Shelly Costello Nichols

November 17, 1961July 9, 2015

Shelly Costello Nichols died in her home on July 9, 2015 at age 53, after living over three years with colon cancer. Her death was just like her life, surrounded by the people she loved. In her journey, she taught us all how to not only live, but how to die. Shelly encompassed all the qualities you would want in your own mother, daughter, and friend. She looked for the good in all people and she was accepting, non-judgmental and radiated a contagious spirit. Loving all people always came easy for her. Shelly was born on November 17, 1961 in Washington, DC and lived in Woodbridge and Dumfries, VA until 2001 when she moved with her family to Cross Lanes, West Virginia. Shelly worked as a licensed professional counselor (LPC) from 1988 until 2001 in settings that included Action in the Community Through Service (ACTS), Turning Points family violence program, and Prince William County Community Services Board in Virginia. From 2002 -2013, Shelly worked with Psychological Consultation and Assessment (PC&A) in Cross Lanes, WV. Shelly stated that she has loved each of her positions and all of the clients with whom she has worked; she has never felt like these opportunities were “jobs.” In 2014, Shelly fulfilled a life-long calling when she received a local pastor’s license; she was appointed as Associate Pastor in July 2014 at Cross Lanes United Methodist Church (CLUMC). Shelly said that from the very first day when she and her family first attended CLUMC in 2001, it became her spiritual home, and she considered everyone there to be part of her family. Shelly has always been a part of a large family. She is survived by her devoted husband David Nichols, her twin daughters Chelsea Costello and Carly Costello Glover (along with Carly’s husband Richard), and her sons Philip, Peter and Luke Nichols. Shelly is also survived by her father Hilary “Pete” Costello, her brothers Brad (Terri), Jeff (Rona), and Steven (Cara), and numerous aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, and cousins. In addition, Shelly is survived by many close friends whom she considered part of her family. Shelly was preceded in death by her mother Beverly “Bev” Costello in 2004. Shelly’s family is forever grateful to her dear friend, Augie Ruotolo who provided loving care for her through this journey. Visitation hours will be held on Friday, July 31st from 1-3pm and 6-8pm at CLUMC, Cross, Lanes, WV. A funeral service will take place on Saturday, August 1st at 10:30am at CLUMC, followed by a reception in the Fellowship hall. In lieu of flowers, Shelly requested that donations be made to the new audio visual upgrade initiative for CLUMC. Make your checks payable to CLUMC with “Shelly” in the memo line and mail to 5320 Frontier Drive, Cross Lanes, WV 25313. Donations may also be made in her memory to Believe Big, Inc. at 4821 Butler Road, Suite 1D, Glyndon, MD 21136 or online at Online condolences can be sent to the family at


  • Visitation Friday, July 31, 2015
  • Funeral Service Saturday, August 1, 2015
  • Shelly Costello Nichols Friday, July 31, 2015
  • Shelly Costello Nichols Saturday, August 1, 2015

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Maureen Fannin

August 5, 2015

I just learned of Shelly's passing. I worked with her at the PWC CSB. Please accept my deepest sympathy. She was a kind, and wonderful person with a gentle spirit. I remember her fondly as both a colleague and a friend. She will be greatly missed by many.

charles guertler

August 2, 2015

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Alice Roberts

August 2, 2015

Dave, Fred and I want to extend our deepest sympathies to you and your entire family.

Sara Estepp

July 30, 2015

My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family. May God give you peace and comfort and may Shelly's soul rest in peace.

Connie Barber

July 30, 2015

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Fran & Mitch Mason

July 30, 2015

We are so sorry for your loss, a void in your hearts forever. But we know that the love that surrounds you will get you through this difficult time. Our prayers go out to the Nickols and Costello families.

Cherie Howell

July 29, 2015

Extending my deepest and heartfelt sympathy to the Nichols Family.

TSO Cherie Howell (BKW)

July 22, 2015

Our deepest sympathy to Shelly's entire wonderful family. Shelly was a special person, so loving and caring. She will be missed by all.

Bill And Judy Bullock

Marie(Salo) and David Staie

July 22, 2015

I've Known Shelly and the Costello family since the 70's middle school and high school marching band and symphonic band and Dumfries UMC. Shelly has always had a smile on her face no matter what. Roller Skating, pig roasts lot of family memories at the Stage Coach Inn. My sister Rona was best friends with Shelly and dated and married her brother Jeff. Our prayers are with all the Costello's and Nichol's families.

Kim Ryan

July 22, 2015

Missing you each day!