Silvia A Tovar

August 28, 1949May 14, 2019
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Silvia Tovar Obituary

Silvia Tovar, of Dallas, TX, 69, went to her heavenly home on Tuesday, May 14, 2019, in Dallas. She was born in San Antonio, TX, the eldest daughter of Rodolfo and Jovita (Alvarado) Arispe. She was a member of Providence High School’s Class of 1967. After spending time in the workforce, she completed her Bachelor’s degree from Our Lady Of the Lake University in San Antonio at the age of 41.

In 1971, she married Narciso Tovar, Sr. at the San Fernando Cathedral in San Antonio, TX; they raised three lovely children – Narciso, Jr., Javier and Stefanie.

Silvia’s career with the Internal Revenue Service spanned nearly three decades as she served communities in Texas (Austin, Harlingen and McAllen), Georgia and Puerto Rico. During her tenure with the IRS, Silvia actively served in Hispanic and elderly communities, providing free tax consultation services through the Volunteer Income Tax Assistance (VITA) program and the Tax Counseling for the Elderly (TCE) program. Silvia was also a passionate advocate of the Hispanic Internal Revenue Employees (HIRE) association – a 501(c)(3) association dedicated to the recruitment & advancement of Hispanics and other minorities in the IRS. During her time with HIRE, Silvia was elected National President of the association for three consecutive years.

Before joining the IRS, Silvia & Narciso Sr. owned and operated two separate businesses for several years. The first was a barbacoa business in the western barrio of San Antonio, followed by a neighborhood bodega in central San Antonio. Silvia was always ready with a funny and, at times, corny quip for customers. Patrons would often seek out Silvia to share a story or two over a cold bottle of Big Red or bowl of fresh caldo.

Silvia was a member of the Dominican Laity and an active participant of the Catholic community in every city where she laid roots. Her ministry included serving in the first ladies group at St. Brigid’s Catholic Church in John’s Creek, GA. That group attended ‘Christ Renews His Parish’ and presented several times in subsequent months. She also worked with St Vincent de Paul in Atlanta, GA, helping people in the community who needed a translator and leading a travel team to bring Christ Renews His Parish to St Jude’s Catholic Church in Roswell. Silvia was a founding member of the Guadalupanas group at St. Mary Magdalen’s Church in San Antonio and a leader of the RCIA group at the Our Lady of Guadalupe Church in Austin.

Silvia was a friend to all, possessing loads of happy memories from a myriad of sweet friendships. From helping a good friend pass her final statistics exam to earn her degree, to being elected as ‘frowns keeper’ on a mission trip, to being the first to extend a warm embrace to a needy friend, to nudging buddies out of their comfort zone to go on that first date, to teaching Spanish to her newest friends at the clubhouse, to sharing bingo strategies, Silvia was ultimately, as one person described “the best buddy you could possibly have”.

Silvia’s love of music cannot be forgotten and she enjoyed listening, dancing, and singing. Silvia was a HUGE fan of the Beatles (her heart beat extra strong for Paul). She knew how to cut a rug with the best of them. She could strut, cumbia, boogie, samba and jazz hand all on the same dance floor … on the same night! She sang mezzo-soprano in her high school choir and enjoyed singing in church. She often sang Hall & Oats’ ‘Rich Girl’ with her daughter Stefanie. She happily partook in her fair share of MTV time with her son Javier and attended an Andrea Bocelli concert with her son, Narciso, Jr.

Silvia never met a stranger, making herself available to help everyone she came into contact with – be it with a moment of prayer, a ride to school, a late-night conversation or to serve as a sponsor for confirmation. She loved to serve the community.

Silvia loved Sudoku and Rummikub and was actually quite a good player – even though there was that one time she never got to lay down any of her tiles, leaving her with more than 150 points on the board. That never happened again. Legend has it that Silvia took to reading up on various Rummikub strategies, making sure that being stuck with that many points would never happen again.

A funny girl at heart, Silvia always looked for ways to help people laugh. A friend of hers recently noted how she strolled over to her second-floor apartment, exclaiming, “Rapunzel! Let down your hair!”. After a few moments of hearing nothing, Silvia shouted a bit louder, “Hey, Rapunzel! Let down your hair!”

Still no answer.

Silvia then took to her phone and, when her friend answered, Silvia said, “Hey there, Rapunzel! Didn’t you hear me? I was asking you to let down your hair! What gives?!”

They both got a big laugh about that.

Most of all, Silvia loved her family and was never shy about expressing her devotion to each and every member. Her sweet grandchildren, Javier Jr. (7 years old) and Luna (3 years old), will have memories of Silvia playing Ravin’ Rabbids on her Wii system, turning a traffic jam to a dance party outside of the car and in front of dozens of strangers, singing sweet lullabies as they drifted off to sleep, or sharing lifelong lessons with a loving (yet decisive) approach.

Silvia relished her time with family. Whether rearing a childhood pet chicken (Mr. Buc Buc) with her brother Louis, playing host to a joyful First Communion celebration, making buñuelos for a nephew’s birthday, pulling some strings to get her 6-year old sister Helen on the Captain Gus show, or introducing the joy and mayhem of cascarones to her daughter-in-law, Rhonda, she was always there for family.

Silvia is survived by her children Narciso and his wife Rhonda; Javier and grandson Javier Jr.; Stefanie, her husband Zachary and granddaughter, Luna. She also leaves an older brother Louis Arispe; brother Rudy Arispe Jr. and his wife Mary Anne; sister Maria Elena Arispe and her husband Neo Teck Haut; sister Rosalinda Arispe; and David Arispe and his wife Hazelyn Arispe. Silvia also leaves several nieces and nephews. She was preceded in death by her husband, Narciso, Sr.

She will be dearly missed and forever in our hearts.

A visitation will be held 5pm-7pm on May 20, 2019, at Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home in Dallas, TX. The funeral will be at 1pm on May 21, 2019, at St. Patrick’s Church in Dallas, TX. Flowers are welcomed. As an expression of sympathy, memorial donations in Silvia’s name may be made to LULAC. Messages of condolence are welcomed online at the Sparkman Hillcrest Funeral Home website.


21 May

Mass of Christian Burial

1:00 pm - 2:00 pm

St Patrick Catholic Church

9643 Ferndale Road
Dallas, TX 75238

21 May


2:30 pm - 3:00 pm

Calvary Hill Funeral Home

3235 Lombardy Ln
Dallas, TX 75220


  • Visitation Monday, May 20, 2019


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Sue Davis

May 19, 2019

It was a good day when Silvia became a part of the Pearson/Davis family. Her Narci married our Rhonda. Silvia was always the life of the party and could keep everyone laughing. I know she will be missed by so many, but I know also that she is finally free of pain and suffering and is singing with the angels. She has probably started a Rummycube game with my dad!! God Speed Dear Silvia.

Sue Davis

John Zamarripa

May 19, 2019

You were loved and will be missed. I will always remember your kindness and sense of humor. You are in our prayers Tia!

Love John Zamarripa and family

Henry Mendoza

May 19, 2019

May our Lord bless and comfort Silvia Tovar's family and friends during this time of grief. We will never forget Silvia, she was a jewel to everyone. Always looking after and encouraging the good for family, friends, co-workers, and even strangers. She had a wonderful heart. May God give her eternal rest.

Bonnie Bowden

May 19, 2019

Silvia was a saint...always looking for ways to help or comfort people. We all loved her at Meadowstone Retirement community and she will be sorely missed by all. May she fly with the angels and continue to bring blessings to the needy in this world. She will find a way!!!

Bonnie Bowden
A friend

Jutta Preston

May 18, 2019

I am thinking of that unforgettable beautiful voice of yours as you narrated the Stations of the Cross behind me as I sang the verses.

Your happiness about being able to attend your first ACTS retreat because of a late minute vacancy - which was me! - as we discovered on the following retreat. That was meant to be! You hugged me so tight in gratitude!
Your beautiful spirit and faith helped me to strengthen mine!
Rest in peace and happiness in God’s arms!

Lana Morris

May 18, 2019

My sweet sister Silvia,
“I Can Only Imagine”... the joy you are experiencing right now as you dance before our Lord. “I Can Only Imagine”... the joy Jesus feels having you home with him. Since our first ACTS retreat together that’s exactly what you have been for me....a joy! Love you and my prayers are with your precious family that you love so much.

Maureen Conway

May 18, 2019

You were, and will continue to be, an inspiration to so many with your quiet, gentle spirit! Thank you for sharing your faith and your joy with me. I am certain you were greeted with, “Well done, my good and faithful servant.”

Melissa Messner

May 18, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing your love with me- you were always encouraging and so complimentary. I will miss seeing you at church- reading and rocking your cool hats!! 😉 I know that you are now at peace-fulfilled and healed in Our Lord. I love you! May God comfort your family during this difficult time.

Holly Brown

May 17, 2019

I remember how excited you were when you found out you were able to attend that first ACTS retreat. Your faith and smile truly amazed me as you battled your illness. I have always admired your strength and so grateful to have known you. I will miss your proclaiming at noon Mass. but I know your are happy to be with the true word and light of our world...our Savior, Jesus. Your sister in Christ

Paula Victora

May 17, 2019

Silvia was a major source of inspiration for many. I remember an amazing speech that she gave during a Women's Workshop at one of the HIRE National Training Conferences. It was very moving and I will not forget her lessons. From everyone in the HIRE familia, she will be greatly missed. -Paula.