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Marilyn Rose O'Neil

May 29, 1939December 28, 2020
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Marilyn R. (DaSilva) O’Neil, age 81 of Dartmouth, passed away peacefully on Monday, December 28, 2020 in Rhode Island Hospital in Providence, RI. She was the wife of Jay R. O’Neil, to whom she had been married for 60 years.

Born in New Bedford, the daughter of the late Albino and Angelina (Arujo) DaSilva, she was a graduate of New Bedford High School and went on to receive her Associates Degree from the Carnegie Institute of Technology in Boston.

Mrs. O’Neil was employed as Clinical Research Director for over 40 years. She was employed with Truesdale Clinic in Fall River, Hawthorne Medical, Allergy Associates and Northeast Clinical Research all of Dartmouth until her retirement in 2004.

Marilyn was an accomplished seamstress, who enjoyed making costumes for her grandchildren and on occasion for theatre productions. She was a participant in the Miss New Bedford pageant and played the piano. Marilyn also loved being outdoors and enjoyed tending to her many beautiful flower gardens at home.

In addition to her husband of 60 years, she is survived by three sons, Michael O’Neil and his wife Cheryl of New Bedford, Kevin O’Neil and his wife Dawn of San Diego, CA and JJ O’Neil and his longtime companion Paula D’Almeida of New Bedford; five grandchildren Haylee, Alexis, Kyleigh, Alicia and Nicholas O’Neil and two extended family granddaughters Melissa Rock and Megan Hludzik and six extended family great grandchildren.

Her Visitation will be held on Tuesday, January 5, 2021 from 5 to 8PM in the WARING-SULLIVAN HOME AT DARTMOUTH, 230 Russells Mills Rd, Dartmouth. Flowers are welcome or memorial contributions in her honor may be made to St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital, 501 St. Jude Place, Memphis, TN 38105. Her Funeral Mass and Burial will be private. For online tribute and directions, please visit: www.waring-sullivan.com

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There is a special place in heaven for the mother of three boys”, was something heard frequently in the O’Neil household.

As far back as I can remember, my brothers and I were a handful to say the very least. Our mother was an only child in a rather strict, Portuguese household and so being introduced to the shenanigans of three very active, and often times pushing the limits boys, was a complete life re-education for the woman who went to charm and elocution school.

Early on, with the typical activities of Little League baseball and Boy Scouts, mom was always running here or there keeping us occupied. Later, after moving away from all her family and friends to a small town in Missouri, mom would open our home to everyone. Mom quickly found her passion in the Community Council of the Performing Arts as a costume maker and designer for many productions while becoming famous for fashioning regal garments for a production of Camelot out of old draperies from local churches and historical homes.

Another move back to New England brought a new chapter to mom’s life where she entered her career as a Clinical Research Site Manager. Through her nearly forty years in this profession came the birth of her first granddaughter. Granddaughter number one filled her life with so much joy until granddaughter number two arrived six years later and quickly followed by granddaughter number three a year after that. Mom was a master of sharing herself selflessly among her three girls that she so often times said were the girls that she always hoped she had. In true mom fashion, with the adoption of two more grandchildren, yet another girl and finally a boy, mom’s love seemed to know no bounds. The addition of a couple “instant granddaughters” and their subsequent children just expanded her love. Many, many years passed with many, many fun filled Christmas Eves; an event where extended family, friends and neighbors gathered for good food, a few drinks and the piles of presents for all the children that were present. I personally remember many times ringing the “sleigh bells” outside the family room doors and then running around the house to catch the last bits of wrapping paper being ripped away from presents.

The years passed and mom battled a few chronic illnesses that began to take their toll on her health. The family gatherings became fewer and farther between. The number of attendees dwindled as children grew and moved on to their own lives. Near the very end, mom would make every effort to put on events like she used to, but her limitations would often put a halt to even the best of plans. Unfortunately the year 2020 brought mom’s life to an end. It signaled the end of sixty years of marriage and the endless and selfless love she had for her family. The woman who loved so many and was loved by even more, passed quietly in her sleep on December 28, 2020. Mom, may you find rest and peace and remember to tell Jesus as you pass into heaven, “there is a special place here for me, right?? After all, I am the mother of three boys and by the way, please take your shoes off.”.

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Lorraine Rodrigues

January 6, 2021

Our heartfelt condolences to Jay and the entire family. Marilyn and I have shared a lifetime of memories from our teens to our 80's. Through laughter and tears and everything in between. My husband and I appreciate all the times Jay and Marilyn brought us goodies. Despite her own health issues, she was always there for me through mine. Until we meet again, my dear sweet friend. I love and miss you and will cherish our friendship always. Forever in my heart ❤ Ed & Lorraine (Lorry) Rodrigues

Kathleen Martin

January 6, 2021

So many wonderful memories with Auntie Mal and Uncle Jay and all three of you. I remember going to Missouri to spend the summer when I was 13. In a house full of 3 boys, I was the golden child that summer. Finally another girl. She treated me like her own, always. I will miss her very much. I love you all and you are in my thoughts. There IS a special place for her. Always, Kathi

Patricia Bellino

January 2, 2021

Marilyn was a wonderful, true friend whom I will sorely miss. We loved our "Benny's runs" before that store closed. She was such a lovely and giving person. She was so generous and gave me many things for my home, which I'll always treasure. She had a way of making you feel like you were the only person in the world when she spoke to you. So caring and so kind. I will miss her terribly, but take comfort in the knowledge that she's not suffering anymore. My sincere thoughts and prayers are with her family. An angel from Earth is now an angel in heaven.

Bobby Horta

December 31, 2020

To the entire O’Neil family, we are heartbroken to hear of cousin Marilyn’s passing. She was truly one of a kind. Loved talking with her and keeping family ties alive even though we may not have seen each other as often. But I know in my
Heart the Prima Angie and Primo Albino were there with her when she went from this world to heaven. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. Prima Marilyn you will be missed very much . Love you

Charles Correia

December 31, 2020

In memory of a beautiful person ,of inner strength and outwould beauty. A good mother, a great friend, always willing to help the less fortunate. I will miss her and love her always.
Dr. Charles Anthony Correia

Joan Leonardo

December 31, 2020

Once in a while a friend is found
Who's a friend right from the start.
Once in a while a friendship's made
That really warms the heart.
Once in a while a friendship's found
To have a lifetime through,
It really does happen,
Just once in while,
It happened to Me and You.

We shared many memories since 1958. I'll miss you my friend.
Till we meet again.......

Alexis O'Neil

December 30, 2020

There are no words that can express the magnitude of this loss and how much I will miss my grandmother. She was not only someone I looked up to immensely, but truly one of the most caring and giving people I have ever met. I had a special and strong bond with my Meme that I will cherish forever. This loss has been hard for me to accept and process- but I take comfort in the countless amount of memories we have shared, text messages she has sent me over the years and knowing that I have her to watch over me for the rest of my life, especially as I continue in my path as a nurse, something she was so incredibly proud of me for doing. I feel blessed that I was able to have 23 years with such a strong and amazing woman as not only my grandmother but as one of my very best friends. I hope to be able to emulate her giving and nurturing spirit and her ability to make everyone feel wanted & loved. To grow up to be half the woman she was would be something I would be eternally grateful for. Thank you meme for always being there when no one else was- I love you so much.

Kyleigh O’Neil

December 29, 2020

My meme was the kindest woman I knew. She was always doing everything she could to make the people around her happy and loved giving back to those less fortunate than her. I loved that about her. She was my biggest supporter with everything I did and I will miss her words of encouragement. She always knew the right things to say to cheer me up. She was so loved by so many people and will be missed so terribly ❤️

Number One

December 29, 2020

Meme: What would you like me to sing to you tonight Ms. Haylee Roberta?
Me: The star spangled banner please
Meme .... Oooooh say can you seeee

Christine Medeiros

December 29, 2020

Dear Jay and family,

There are no words that can be said that will help you heal. You have wonderful memories of Marilyn that will be there to comfort you. She was a very good friend to me and I will miss her guidance and companionship. We have had some great times together with lots of laughs and lots of crying, all of which I will treasure. I know that she is at peace now and will no longer be in pain and suffering.

Our deepest sympathy,
Love Chris and John V

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Biography

Marilyn R. (DaSilva) O’Neil, age 81 of Dartmouth, passed away peacefully on Monday, December 28, 2020 in Rhode Island Hospital in Providence, RI. She was the wife of Jay R. O’Neil, to whom she had been married for 60 years.

Born in New Bedford, the daughter of the late Albino and Angelina (Arujo) DaSilva, she was a graduate of New Bedford High School and went on to receive her Associates Degree from the Carnegie Institute of Technology in Boston.

Mrs. O’Neil was employed as Clinical Research Director for over 40 years. She was employed with Truesdale Clinic in Fall River, Hawthorne Medical, Allergy Associates and Northeast Clinical Research all of Dartmouth until her retirement in 2004.

Marilyn was an accomplished seamstress, who enjoyed making costumes for her grandchildren and on occasion for theatre productions. She was a participant in the Miss New Bedford pageant and played the piano. Marilyn also loved being outdoors and enjoyed tending to her many beautiful flower gardens at home.

In addition to her husband of 60 years, she is survived by three sons, Michael O’Neil and his wife Cheryl of New Bedford, Kevin O’Neil and his wife Dawn of San Diego, CA and JJ O’Neil and his longtime companion Paula D’Almeida of New Bedford; five grandchildren Haylee, Alexis, Kyleigh, Alicia and Nicholas O’Neil and two extended family granddaughters Melissa Rock and Megan Hludzik and six extended family great grandchildren.

Her Visitation will be held on Tuesday, January 5, 2021 from 5 to 8PM in the WARING-SULLIVAN HOME AT DARTMOUTH, 230 Russells Mills Rd, Dartmouth. Flowers are welcome or memorial contributions in her honor may be made to St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital, 501 St. Jude Place, Memphis, TN 38105. Her Funeral Mass and Burial will be private. For online tribute and directions, please visit: www.waring-sullivan.com

********EULOGY********

There is a special place in heaven for the mother of three boys”, was something heard frequently in the O’Neil household.

As far back as I can remember, my brothers and I were a handful to say the very least. Our mother was an only child in a rather strict, Portuguese household and so being introduced to the shenanigans of three very active, and often times pushing the limits boys, was a complete life re-education for the woman who went to charm and elocution school.

Early on, with the typical activities of Little League baseball and Boy Scouts, mom was always running here or there keeping us occupied. Later, after moving away from all her family and friends to a small town in Missouri, mom would open our home to everyone. Mom quickly found her passion in the Community Council of the Performing Arts as a costume maker and designer for many productions while becoming famous for fashioning regal garments for a production of Camelot out of old draperies from local churches and historical homes.

Another move back to New England brought a new chapter to mom’s life where she entered her career as a Clinical Research Site Manager. Through her nearly forty years in this profession came the birth of her first granddaughter. Granddaughter number one filled her life with so much joy until granddaughter number two arrived six years later and quickly followed by granddaughter number three a year after that. Mom was a master of sharing herself selflessly among her three girls that she so often times said were the girls that she always hoped she had. In true mom fashion, with the adoption of two more grandchildren, yet another girl and finally a boy, mom’s love seemed to know no bounds. The addition of a couple “instant granddaughters” and their subsequent children just expanded her love.

Many, many years passed with many, many fun filled Christmas Eves; an event where extended family, friends and neighbors gathered for good food, a few drinks and the piles of presents for all the children that were present. I personally remember many times ringing the “sleigh bells” outside the family room doors and then running around the house to catch the last bits of wrapping paper being ripped away from presents.

The years passed and mom battled a few chronic illnesses that began to take their toll on her health. The family gatherings became fewer and farther between. The number of attendees dwindled as children grew and moved on to their own lives. Near the very end, mom would make every effort to put on events like she used to, but her limitations would often put a halt to even the best of plans.

Unfortunately the year 2020 brought mom’s life to an end. It signaled the end of sixty years of marriage and the endless and selfless love she had for her family. The woman who loved so many and was loved by even more, passed quietly in her sleep on December 28, 2020. Mom, may you find rest and peace and remember to tell Jesus as you pass into heaven, “there is a special place here for me, right?? After all, I am the mother of three boys and by the way, please take your shoes off.”.