Matthew James Oelking

August 19, 1974May 30, 2020

Matthew James Oelking passed away peacefully at his mother’s home in Covington, LA on May 30, 2020 at the age of 45, after a courageous battle with cancer. Matthew was the loving parent, together with Michele Marie Oelking, of Adelaide Caroline Oelking of Boulder, CO, cherished son of Marie Celeste Bordelon Oelking of Covington, LA and beloved brother of Amos John Oelking III (Kendie) of The Woodlands, TX. He was preceded in death by his “Pops” (father), Amos John Oelking, Jr., with whom Matthew is now reunited in heaven. Matthew is also survived by his nephew and godson Tyler James Oelking; niece Brooke Elizabeth Oelking; godchildren Taylor Travers and Mitchell O’Shee; and several loving aunts, uncles and cousins. Matthew is further survived by his childhood “bestie” Jessica Brown Ulmer and her husband Kip Ulmer; devoted friends Johnny and Kara Travers, Scott and Danielle Meyer, Kenny Gowland, Clark Lozes and Gene Fabre; and numerous other loving friends that meant so much to Matthew and who did so much for Matthew in his final months. The frequent visits paid to Matthew during his illness by friends and family meant so much to Matthew and raised his spirits. Matthew graduated from Covington High School in 1992, and from Louisiana State University with a degree in economics in 1997; Matthew served as the goalkeeper for the LSU Men’s Soccer Club from 1992 to 1995. His vibrant, compassionate personality and generous spirit will be missed. Matthew was a friend to those in need, and a quester for knowledge, particularly with regards to his passions. In addition to soccer, Matthew’s passions included his daughter Adelaide, fly fishing and cooking. He was also an avid follower of the financial markets, and worked for several years in various roles in portfolio management/investment relations. Funeral arrangements are being handled by Grace Funeral Home in Covington, LA. A visitation will be held at Grace Funeral Home (450 Holy Trinity Drive) from 10am to Noon on Saturday, June 6th, followed by a Funeral Mass and a reception to which all are invited. Guests are welcome to wear a mask should they choose, but will not be required to do so. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital or Unbound Guatemala. An online guestbook is available at


  • Michele Marie Oelking, Unspecified
  • Adelaide Caroline Oelking, Daughter
  • Marie Celeste Bordelon Oelking, Mother
  • Amos John Oelking, III (Kendie), Brother
  • Amos John Oelking, Jr., "Pops" (Father) (deceased)
  • Tyler James Oelking, Nephew & Godson
  • Brooke Elizabeth Oelking, Niece
  • Taylor Travers, Godchild
  • Mitchell O'Shee, Godchild
  • Matthew is also survived by his childhood "bestie" Jessica Brown Ulmer and her husband Kip Ulmer; devoted friends Johnny and Kara Travers, Scott and Danielle Meyer, Kenny Gowland, Clark Lozes and Gene Fabre.


  • Visitation

    Saturday, June 6, 2020

  • Funeral Mass

    Saturday, June 6, 2020


Matthew James Oelking

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Zuri Fellure

June 29, 2020

Although we never fully met you our whole family’s hearts go out to you from the times we did interact I could tell straight away how great of a dad husband and friend you where you did all in your power to make a amazing mark in this world and in all our hearts so thank you for being such an amazing person in the short time you had to be! Adi Michelle and family my heart goes out to you and we will pray for you all in this sad time.

Stephanie Schoen

June 19, 2020

Matthew you will be missed by so many. You were a good friend. I admired how much you loved your daughter Adelaide. I remember seeing you walk her to school. And how much you loved Michele,sacrificing so much for her to reach her goals. You were a great ,smart,fun friend ,you will be missed.

Jeff and Shannon Althouse

June 6, 2020

Praying for you and beautiful Adi, sweet Michele... and all of Matthew’s family. We love you guys and will be thinking of you during this sad time. We are here if we can help in any way... 💕🙏🏻

Karen Melerine

June 6, 2020

Matthew and I were friends throughout high school and at LSU. We shared many laughs and great memories. I will always remember his infectious smile and kind heart. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family and dear friends, as I know he will be greatly missed by all that knew him.

Michele Oelking

June 6, 2020

Adelaide and I appreciate and value everyone's outreach. Many thanks and blessings,

Nani Ertter

June 5, 2020

John and I send our heartfelt sympathy and best regards. Matthew was a great friend, always smiling and fun to be around, and will be missed by everyone who knew him. God bless you and your family. We are praying for you. ❤️

Betty Lemoine

June 4, 2020

After reading so many comments from friends of Matthew, I realize that his Mother, Celeste, truly raised a beautiful, loving, intelligent and witty son. While I never met Matthew, I do know his beautiful, caring mother. She loves her family so much. She took care of Matthew during his last few months and did her best to make his last months meaningful. She was always so grateful for all of his friends that continued to show up every day to give Matthew encouragement. She was especially grateful for his friends Jessica and Johnny and so many others who visited Matthew during these past few months. I pray for you, Celeste, Adelaide, and Amos. May Matthew rest in the peace of our Lord, Jesus Christ.

John Ariatti

June 4, 2020

Matthew playing an ocean golf course with me when he was 14. He had a large smile on his face and said to me, "Uncle John California was made for me!!!"; meeting him, and Michelle and the baby Adelaide in Golden Gate Park, SF. I asked him why he started playing soccer in college instead of golf. He was a good golfer at the age of 14. He said, "Uncle John the girls like soccer players more than golfers!" How very smart he was in finance/stock and how dedicated he was to his clients. How much he adores Adelaide. Our many talks and texts over the last 5 months, discussing old memories, his love and admiration for his Dad; anger; death; past joys, amends; and how he loved soccer. He was a good soul with love in his heart. I love him and will miss him. He is gone too soon.

Melanie King-Martin

June 3, 2020

Matthew and my sister were great friends in high school, I was away at college, but loved to come home and enjoy Matthew’s political opinions, and debates. At the time it was comical to engage in such “serious” conversation with a teenager, and we laughed and enjoyed every minute of it. I am sorry to hear of his loss, and send warmest thoughts and prayers to his Mom and family. RIP Matthew xoxo

Andy Strauser

June 2, 2020

Memories of my childhood and memories of Matthew go hand-in-hand. For many years until I moved away, Matthew was a powerful force in my life. He was smart, athletic, funny, and talented. Whether we were throwing the football in the rain, playing our clarinets (later the sax for me and the oboe him), or coming up with our next science fair project, he always pushed me to be better and try harder. In my mind, he was 'that' kid. The one I admired most. He had a great laugh and a cheerful spirit. I always marveled at the ease with which he glided through the halls in school, as he was equally well-liked by teachers and students because of his confidence and charm. Even though (pre-social media) we were not in close contact as adults, I know that he continued to positively impact people's lives. I'd like to send my sincerest condolences to Mrs. Oelking, Amos, and the entire family. And, to Matthew, thank you for the memories, my friend. Rest in peace.