OBITUARY

Joan "Joni" M. (Bent) Vance

May 30, 1940January 14, 2021

Joan Marcella (Bent) Vance was born May 30, 1940 at St. Ann’s Hospital in Dayton, Ohio and passed on Thursday, January 13th, 2021 at Walnut Creek Nursing Home in Kettering, Ohio. She is preceded in death by her parents Harry P. Bent and Marcella C. (Zimmer) Bent, brother, Gary Bent, and husband Richard Griffith Vance Sr. (Dick). She is survived by her loving family, son, Richard Griffith Vance Jr. (Rich), daughter, Vicki Vance Pauley, (Tim Pauley), granddaughters, Lauren Marcella Pauley, and Elisabeth Avery Pauley (Lissa) and sisters Joyce (Bent) Kochendorfer, Dianna (Bent) Miljan, Barbara (Bent) Cannon, Debbie (Bent) Debrose, Jeanette (Bent) Cory, and Bev (Bent) Kreitzer.

She was a wonderful mother, wife, Gramme, and friend. She built a family out of her love, strength, kindness, and pure joy for life. She enjoyed gardening, outdoor walks, volunteering, bowling, dancing and playing cards with her family and friends. She attended St. Mary’s parochial school, Wilbur Wright school, and is a 1958 graduate of John H. Patterson Co-Op High School. She was a member and secretary of the Patterson Co-Op Student Council, member of the Inter-Club Council and Beaverines.

Joni was a board member of the Beavercreek High School Athletic Boosters, mass coordinator at St. Albert’s the Great in Kettering, Ohio, and board member/Senior Regent (1994-95) of the female auxiliary of the Loyal Order of Moose (Women of the Moose Lodge# 73, Chapter #9).

She began working at the early age of fourteen at the pretzel bakery in Dayton, Ohio and her career included customer service representative at Dayton Power and Light Company, Carlson Marketing, Lazarus, and Standard Register. She also worked at the family owned IGA in Huber Town and Lebanon SuperValu.

As stated in her senior year Patterson Co-Op will, she wished to will to her little sister, Joyce, “my ability to make lots and lots of noise in the halls.” We know that she will dance and make lots of noise in heaven, as we hope to honor her with lots of noise, laughter, joy, and dancing in our remembrance of her.

She will be greatly missed by her family and friends. While we know this loss is one of the hardest things that we will experience, she will always be in our heart and memories. Until we meet again, we will love you always and forever.

In lieu of flowers, please donate to the Alzheimer’s Association in Joni’s name. Thank you.

Services

  • Visitation

    Friday, January 22, 2021

  • Mass of Christian Burial

    Saturday, January 23, 2021

Memories

Joan "Joni" M. (Bent) Vance

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Rich and Jackie Siefring

January 21, 2021

Dick and Joni were our next door neighbors on Stormy Court. We had a lot of fun and a lot of neighborly experiences together. We enjoyed them so much. Sending our sincere condolences to Vicki and Rich.
Rich and Jackie Siefring

Barb Cannon

January 21, 2021

Joan only stood 5’ tall but she cast a long shadow as my eldest sister! Saturday mornings she would host a family jitter bug party as a prelude to cleaning house—she should have been a Marine Recruiter or perhaps a Drill Instructor. She played sports well without messing up her hair, she was smart, pretty, hardworking & active in clubs in which she often became an officer. Joni, as many friends called her, was popular with gals as well as guys because she was fun to be around. One of the saddest days of my life was when she called me & told me she didn’t understand why she couldn’t remember things but she was going to fight it...and fight it she did for two plus decades! The last time I saw her we listened to 50’s music, she & my sister Joyce held hands as if they were jitter bugging, Joan smiled & sang Bum Bum Bum along with the song “Mr. Sandman”. Love you, Joan

Dianna Miljan

January 20, 2021

Joan "Joni" my dear sister I have not been near the family for many years living in California but I will always remember my sister for her acceptance of me as I was and as I changed into something better. She always expressed kindness to me and was always willing to help in any way that may have been necessary and needed. She was gracious in so many ways. She reached out to me during my time of loss in the many ways that might go unnoticed by others but not to me. My heart is full my words few, they are full of love and gratitude.

Dianna

Lisa Dunn-Albanese

January 20, 2021

I have so many fond memories of Joan, starting when Vicki and I were in high school. If I spent the night, I would find my clothes washed and ready to go the next morning! During college summers she made me feel welcome to come over and float around their pool on a raft, listening to soap operas with Vicki. She would make sure we had a good meal in our stomachs before going out for the night, which likely delayed absorption of whatever we drank later and probably saved us from more trouble than we actually found:) I remember her pantry devoid of cracker boxes or pretzel bags, instead there were neatly organized tupperware containers, which I've tried to emulate as an adult but with less success. The entire house was always spotless. I'll remember her most for her beautiful warm smile and for treating me like another daughter. My sincere condolences to the family for her loss, she will be missed.
Love,
Lisa

Lauren Pauley

January 19, 2021

Gramme was the best grandmother I could have ever wished for. She gave me my first Ballerina blanket which led me to continue dancing for many years. My favorite picture of me, Lissa and Gramme is one of us all dancing :) Gramme was such a joy and always came over for sleep overs when we were little. Though I don’t have an abundance of memories with her, I’ve thought about her all the time in the past number of years since her Alzheimer’s diagnosis. Gramme, we miss you so much! Forever dancing in your memory 💜

Much love,
Lauren

FROM THE FAMILY
FROM THE FAMILY