Arlene Brody Kaplan
October 18, 1942 – May 10, 2020
Arlene Brody Kaplan passed away peacefully in her sleep at her Newport Beach home on May 10, 2020. She was a loving mother and grandmother, who found joy in visiting and spending time with her family and friends.
Arlene’s memory is cherished by so many as a role model who battled cancer with unparalleled grace, courage, and integrity -- never allowing it to define her or her spirit. Arlene’s lasting impact is also felt by her clients and co-workers, who she worked tirelessly for and with as a tax preparer over nearly 30 years.
Arlene is survived by her sons Ross and his wife Leslie, Seth, Michael and his wife Betsy, and Everett and his wife Tosha. She is also survived by her loving grandchildren Reed, Cole, Hannah, Ally, Talus, and Beckett. Also, Arlene is survived by her sisters Jackie and her husband Paul, Lois, as well as her nieces Rachel and Stacy.
Arlene’s family has appreciated the outpouring of condolences and well wishes. Unfortunately, the family is unable to accept or receive plants, flowers, or other packages. As an expression of sympathy, donations would be welcomed to the Rabbi's Discretionary Fund at Congregation B'nai Israel. Please use this link: https://www.cbi18.org/donate/
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Arlene Brody Kaplan
May 20, 2020
I was deeply saddened by the passing of my very dear friend, Arlene. It did seem fitting that it occurred on Mother's Day. She epitomized the ultimate loving mother and grandmother and was so treasured by her sons and grandchildren.
Arlene and I first met when our sons were in elementary school and then we reconnected many years later.
She made such a wonderful difference in my life and so many lives. Her sweet smile always made everyone feel better. Her kind, caring and supportive nature was especially appreciated after the loss of my husband, Tom. Her strength, her wise advice, her positive attitude will always be an inspiration to me. I am grateful for her friendship and treasure the happy times we spent together: concerts, operas, fun restaurants, visits over coffee, nearly daily phone calls or texts as we shared the latest family news and photos.
To Ross, Seth. Michael and Everett, my sons Doug, Brad, Chris and Brooke and I send our prayers and blessings.
With much love,
May 17, 2020
I am so saddened to hear of Arlenes passing. She was most definitely a fighter till the very end. Arlene was my American grandma. Her British family loved her so much and she was so special to us.
I Remember when I Was around 10 years old, me and my sister flew from London to Newport to stay with Arlene for a week. We had the best week and filled with the most wonderful memories, she made sure that we had the most amount of fun always feeding us with all the American candy that hadn’t quite reached England yet ! I could always count on a social media “like” from Arlene, always rooting for me. Love and miss you Arlene xxx
Maria and Nick Doucet
May 16, 2020
I am deeply sorry for the loss of your mother . I did not know Mrs. Arlene but I can only imagine what a wonderful person she must have been to have raised such amazing children . She has instilled in them quality of life traits such as loyalty , generosity and kindness to others . Through life’s adventures, experiences are enhanced by having friends to share life’s moments with . My life has been enriched with the friendships that were only possible through Mrs.Arlene’s being as a mother , delivering her legacies to this world . When you are sorrowful , in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight . As we mourn the loss , celebrate her life and the positive influence she leaves behind . You remain in our thought and prayers .
May 14, 2020
So sorry to hear about Ms. Arlene's passing. I hope that the many memories that y'all have as a family help at this time and in the future. I will have the family in my thoughts and prayers. Love to all.
May 13, 2020
I will sorely miss my friend Arlene Brody Kaplan. She was such a classy lady....
May 13, 2020
I remember the first time I met Ms Arlene was at her home near Ross and Leslie’s wedding. I was wondering what she thought about all the Cajuns pouring in and being loud, but she absolutely loved it. She was always ready to take on anything and when you spoke to her she gave you all her attention and energy. She made you feel like the most important person in the world. I love the memories I have of spending time with her in Newport Beach. One summer, Brad and I were only there for 2 weeks and she was signing us up for summer camps. She didn’t want anyone to miss an opportunity. I just love that about her. She always wanted the very best for everyone.
Johanna Kellman Stewart
May 12, 2020
I was so saddened to hear of Arlene's passing. I know she had been fighting the disease for many years.
I remember Arlene from several Tobor family events and always looked forward to visiting with her. She
was a beautiful and elegant woman and will be missed. I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and
sympathies are with you.
Johanna ( Bernice and Julie's daughter)
May 12, 2020
I was always amazed at how she handled her illness. She never complained to me about it. Even the last conversation we had when I said “we are like energizer bunnies we always pop back up” & she said in that strong, lovely voice of hers “yes we do.” So I have no doubt that she is one of the angels in heaven bringing positivity to anyone that needs it. ❤️ Sylvia Triche
May 12, 2020
I first met Arlene at Temple Etz Chiam preschool My kids and Ross and Leslie’s boys were in the same classes. Arlene was there for a performance of some sort and I asked her if she had to drive up twice to see each grandchild perform. She corrected me by saying “I GET to drive up twice. “ I’ll never forget that exchange. She loved those boys so fiercely. I also remember her saying she just wanted to be at their Bar Mitzvahs. Well, she definitely met and exceeded that goal!! On behalf of our family, I send my heartfelt condolences to Arlene’s friends and family.
May 12, 2020
I was so sorry to hear of Arlene's passing.
Many years ago when Reed, Cole and my boys were quite young we all took a trip to the San Diego Zoo during the Tobor Family Reunion. I remember walking beside Leslie as we watched the rest of you walk ahead. Your mom was in the middle surrounded by her sons. The love and protection you felt towards her was palpable and I hoped that one day my son's would feel the same devotion and that I would have the same elegance as Arlene. She told me she took all of you to the zoo when you were little and I asked how she kept track of all of you. I was always exhausted looking out for my two boys.
"Oh," you all laughed, "Michael got left a lot."
"What did you do?" I asked Michael.
He shrugged, "I learned to read a map."
In that moment your mom taught me to let go of my worries. She taught me not to let my fears keep my children from experiences. That, like Michael, they will learn the skills to survive.
May she be a blessed memory.
Love, Rachel Wineberg, Mark, Zev and Liam Kaufman
May 11, 2020
Please accept our sincerest condolences on the passing of you Mom. Arlene was such a great lady. I have fond memories of her when I was very young, hanging out with my three cousins. Later on, I was always impressed with her strength and ability to laugh when I might not have expected her to be able to. She always seemed to have time to see what others were up to, and to post a nice comment on social media or email. It was nice knowing she cared. Arlene Kaplan, you will be missed!
Rich & Debbie Zogaric
Jenny, Jill, Jamie, Jessica