Iris Graves D'Alvia

May 2, 1940August 5, 2017

Iris (nee Graves) Stevens D’Alvia, died at home, in Croton on Hudson, New York on the evening of August 5th, 2017 at the age of 77, in the arms of her daughters, surrounded by her pets. The cause of death was COPD. Iris was born on May 2, 1940, in Raleigh, North Carolina. At the age of 2, her family moved to Philadelphia, PA, where she later was a concert pianist with the Philadelphia Junior Philharmonic and an accomplished violist and painter. A graduate of Syracuse University in 1962, she moved to New York City where she began a career as an educator and publishing associate. In 1971, she returned home to Upper Westchester for good from one long year in the Los Angeles sunshine, and became an avid environmentalist and conservationist during the early fight to close the Indian Point power plant. After the birth of her youngest child in 1980, Iris began a three-decade association with Croton Schools as the founder and director of the After-School and Continuing Education Programs for the district. Both programs thrived under her direction and she loved the generations of children and adults in the community for whom those programs served. In the mid 1990s, Iris began a second career as a public servant for Westchester County Economic Development, and spent the last 10 years of her tenure there as the Director of the Film Office, which gave her great joy. She retired from the County at age 70, and continued her work for Croton Schools until 2016. Iris was passionate about animals and in her retirement she maintained a part time job at her beloved veterinarian’s office in Croton-on-Hudson. Iris relished natural beauty and nurtured this love of life through gardening, amateur bird-watching, and in the simple pleasure of conversation with close friends. Iris is survived her children, David, Rachel, and Lauren, grandchildren Griffin, Rebecca, Leah, Elena and her beloved pets, Gilly and Gert. Visitation will be held on Tuesday, August 8, 2017 from 5-8PM at Edward F. Carter Funeral Home, 41 Grand St, Croton on Hudson, NY. Funeral service will be celebrated on Wednesday, August 9th at 11AM, St. Augustine Episcopal Church, also in Croton.


  • Visitation- Tuesday 5-8PM, Funeral Service- Wed 11AM, Private Cremation Services

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Princess Danielle

August 30, 2017

When someone you loves becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure. May that wonderful treasure fill your heart with love and bring you a measure of peace. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

1 Thessalonians 4:13,14 ❤

kristin genovese

August 19, 2017

When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure. May the wonderful treasures fill your hearts with love and bring you peace. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. 1 Thessalonians 4:13-14

teri Waivada

August 9, 2017

Rest in Peace, Iris, and thanks for the years that we worked together in Westchester County. you did a great work in attracting filming to the County .

Heidi & Nick Bensen

August 8, 2017

Sincere condolences to David, Cathy, Griffin, Rachel, and Lauren. All love and kindness!

Julie Nord

August 8, 2017

So sad to hear of Iris's passing. What a remarkable life. She was wonderfully, extraordinarily supportive and caring to me both personally and as my boss in the after school program. I will remember her always.

Lisa Cohen

August 8, 2017

Iris got me involved in local politics in the best way possible. I didn't think it was possible to speak to elected officials in that way! Her positive energy extended to the tremendous after school programs she ran and my daughters benefited from. I am left with the happy memory of her working with her beloved animals in her later days.

Mary Donnery

August 8, 2017

My condolences to Lauren and all of Iris's family. Iris and I got to know each through the Croton Free Library, and I always admired her for her energy and for her many passions and pursuits. Rest In Peace, Iris.

Mike Morey

August 8, 2017

I had the pleasure of serving as Chairman of the Peekskill Democratic City Committee while Iris was the Chairwoman of the Cortlandt Town Democratic Committee. She was tough as nails. She wasn't ever afraid to ruffle feathers to get things done. She was tenacious, aggressive, and never one to bite her tongue. She helped lead the Northern Westchester Democratic Committees into a more powerful block to compete with the individual voting power the larger City Committees south of 287 were able to wield at county conventions. She also turned Westchester into a film mecca while running the county film office and recruiting production companies to film here, while serving under the leadership of County Executive Andy Spano. She was an ally the Peekskill Democratic City Committee could always count on and someone that I personally learned a great deal from. I'm sad to hear of her passing but grateful for the legacy she left to the county and to Democratic politics in Westchester. Rest In Peace, Iris.

Ellen Kearns

August 7, 2017

Iris was a wonderful strong woman, and I am so glad to have gotten to see her in action as we worked together on the Northern Westchester Coalition. She taught me so much about being a Chair, and her passion for doing the right thing will always stay with me.

Judith Becker

August 7, 2017

Did not know Iris but loved her much is shared with a photo. Sounds like someone we could all learn a little from. God Bless. Judi Becker