Carmela "Millie" Santisi

May 28, 1929February 14, 2021

Loving Wife, Mother, Mother-n-law, Sister, Daughter, Grandmother, Great-Grandmother, Aunt and Friend.

Carmela “Millie” Santisi, 91, passed away peacefully, surrounded by family and loved ones on February 14, 2021 in Newport Beach, California. Services will be private. The interment will follow at Holy Cross Cemetery in North Arlington, New Jersey.

Millie was the daughter of the late Marco and Vita Basile. She was born and raised in Brooklyn, New York where Millie met and married the love of her life, Anthony “Tony” Santisi. Together they welcomed five blessed children; Patrick, Michael, Anthony, Sandra and Rita. Her love for Tony and their children along with her profound faith were the admirable cornerstones of her life and would be the building blocks from which her family would find inspiration. They continued this inspiration when Tony and Millie were again blessed with welcoming the joyous gift of grandchildren into their lives. As grandparents they experienced a special bond with their grandchildren who became the center of their world.

If love could be produced into a tangible symbol, it would be her love of cooking for family and friends that would show how she communicated her unconditional love. Her delicious food was the centerpiece of many family gatherings from which wonderful memories are now held dear to all those who were blessed to be seated at her table. Millie was also a trade seamstress and the family tailor. Her sewing machine was one of her most cherished possessions.

The years after the death of her beloved Tony were difficult, but Millie was determined to continue living. She bravely moved from New Jersey to California and embraced a new life. Millie became an avid volunteer in her community and dedicated her time at St. Nicholas Church. She used her God-given talent as a seamstress to make clothes for children in need. She also volunteered during the week at the Florence Sylvester Senior Center and became an active volunteer in the kitchen as well as to the Meals on Wheels program. Millie was humbled to be honored with the award and title of Ambassador of all of the Orange County Age Well Senior Centers. Her acceptance speech received a standing ovation; inspiring many seniors within the community to become active in volunteer work. This award was one of her proudest moments showing her strong determination to continue living and making a difference during the second half of her life.

At the young age of 88, Millie retired from volunteering and was ready to again challenge herself and open new doors with the a change to move into assisted living. She lived to continue enjoying life, interacting with new friends and being an eager participant in the many activities. Her legendary wit and strong determination continued to persevere even after Millie was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. Her Catholic faith and devotion to the Blessed Mother was the foundation that wove together all of her journeys. She was a wonderful role model to all those whose lives she touched from family member to caretaker. Millie would always offer guiding words to all soles in her life.

Carmela was pre-deceased by her husband Tony and her son Patrick. She is survived by her daughter-in-law Eileen, her son Michael and his wife Christina, her son Anthony and his wife Esther Marie, her daughter Sandra, her daughter Rita Purcell and her husband Michael. She is also survived by four grandchildren, Brian and his wife Jerku, Nicholas, Jeremiah Mullins and his wife Madison, Anthony Mullins and also her grand-dogs Abbey and Annie Purcell. Carmela is survived by one precious great-grandchild, Maya Mullins.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to The Women’s Alzheimer’s Movement In memory of Carmela Santisi

Mail Messages to: Santisi Family 2618 San Miguel Drive, #1133 Newport Beach, CA 92660

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May God Bless You All with Good Heath and Happiness.

Private Services.


Carmela "Millie" Santisi

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Anna Bautista

March 6, 2021

Millie was one of my fun, loving, sweet, kind hearted client, she gets feisty at times but in a loving and fun way. She has a very good sense of humor that comes out naturally, she’s an amazing person and I was very fortunate to have met her and her family and be a part of her care team. Millie and I had so much fun on our trips to the mall, cinema, lunch with her family and our walks on the beach watching the sunset. She loves nature and appreciate all the beautiful things God created. I gained a little bit of weight when I was working with Millie as she gives me food whenever she eats😊 She doesn’t like it when she’s eating all by herself, she would even share her plate with me so I would eat to make sure I don’t get hungry on my shift. She was very generous and treats her caregivers as a part of her family. I am forever grateful for all the generosity and kindness of Millie and her whole family. She will be deeply missed!! I love you Millie❤️ May our good Lord embrace you when you enter His Kingdom, what a remarkable life!!❤️

Estela Mancilla

March 4, 2021

Wow Rita ..May Millie rest in peace ❤️..Millie was a very loving lady . When I had the chance to see the softer side of her I understood why you guys love her so much even her toughness is impressive , and will always love her stories . I had such great time going in those long drives with Millie . I enjoyed her company very much . Rita, you’re such a great daughter too . You were always so attentive to your mom’s needs and very loving to her. She was so proud of all you guys and grandchildren. We would have conversations of all the adventures you guys went too. .Thank you so much Rita seriously you guys made me feel so loved and welcomed. I will always remember her with a warm heart . I miss you guys. Take care of your loving Family.
Love and Gratitude,
Estela Mancilla

Brooke Mccullough

February 21, 2021

I did not have the pleasure of knowing Millie for very long but the few times I was blessed by her presence she was always so kind and easy to talk to. I’d come and pick up Abbey and Annie for their walk and Millie and I would chat in the yard as she was relaxing and reading. I caught her cooking a couple times when I came by and the house always smelt so inviting. I could tell she was very passionate about her cooking. I remember thinking WOW what a gift to be able to do that. May she Rest In Peace and continue cooking with her Tony again.

Santina Santisi Arito

February 21, 2021

My deepest condolences to my cousins and families.
My Aunt Millie opened up her house and took care of my sister Rose and myself for three months when we first came to America. Aunt Millie taught us the alphabets before we started school in this country. We spent many holidays together, and summer vacation in Shirley Long Island with the family. She was a giving person she bought my two daughters their cabbage dolls when you couldn’t find them anywhere.
Her passing has resurged these and many more memories that I hold dear.
Your loving niece
Sandra 🙏🙏🙏

Nicole Welsh

February 18, 2021

I will always remember the special times at your house as a child in Brooklyn. The sleepovers and pool parties your mom always made extra special with her delicious food....and tolerating all the noise we made!! Cherished childhood memories.
Sending love and strength to you and your family during this difficult time.
Love you old friend.

Theresa Taormina-Fragale

February 17, 2021

Please accept my sincerest condolences to you and your family on the passing of your beautiful Mother.
You and your family were so blessed to have had such a special person in your lives.
Keeping you in my prayers. May she rest in eternal peace.
With love, Theresa xxo