Marilyn J. Lyons

January 5, 1937February 3, 2019
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Marilyn Joan Lyons, age 82, of Danbury, CT passed away on Sunday, February 3, 2019.

Marilyn was born January 5, 1937, in Brooklyn, New York. She was the youngest daughter of Yvonne and Alfonzo (Alfred) Margarella, and always looked up to her big sisters Gloria and Yvonne. Marilyn loved all things Brooklyn, including her home team, the Brooklyn Dodgers. As a young woman, Marilyn worked as a legal secretary, but after meeting a student at Fordham University, Tony Lyons from Clondalkin, Ireland, they married and began to build their family together. They settled in Danbury, CT, where the raised their family of 8 children. Marilyn was devoted to her family–her greatest joy.

The daughter of French and Italian parents, she always considered herself just a wee bit Irish, as she sang along to Danny Boy, Four Green Fields, and Wild Irish Rose. A lover of animals, she was rarely without a cat by her side. Marilyn had a wonderful sense of humor. She loved to laugh, and dance, and sing. Marilyn was loved so very much and will be sorely missed by all who were blessed to have known her.

Marilyn is survived by her daughter Theresa Smith; son-in-law Kevin Smith; daughter Marilyn J. Lyons; daughter Deborah Owen; son Patrick Lyons; daughter-in-law Lisa Lyons; daughter Eileen Backman; son-in-law Jon Backman; daughter Amy Gracer; son-in-law Michael Gracer; daughter Maureen Yvonne Reardon; son-in-law Patrick Reardon; daughter Elizabeth Sellinger; and son-in-law John Sellinger; sister Yvonne Melillo; grandchildren Kevin Smith Jr., Brian Smith, (Krystal Smith), Brian Backman, (Dominika Backman), Daniel Backman, Timothy Lyons, (Christi Hooten), Alexander Gracer, Abigail Gracer, Zeren Smith, Bethany Gracer, Michael Backman, Julianna Smith, Nathaniel Reardon, William Gracer, Serena Lyons, Lyla Sellinger, Lucas Reardon, Joshua Reardon, Faith Sellinger, and great grandchildren Mitchell, Cara, Lyanna, Joan and Noah, Liam (expected June 2019), and Baby Gracer-Hannigan, (expected July 2019), as well as many nieces, nephews and

Marilyn was preceded in death by her husband Anthony Lyons; mother Yvonne Margarella and father Alfonzo (Alfred) Margarella; sister Gloria Brand, and grandchild Samuel Gracer.

Calling hours for Marilyn will be held Sunday, February 10, 2019 from 4:00 PM to 6:00 PM at Green Funeral Home, 57 Main St, Danbury, Connecticut 06810. A Mass of Christian Burial will occur Monday, February 11, 2019 at 10:30AM at St. Gregory the Great Church, 85 Great Plain Rd., Danbury, CT 06811. A burial will occur Monday, February 11, 2019 at Saint Peter Cemetery, Lake Ave Extension, Danbury, Connecticut 06810.

In lieu of flowers, contributions in Marilyn's memory may be made to The Alzheimer's Association Connecticut Chapter, 200 Executive Blvd. S. #4b, Southington, Connecticut 06489 US,


  • Anthony Lyons, Husband
  • Theresa Smith, Daughter
  • Kevin Smith, Son-in-law
  • Marilyn J Lyons, Daughter
  • Deborah Owen, Daughter
  • Patrick Lyons, Son
  • Lisa Lyons, Daughter-in-law
  • Eileen Backman, Daughter
  • Jon Backman, Son-in-law
  • Amy Gracer, Daughter
  • Michael Gracer, Son-in-law
  • Maureen Yvonne Reardon, Daughter
  • Patrick Reardon, Son-in-law
  • Elizabeth Sellinger, Daughter
  • John Sellinger, Son-in-law
  • Kevin Smith Jr, Grandchild
  • Brian Smith, Grandchild
  • Krystal Smith, Grandaughter-in-law
  • Brian Backman, Grandchild
  • Dominika Backman, Grandaughter-in-law
  • Daniel Backman, Grandchild
  • Samuel Gracer, Grandchild
  • Timothy Lyons, Grandchild
  • Christi Hooten, Fiance of Timothy
  • Alexander Gracer, Grandchild
  • Abigail Gracer, Grandchild
  • Zeren Smith, Grandchild
  • Bethany Gracer, Grandchild
  • Michael Backman, Grandchild
  • Julianna Smith, Grandchild
  • Nathaniel Reardon, Grandchild
  • William Gracer, Grandchild
  • Serena Lyons, Grandchild
  • Lyla Sellinger, Grandchild
  • Lucas Reardon, Grandchild
  • Joshua Reardon, Grandchild
  • Faith Sellinger, Grandchild
  • Mitchell  , Great Grandchild
  • Cara  , Great Grandchild
  • Lyanna Joan  , Great Grandchild
  • Noah  , Great Grandchild
  • Gloria Brand, Sister
  • Yvonne Melillo, Sister
  • Yvonne Margarella, Mother
  • Alfonzo (Alfred) Margarella, Father


  • Calling Hours Sunday, February 10, 2019
  • Mass of Christian Burial Monday, February 11, 2019
  • Burial Monday, February 11, 2019

Marilyn J. Lyons

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Kevin Smith, Sr.

February 8, 2019

2000 characters is not enough to tell all the Mom stories. I’m not going to tell you about the pounds of Twizzlers and late night classic movies. Or about how she was so excited that we decided to adopt Zeren and Julianna. Or the ones about the Christmases with mountains of presents and Nana Banana sitting in her corner chair in her green sweater and Santa Claus hat with a smile from ear to ear. Or the time when we loaded so many of us into our van that Tim had to sit on the floor so we could go to a Brooklyn Cyclones game and tour Flatbush to see Mom’s old neighborhood, church, and the street she grew up on. Speaking of Brooklyn, my Mom and her family grew up in the same neighborhood and went to the same church. They shared a love of the Dodgers, especially Gil Hodges. I’m not going to tell the story about how much I enjoyed seeing Mom with her sisters and how much it reminded me of my Mom with hers. I’m not going to tell you about impromptu Friday-night dance parties, nor how much fun it was watching Mom dance at Brian’s and Krystal’s wedding. I’m not going to tell the story about how at Patrick’s house Mom herself was rather “happy” and kept telling each of us, starting with me, Kevin Jr, and Brian in turn: “I love you [fill in name]” to which we replied each and every time: “I love you too Nana."

I am going to tell this story however. This story set the tone for all future stories and it is about the night I met Mom and a few days later when she met my oldest boys. Terri and a few of her siblings used to be on a bowling team and on this particular night we ended up a bar and I might have had too much to drink. Maureen had to drive us home and I had to insist we pull over so I could...well you get the picture. A few days later when I was introducing Kevin and Brian to Terri’s family we went to a Chinese restaurant and well...dinner didn’t sit well with get the picture. But I almost cracked a rib laughing when Mom said, “Like Father, like son”.

Gordon & Dena Campbell

February 8, 2019

I have the honor of Knowing 2 of your daughters Debbie and Terry. I herd and talked to Debbie who I consider an angel on earth many times about her love for her mom. You will be dearly missed. I had the honor of working together with Debbie for many years and still talk as often as this busy world let’s us. I have herd many stories of wonderful mom. May you be dancing in heaven and looking down on your amazing legacy of lovely ladies and gentlemen you left behind. May you feel no pain and your heart be filled with love. To the family my prayers are with you and to Debbie I wish I was there to comfort you. Prayers and love. Gordon & Dena

Christine Hislop Pudelko

February 7, 2019

Beautiful words about a wonderful woman. It seems like yesterday I was coming in and out of your house or calling on the phone constantly. Always a warm welcome. She was kind but firm in letting me know when I was pushing my luck though.
She had a real skill in dealing with all the kids and our exuberance or drama. I always felt cared for and watched over. She will be missed but has left an amazing legacy for the world to benefit from. Thank you for sharing her with us.
Sending love!