OBITUARY
John Michael Mader
October 16, 1925 – December 24, 2020
John M. Mader, age 95, of DeSoto, TX passed away December 24, 2020 at St. Joseph Village in Coppell, TX with his oldest daughter Kathleen Grondin at his side. He was born in Dedham, Iowa to Franz Xavier and Lillian (Hagen) Mader, the fifth of 6 children. John enlisted in the U.S. Army in 1947 and met his wife Alice F. Clampet in 1952 while they both served at William Beaumont Hospital on Ft. Bliss, El Paso, TX. John served 2 tours in Korea, a tour in France, and was also stationed in California, Michigan, and Texas during his military career. He retired from the Army in 1967 after 20 years of service. John was introduced to computers while in the Army and continued in this field as a civilian, working for the Army and Air Force Exchange Service (AAFES) for 23 years, including a 6-year stint in Anchorage, AK. He retired as a computer programmer from AAFES in Dallas, in 1990. During his retirement, John volunteered his time with the St. Vincent de Paul Society at St. Francis of Assisi Catholic Church in Lancaster, TX (where he was a parishioner for 35 years), and with Meals on Wheels and the DeSoto Independent School District. Throughout most of his life John was an avid bowler and took up Bridge and Pinochle during his retirement years, but he was best known for his love of team sports. He is preceded in death by his wife of 48 years, Alice, by his four brothers, August Mader, Paul Mader, George Mader, and Frank Mader, and his sister, Frances Badder. Survivors include his six children, Kathleen Grondin, Rose Marie Abbott (Mitch), Mary Ellen Muehlstein (Scott), Michael Mader (Sonia), Theresa Mader (Dan) and Mark Mader (Kim), 18 grandchildren, 15 great grandchildren and a large extended family of nieces and nephews. The family will hold a private Mass of Resurrection at St. Ann’s Catholic Church in Coppell, TX for immediate family with live streaming capability on Thursday, Jan 14th at 10:00 a.m. In lieu of flowers, donations can be sent to the St. Vincent de Paul Society c/o of St. Francis of Assisi Catholic Church (1537 Rogers Ave Lancaster, TX 75134), or your local Meals on Wheels.
DONATIONS
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St. Vincent de Paul Society c/o St Francis of Assisi Catholic Church
1537 rogers Ave, Lancaster, Texas 75134
- Your Local Meals on Wheels
Services
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Visitation
Wednesday, January 13, 2021
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Rosary Service
Wednesday, January 13, 2021
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Funeral Mass
Thursday, January 14, 2021
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Committal Service
Thursday, January 14, 2021
Memories
John Michael Mader
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ADD A MEMORYMary Ellen (Mader) Muehlstein
January 16, 2021
Dad taught all six of us kids to drive in our 1967 Chevrolet Bel air station wagon. My brother Michael and I happened to be close enough in age that Dad decided to teach us together. He often took us across the street from our house in Alaska ( in the Mormon Church parking lot) to drive around, practice parking and "do donuts" if there was snow or ice. When Michael was behind the wheel, Dad sat back, calm as can be, reading the newspaper while he went through the driving instructions. When it came to me, Dad sat as close as he possibly could---just in case he might need to grab hold of the steering wheel, or pump the brakes! I remember being in tears most days after our driving lessons. I thought he believed I was automatically not as good of a driver as my brother, because I was a girl. But Dad of course was right to be extra cautious...One of the first times I took that station wagon out for a drive on my own, after I had my license, I backed right into our yard fence! I may have added my dent to that car---but I wasn't the only one who did!
Michelle Browning
January 16, 2021
When I think of Grandpa, I will always remember:
Christmas on Mantlebrook, and reading "Twas the night before Christmas" (which will now forever hold a special meaning and remembrance)
Playing cards and eating snacks (nuts, popcorn, chips and dip)
Scruffy beard (his 5 o'clock shadow) and bear hugs
"See my finger... See my thumb...see my fist? You'd better run!"
Telling me I had a good pitch at age 7 or 8 (maybe an untapped talent)
Communicating to me shortly after the stroke that he could still read and understand, but he couldn't say his words
Piles of magazines on the coffee table
Night owl
Lemonade
Teaching me about "empty calories" after I attested to my second stomach just for dessert
Batteries in the freezer (and the tongue test)
Spring Creek Barbeque (presumably a favorite because of the coupon)
Pepper
Picture of the Pope at the entrance, Bless Us O Lord by the kitchen table
"Happy Birthday" (we visited to celebrate his birthday after his stroke, and he always clearly said and sang the song along with us)
Theresa Mader
January 16, 2021
Here is a "post stroke" memory.
While I was staying with Dad a few months after his stroke, the Wednesday paper came with all the grocery store inserts. At the end of lunch I told Dad we probably needed to go shopping on Thursday and said he should look through the inserts to see what was on sale and what we should buy, thinking he would only look at the Tom Thumb insert. After 45 minutes I was wondering what he was doing. When I checked he was trying to make a list and having great difficulty, so I suggested he just circle the items. Another 45 minutes later he was done. It was then that I realized he had gone through Tom Thumb's, Kroger's, Albertson's, Sprouts' and ALDI's advertisements.
I wasn't sure if he wanted to go to all 5 stores or if he was just marking items he wanted. Yep, he wanted to go to all 5 stores. So we did. He even told me which order we should hit them. Four hours later we were done. After the first three stores (Albertson's, Sprouts and Aldi) he indicated that we should go home. I thought we were done for the day. NOPE. He was worried about the milk we bought and thought we should put it in the refrigerator! After the groceries were put away he looked at me with a gleam in his eyes and said "ready"? So off to Tom Thumb and Kroger's we went.
Michelle Browning
January 13, 2021
I know I didn't visit or call as often as I should or could have. I know Grandpa delighted in visits from us all. Christmas eve, when I didn't realize what was imminent, we blessed our food, and I had a beautiful memory of Grandpa come to mind: While I was co-oping, I occasionally visited Grandpa. On one of those occasions, he had made me a steak dinner with potatoes and corn. It was a beautiful gesture made with so much love. Sometimes there was an awkward silence, not knowing what to talk about, but we both enjoyed our time together.
Another somewhat timely memory is New Year's Eve 2003 (ringing in 2004). I was staying at Grandpa's as I transitioned from college to career in the area. Grandpa was celebrating playing cards with friends. I couldn't help but wonder if he was ok when it got to be well past midnight (probably near 1 am) before he got home... You'd think it would be the other way around!
I love you Grandpa!
Kathy G
January 13, 2021
As I was leaving for college for the first time, Dad hugged me, told me he loved me, and said "Have fun." What?? Have fun?? Not "study hard," or "get good grades," or "be careful," or "stay out of trouble," but "Have fun." I guess he knew that's what I needed to hear.
Rose Marie Abbott
January 12, 2021
Dad's love of sports carried over into his Speech Therapy after he had his stroke in 2013. That October, I was in Texas visiting him and he was following some baseball games between his favorite team, the Cardinals and the team, Janie, his speech therapist, was rooting for. One day, when it was time to get ready for his speech therapy appointment, Dad seemed to be taking an extra long time to get ready. When he came out of his bedroom, he had his St. Louis Cardinal's baseball cap on along with his Cardinals' jacket. The Cardinals had beat Janie's favorite team the night before and he was prepared to communicate this victory, if not in words, certainly in bold gestures! Janie let out a big laugh when he arrived for his appointment, as did I when I saw Dad exit his bedroom that day. What impressed both Janie and I was how well he put all of this playful communication and humor together. He was attentively following the match up, keeping track of who was winning, coming up with a plan to communicate that the Cardinals had won the night before! The executive brain functions that he used in this one simple gesture were extraordinary for someone who was recovering from a stroke. On that warm October day, he hit one out of the ball park in the World Series of rehab!
Rose Marie Abbott
January 12, 2021
Road trips were a recurring event when we were growing up in a Military family. I remember that Dad would keep a bag of lemon drops next to him while we drove onto the next transfer station. Fast forward to when Dad was well into his 80's, during a phone conversation, Dad told me he was going on a road trip to San Antonio from DeSoto. I asked him if he was going to bring some lemon drops. He asked why and I told him I remembered that he always had lemon drops next to him when we traveled. I also gently suggested that he bring that cell phone that was always on the kitchen counter. A week later, I returned home from work and there was a message on my phone recorder: "This is Dad. Nothing wrong. Just calling to let you know that I made it home ok. I brought some lemon drops and that phone. Ok. Nothing wrong. This is Dad." I was surprised he took me up on my suggestions but more touched that he called to let me know he arrived home safely.
Dad was an easy traveler. For his 80th birthday, several of us took Dad to Arizona for Spring Training. Kathy, Michelle, Mitch and I took a side trip with him to the Grand Canyon with a stop in Sedona. In 2003, he came up to Tacoma with Katie and he went with the flow again, taking a ferry to Victoria, Canada, taking in the sights of Seattle and a baseball game, going on a picnic. He stopped in Tacoma a few years later on his way back from Alaska after a visit with Michael. It was also fun to meet up with Dad in Las Vegas when Matthew got married. Good times, Dad...thanks for the memories.
Mark Mader
January 12, 2021
Dad was very shy and humble. He always enjoyed company but was not comfortable carrying a conversation. He enjoyed listening to conversation especially if it was lively but seldom participated unless it was to laugh.
We would watch sports together - sometimes without many words being spoken. It was comforting being in the same room and quietly watching with him.
He always lit up when he saw his grandchildren and great grandchildren. He would let them sit on his lap, read stories, lift them up upside down, lift them onto his feet, play “tummy muscles”, piggy back rides, etc. With Justin, the rougher the better. Annamarie would run to him as soon as she would see him. She did not talk much as a toddler and they would often just sit together quietly with no words being spoken.
Mark Mader
January 12, 2021
Dad was a good athlete and believed in staying fit. He was an avid bowler with a very strong average and enjoyed his men’s league and a mixed league with Mom. I watched him play baseball once while we lived in Alaska. It was on one of the opening days for Little League, and he got recruited to fill in for a Dad’s vs Boys game for one of the upper leagues – probably the Babe Ruth league. I remember being impressed with his athleticism. He was really good but very raw. Probably from never being coached. I think he played some form of ball at the orphanage. I remember when he was fixing (sewing up) one of my baseballs he told me that they only had one ball and one of the nicer nuns would sew it back up for them when it would split its seams. (I asked him about this later, when I was an adult, and he couldn’t remember. So maybe I just imagined this.)
He always made time when I asked him to play catch or work on my baseball skills. Toward the end of the sessions he would throw pretty hard at me – grounders, line drives etc. I remember the strings on my mitt snapped once and the ball hit me in the chest. Another time the ball went off my knee and bounced all the way back to him. I remember my sisters being concerned for me, but it made me better. In retrospect it built courage not only in sports but in life. I got him back though……he was 80. I was working with Justin on T-ball in my yard. Dad picked up a mitt and we started to throw. I was impressed with how much pop he had in his arm and began throwing a little faster just to see what he still had. He missed catching one and it hit him in the chest. That’s when I remembered he just had cataract surgery and his vision wasn’t all there.
Scott Muehlstein
January 11, 2021
Dad ( Grandpa John) and I shared a love for sports and especially the St. Louis Cardinals. As a gift for his 80th birthday, I took Dad to a Cardinals game in Houston against the Houston Astros. After the game we came back to my family's farm in Moulton and spent the night.---Dad enjoyed riding around the farm with me and checking our pastures for new baby calves.
I knew every time we visited Dad, I could stay caught up on games, because he was sure to have the Sports channels on. I couldn't ever get Dad to love the Aggies quite the way I do, though.
Mary Ellen Mader
January 11, 2021
I remember being very young ( 3 or 4) and walking...or rather "flying" to Mass with Dad, which must have been just around the corner from our house in Michigan. His pace was pretty fast and I had to do two or three running steps in between to keep up. I'm guessing he was trying to get back home so that Mom could go to Church next. With five little ones, they sometimes traded off, so that someone was home with the babies.
More recently, I enjoyed walking with Dad to Mass at the St. Joseph's Chapel. He attended every day as long as he was physically able. I always felt a little closer to God when I was with Dad at Mass.
Some other memories and images that come to mind...
Dad kept everything---most especially cards and letters and photos of family and grandchildren...
Receiving very thoughtful thank you notes in his beautiful hand writing...
Talking to Dad on Sept. 11 after the towers fell--- He had already been through so much personally, and with our country in his lifetime--somehow his voice was just what I needed
Growing up we noticed that Dad liked Tabasco sauce on just about everything---The last few years, Tabasco was replaced with ketchup
Dad was so good about playing with and including everyone--sometimes the neighbor kids in Michigan would come
to the house and ask if Johnny could come out to play
Vacations as a family to Hawaii ( where we all got badly sunburned) and to Disneyland---it couldn't have been easy to take a family with six children to either one
Mader mania---very creative emails and nicknames for the participants--the last email came the night before his stroke
Dancing with mom to "Elvira"
Fixing things with duck tape and rubber bands
His hearty laugh---especially with the grandkids or during one of his favorite shows---The Tonight Show, All in the Family, and later on--Everyone loves Raymond
Dad in his chair reading the Sunday paper
Saying goodbye at the door of St. Joseph's and Dad waving and saying "Adios"
Michael Mader
January 10, 2021
Dad was as wise as a philosopher, but more practical. From him I learned, “It takes just as long to hang it up on a coat hanger as it does to throw it on the floor,” and, “You better come big, or stay at home”. As a child, when I or one of my siblings was frustrated with a rule established by Mom and wondered why we should have to follow it, his simple response settled it immediately, “Because she’s your mother.”
From Dad I learned how to: bowl, play cards, drive a car, shop for groceries, have integrity, respect women, participate at Mass especially with my voice, shut up and listen, love my wife and my children, make tacos, support my employer even if I didn’t always agree with my employer, and persevere.
Ethan Muehlstein
January 6, 2021
I have many beautiful memories with Grandpa. Some general ones include learning his skills (or potentially sly tactics) during card games --I never could confirm if he counted cards or not, but either way he was a strong opponent! I enjoyed
conversations over meatless spaghetti during Lent -- and learned to somehow enjoy that meal :) I also was fortunate enough to enlist Grandpa's help for a project during my first semester at Notre Dame, and because of this, I was able to gain insight into his more personal thoughts. One of the more recent times I got to visit him, Aunt Theresa and Uncle Dan helped to arrange a small photo shoot -- this day was peaceful and joyful, truly splendid. I will cherish those photos I have with him. Grandpa was a kind, thoughtful, and compassionate man, and every time I was around him, I learned from him.
To: Grandpa
From: Ethan Muehlstein [Ethan.T.Muehlstein.1@nd.edu]
Sent: Tue 10/13/2015 10:17 PM
Happy birthday Grandpa! I hope you enjoy your birthday! I love you so much, and I thank you for everything you have done. You are such an inspiration of how to live life guided by the faith. Sometimes I forget to appreciate and center my actions around Christ, but you have always been a model of who I can follow. Your actions of love are truly what made me choose to go to Notre Dame and to look for careers that address fundamental social issues. I learned from you that my faith and my life are not mutually exclusive, but they are mutually collaborative. Every human deserves love, and you have so graciously and so generously given your love to anyone you encounter, and I hope I can love as much as you! Love you Grandpa!
Ethan
David Mader
January 3, 2021
I always had wished there wasn't so many miles between us. It would have been fun to spend more time together. I'm so glad we made it to the last family get together. That was a great time I'll never forget. This is truly the end of a great family generation. Rest in peace John, and say hi to my dad. He's kind of new up there .