Pamela Scheffey White passed away June 19th, 2021. The 2nd of four children, she was born to Merl Scheffey and Justine Johnson on Nov. 25th, 1945, in Washington, D.C., later moving to Dallas, TX, where she grew up.
Pam was the bright light of the family. She was the counsel her siblings, children, grandchildren, extended family and innumerable friends who sought for the comfort and advice which would help each pursue the best direction in their lives.
A once in a lifetime presence, if you were lucky enough to be in Pam's fold, you knew what magic felt like. She was beyond beautiful, possessing a keen sense of humor, unrivaled sense of style, and an abiding love of art, literature and travel. Pam made every occasion better simply by being there and every encounter with others became a splendid memory to be enjoyed forever. But most of all...Pam loved.
Pam especially loved the Holidays. Be it Thanksgiving or Christmas, her home was the summit of joy and happiness. The decorations, food, gifts and her gentle spirit brought out the best in
everyone fortunate enough to attend.
Pam loved to travel and explored every part of this world she could manage, always accompanied by people she adored and always making new friends along the way. Her quizzical mind and wry wit, even at the most inane of times, enhanced the experiences of all her traveling companions and etched those journeys into their collective memories for eternity.
But it was her family Pam loved most of all and for them her affection was unequaled.
Pam deeply loved her husband Monk. Rarely have two people been so perfectly suited for one another. He was without a doubt the love of her life, as she was his, and they moved through this life as one, each always reaching for the other. They were inseparable, and the sum of their love was the
embodiment of the relationship all of us seek, but few truly find.
Pam loved her children, Tina and Alex, and her step-children Liza and Quen ,with equal measures of the unconditional love that poured from her continuously. She never wavered in her lioness protection of her four children, nor in the lengths she would go to in order to aid them in their navigation toward and throughout adulthood.
Pam loved her grandchildren. She loved them with a depth mere words could never capture and ecstatically celebrated the birth of each new arrival as Tina, Liza and Quen brought new lives into her orbit. Pam and Monk played formative roles in the lives of all their grandchildren, especially those of Justine and Stella. Few are able to spend a great deal of time with their grandchildren, so they seized every opportunity to welcome them into their home filled with infinite happiness and affection and to help guide them into being the remarkable young women they have become.
Pam loved her family, beginning with her parents, Merl and Justine Scheffey. She was always there to lend a hand as they grew into their twilight years and was especially helpful to her mother after her father's passing. As holiday celebrations necessarily moved from her parents legendary house on Snow White, Pam relished the chance to host the family in her own fabulous home on Guernsey. It was during this time that Pam began to evolve into both daughter as well as best friend to her aging mother, whose ever-presence in their home was of immense comfort to “Mimi” in the waning years of her life.
Pam loved her siblings...immensely, and they in turn loved and worshiped her. John, the eldest, had a special bond with Pam from the start, one that carried on into their adult lives, where he often sought her advice and companionship.
Eric's love for his sister was as immeasurable as hers for him and he took every opportunity to be with her that he could. Though younger, he became friends with her friends and sought her
counsel in all matters of life and relationships. They traveled the world together, exploring new places and sharing experiences that were forever seared into their memories.
Pam had a truly special kinship with her sister, Kristin. They both married men from Ft. Worth whom were already friends in their own right. Monk and George, together with Pam and Kristin, comprised a quartet that filled each of their lives with strength and love, both when together and apart. Pam and Kristin communicated a love and understanding that only they fully comprehended and which granted each the lifelong support that only a sister can provide.
AlthougFinally, Pam loved her friends, the circle of which extended to the far reaches of the Earth, and if you were able to count yourself among them, you could rightfully say you were much cooler by association. From childhood onward, Pam collected friends greedily and clung to them through thick and thin. In turn, their loyalty and devotion to her was unmatched, and whether you grew up with her, were in her “Group” or only knew her briefly after a chance meeting, likely on a beach somewhere, such was her overpowering earnestness and magnetism, you're likely convinced you were a closely-held and implicitly trusted member of her innermost cadre of associates, accomplices, cohorts and pals.
And what's even more remarkable...you probably were.
Pam didn't just love. She was love, and the generosity with which she spread it has brightened the lives of countless people who will deeply mourn her loss.
Pam has now transcended to a new realm, to join her loving parents, her brother John, and her many friends that were eagerly awaiting her arrival in Heaven.
Although she is no longer walking with us in her physical form, Pam will live in all our hearts and cherished memories until one day, we too will see her smiling face again.
Pamela White was preceded in death by her parents, Merl and Justine, her brother John and his wife Gwen, as well as her brother-in-law George.
She is survived by her beloved husband, Monk; her brother Dr. Eric Scheffey and his wife Kendall; her sister Kristin Kline; her treasured children Alex Williamson and Tina Williamson; her step-children Liza Richardson and Quen White and their respective husbands, Dan and Michael; her adored grandchildren Justine and Stella Fite, Isabella and Jackson Savage and Jesse Ramos, as well as her dear nieces and nephews, namely the children of George and Kristin Kline (Will, Luke and Amanda Kline Dyer), those of John and Gwen Scheffey (Blake, Josh, Max and Jon) and Eric and Kendall Scheffey's son Heston and daughter Alice.
A service of remembrance will be held at 2pm, Saturday, July 10th. 2021, at St. Michael and All Angels Episcopal Church at 8011 Douglas Ave., Dallas, TX, 75225. The family requests that in lieu of flowers, donations be made in Pam's name to the Ft. Worth Zoo, 1981 Colonial Parkway, Ft. Worth, TX, 76110.
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