enroute to JFK. We were just approaching Wellwood Avenue on Southern state pkwy. Pamela said what are you crazy? She went from the left lane across two lanes of traffic to get off the Wellwood Avenue exit. We went to her house, she coached me what to say to the airline to delay my flight ( without any fees!!) Then proceeded to coach me and had me call ED, so he could pick me up and take me to buy a dress and go to the wedding with him. The rest is history!! Thank you Pamela! Love you XO , you will be missed.