Thomas Vincent Foley

February 21, 1934April 28, 2013

Thomas Vincent Foley, age 79, of New Fairfield, died unexpectedly on Sunday at Danbury Hospital. He was the husband of Mary (Staunton) Foley.

Tom was born February 21, 1934 in County Leitrim, Ireland, the son of the late John and Elizabeth (Roche) Foley. The eldest of six children, Tom was raised and educated in Co. Leitrim, and emigrated to the United States in 1960. Tom had resided in the Sunnyside, New York area, and it was there he and his wife Mary were married in St. Rafael’s Church in 1966. They later resided in Whitestone, New York until moving to New Fairfield in 1979.

Tom was employed with Drake’s Bakeries as a route salesman for over 35 years, and was a longtime parishioner and Eucharistic Minister at Saint Edward the Confessor Church, New Fairfield. He was a member of the Ancient Order of Hibernians, John A. Gildea Division 3, where he served in numerous positions such as Chairman of its Sick Committee, and former co-chairman of the Greater Danbury Irish Festival. In 1990, the division named Tom its Hibernian of the Year. Tom was also a Fourth Degree member of the Knights of Columbus McGivney Council #29, and was a longtime volunteer with the Dorothy Day Hospitality House in Danbury. He was a former member and recording secretary of the Ancient Order of Hibernians Division 15 in Whitestone, NY.

In addition to his loving wife of nearly 47 years, Mary, Tom is survived by three children: Sean Foley of San Francisco, CA, Kevin Foley and his wife Christine of Cos Cob, CT, and Brenda Foley Ott, M.D. and her husband Greg of New Hope, PA; one sister: Bridget Keating of Whitestone, NY; three brothers: John and Michael Foley, both of England, and James Foley of Mohill, Co. Leitrim, Ireland; nephew John Keating and his wife Nicole of Wantagh, NY; four grandchildren: Maura, Brady, and Liam Ott, and Luke Foley; and grandnephews Ryan and Brendan Keating.

An Irishman to the core, Tom was also proud to be an American citizen. He was a devout Catholic, tireless worker and a devoted family man and friend, always there to lend a helping hand. A man of great empathy, he had a special place in his heart for those less fortunate and advocated for those most in need. He was an avid volunteer for the homeless, the Church and many charities. In his spare time, he also loved working outdoors and gardening. He was happiest when he was surrounded by his family and friends, and he will be dearly missed by all who knew him.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 10:30am on Friday May 3rd at Saint Edward the Confessor Church, New Fairfield. Burial will follow at the Mountain View Cemetery, New Fairfield.

The family will receive friends at the Green Funeral Home, 57 Main Street, Danbury on Thursday May 2nd from 4pm through 8pm.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Save the Children, 54 Wilton Road, Westport, CT 06880.


  • Visitation Thursday, May 2, 2013
  • Funeral Mass Friday, May 3, 2013

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Steven Rawlings

May 10, 2013

It has been my honor and privilege to have known all of Mr. and Mrs. Foley's amazing childern as friends -- first Sean, who accepted me when I was new in town and made me feel at home in New Fairfield; then Kevin, who is one of my closest friends and who has been fiercely loyal to me and taught me so much that I know he learned directly from his dad and mom; and then Brenda, whom I saw grow from my kid sister's little friend with braces into an inspiringly successful woman, mother and doctor. I also had the good fortune to get to know John and Nicole through the years, just as much a sibling to them all.

At the service, I thought to myself, "I wish Mr. Foley could have been there on the hundreds of occassions when his children told me stories about him: about how honorable, loyal, funny and unique he was." And then it occurred to me that of course Mr. Foley knew his children thought about him that way, and he knows all those stories now.

I wish them all and their families, and Mrs. Foley, deepest sympathy and consolation during this difficult time. But I consider myself blessed to have known Mr. Foley and his wife through their children, and seeing Mr. and Mrs. Foley's grandchildren running around after the service gave me comfort to know that his memory and the values he passed on to his children will be handed down to theirs.

God bless and a hug to you all....

Jim & Mary Pat Toner

May 7, 2013

What wonderful memories we have of Tom and his beautiful family. You were all part of our blessed days in New Fairfield. We thank God for these gifts of friends and love. You are in our prayers. And Mary, thank you for teaching me how to make a true Irish coffee! Love,

May 6, 2013

Sean: Roy and I send our prayers and condolences to you, your mom and your entire family at this time of such great loss. We wish we had the opportunity to have met your dad, he sounded like a great man. May God bless you and your family.

Dennis Smith and Roy Landon
Palm Springs, California

May 3, 2013

Our Thoughts and Prayers are with you and your family. Rest in Peace

John and Claire Villa

Kathleen Harris

May 2, 2013

Tom was a very special person, kind, caring and devoted to his family, friends and Faith. His life was a precious gift to all who knew him. Kathleen Harris

May 2, 2013

We are deeply sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers to you and your family at this time.

Aaron & Jackie Thayer

Lisa Bend

May 2, 2013

May we live in peace without weeping. May our joy outline the lives we touch without ceasing.
And may our love fill the world, angel wings tenderly beating.

This is how Thomas lived his life. He was kind and caring. He loved his family and traveled far and wide to see us all. I miss him dearly and will always treasure memories of his visits, time spent with him at the Jersey Shore, how proud he was of my Uncle, Msgr. James Foley, and his wonderful smile. God bless you, Thomas, and I know you went through Heaven's Irish EZ Pass and got your Angel Wings right away.
Lisa Boell-Bend

Brett Rankin

May 2, 2013

Wow, I don't know what to say! Your father was a great man!! He was always so pleasant and friendly. I am thinking a lot of your wonderful mom, but also know that she and your dad built a great community of friends and have 3 awesome children to support her! Thinking of you all so much during this hard time!!!!

Brett and Leslie Rankin

Joe Sullivan

May 1, 2013

I'm saddened to hear of Mr. Foley's passing. He was a perfect gentleman at all times and a role model for everyone. My deepest sympathy to the Foley family.

Kevin and Kim Fillmore

May 1, 2013

Mrs. Foley and Family,
We will always remember Mr. Foley's friendly face and kind words. He always had something positive to say and tried to put others at ease. He was a true gentleman who will be sorely missed. Praying for you all. Love, Kevin and Kim