Brenda Jean Douglas

Brenda Jean Douglas was born in Regina, Saskatchewan, in 1944 to John and Vera McRadu. She grew up alongside her older sister, Marlene, and from an early age showed the strength, independence, and determination that would define her life. Brenda passed away on December 27, 2025, in Comox, British Columbia.

Brenda was the matriarch of our family. She was the center of our world and the steady force around which everything revolved. She was the one who fixed what was broken. If something went wrong, Brenda handled it. If someone was hurting, she protected them. And if you crossed her, you quickly learned it wasn’t something that passed quickly. She was fiercely loyal, deeply protective, and stubborn in the way only someone who loves completely can be.

Brenda was strong in every sense of the word. She was mentally and emotionally resilient, choosing self reliance over complaint and action over worry. She faced life head on, trusted her instincts, and carried herself with quiet resolve. She was outspoken when it mattered, and sometimes when it didn’t, never afraid to say what needed to be said. Her honesty was direct, her standards clear, and her presence impossible to ignore.

Independence defined Brenda. She trusted herself and met challenges head-on. She raised three boys and one girl through years filled with stress, worry, and responsibility, often without the quick reassurance that her kids were okay and safe. This sometimes meant sleepless nights and racing concern. Still, she showed up every single day. Dinner was on the table every night, a real dinner, with salad, dessert, and enough food to feed growing boys who never seemed full. It wasn’t easy, but it was non-negotiable. That table was where she gathered her family, grounded them, and made sure they were cared for.

Alongside raising her family, Brenda built a successful career. She worked at the Royal Bank while raising four children and later became a highly successful real estate agent. She brought the same determination, work ethic, and people skills to her career that she did to every part of her life.

She was also physically strong. Brenda was well known for winning just about every arm-wrestling challenge that came her way, often surprising anyone brave enough to test her. Strength wasn’t something she talked about. It was simply who she was.

Brenda was a devoted wife to her husband, Don, an RCMP officer. Together, they moved throughout British Columbia, raising their family in new communities along the way. No matter where they landed, Brenda had a remarkable ability to make each new place feel like home, creating stability, warmth, and a sense of belonging wherever we lived.

Even in her final weeks and days, that strength never left her. Nurses affectionately described her as “spicy,” and up until her last breath, she fought like the warrior she was. That determination and fire defined her to the very end.

Brenda and her husband built a family rooted in love, balance, and trust. Her children felt loved without being smothered, cared for without it becoming overbearing, and trusted to be independent and grow into strong adults. The extraordinary memories her family holds are a reflection of who she was and the life she helped create.

Brenda is survived by her husband, Don; her children, Scott, Brad, Paul, and Jennifer; her grandchildren, Braden, Trentin, Jesse, Myles, Reese, Tynan, Kalliana, and Aria; and her cherished dog, Molly.

Brenda has left a void in her family that will always remain. Her strength, presence, and love were the foundation of the life she built, and her absence is deeply felt. We will honor her memory forever and cherish the legacy she leaves behind. She is deeply loved and greatly missed.