Gerard J. Jokubiel
April 6, 1950 – June 20, 2020
Beloved husband of Kathleen. Proud veteran of the United States Navy, serving his country in The Vietnam War. Gerard found great pleasure in gardening and was especially fond of his roses and his Dinnerplate Hibiscus. He was a man that treasured his family, loved to travel on cruises and could not resist a round of golf. Always a giver to his family, friends and church, he never looked to receive. A gentleman who will be missed by all who knew him.
To the living, I am gone. To the sorrowful, I will never return. To the angry, I was cheated, but to the happy, I am at peace and to the faithful, I have never left. I cannot be seen, but I can be heard. So as you stand, upon a shore, gazing at a beautiful sea – remember me. As you look in awe at a mighty forest and its grand majesty - remember me. As you look upon a flower and admire its simplicity – remember me. Remember me in your heart, your thoughts, your memories of the times we loved, the times we cried, the times we fought, the times we laughed. For if you always think of me, I will never be gone.
Tuesday, June 23, 2020
Wednesday, June 24, 2020
Mass of Christian Burial
Thursday, June 25, 2020
Thursday, June 25, 2020
Gerard J. Jokubiel
July 6, 2020
As far back as I can remember, Gerard is in my memory. As a matter of fact, recalling the past, Kathy and Gerard's wedding is one of my earliest memories as a child. I remember thinking to myself- Gerard is really cool. He's got the thick beard and that ruffled tuxedo shirt.
When I look back on the years- over holidays, birthdays, weddings, vacations; Gerard is always there. He always had a seat at the table- usually the head..
You know how you make associations with certain things in life. Well, Gerard has created many for me. For instance, I can't think or hear the word golf without Gerard and my father popping into my head. Now many of you have heard stories about the 'pair that couldn't shoot straight.' I'm going to leave those hilarious adventures stories to my father and Harry Jordan.
Lake George is another one. Gerard loved Lake George. We shared so many years of good times up there. And I believe Gerard is the person who taught me what a pontoon boat was. And I still to this day think of him and how he pronounced it with such exuberance. "Danny, what are you renting, a pon-toooon boat?"
I don't know for sure if Gerard owned many Cadillacs, but I know he sure talked about them a lot. So that's another association for me. You say Cadillac, I see Gerard. He did fancy himself as a car enthusiast. I can remember vividly when I bought my first nice car. It was a 2004 Acura TL. We were at June and Paul's block party on 20th Street and I was so excited about this car and the person who shared that excitement with me- J-Rock. We sat in my car pumping The Doobie Brothers, Listen to the Music and he inspected every inch of that car. I thought Gerard was really cool then too. So you heard me refer to Gerard as J-Rock. Me and my brother and little Kenny and our cousins many years ago endearingly nicknamed Gerard, J-Rock for his old man swagger. His colognes, the velour polos, his attention to the finer things.
July 6, 2020
While I was writing this a smile ran across my face because I think it’s kind of touching in a unique way to have an uncle that you coolly call J-Rock.
In honoring Gerard this afternoon I would be remiss not to talk a little bit about his relationship as a son-in-law. There are no words to describe how much Kathy loved her mother, Gloria. I don’t think there is a person in this room who didn’t see how supportive Gerard was as a husband to taking care of Aunt Gloria. Despite the natural ebb and flow of relationships between mother-in-laws and son-in-laws, Gerard was always there to provide for Aunt Gloria. It takes a big man to share his life and his wife with her mother and I want to recognize and acknowledge his kindness and compassion toward Aunt Gloria who he endearingly called mom.
And finally- Gerard as a doting husband. As I sat in the funeral home yesterday looking at all of the pictures of Kathy and Gerard it became more clear to me than ever that not only did they share a marriage- they shared their life. They shared a love that few people find. Gerard loved Kathy with all of his being and as hard as the road ahead is going to be- I know that they are going to share eternity together.
Everyone please raise your glass. In loving memory- to Gerard. May you rest easy as we celebrate your life and honor. Salute!
June 28, 2020
It’s hard to pick one story or feeling I have for my Uncle Gerard. He was like a 2nd father to me. As a kid I always wanted to go to New York for the summer and spend as much time with him and Aunt Kathy as I could. It wasn’t just that they spoiled the crap out of me, which they did! But I also got unconditional love and life lessons from both which would help me become the man I am today.
I am honored that he taught me the game he loved, golf. I had never even picked up a golf club before. Honestly, I don’t think I was really that interested at first when Uncle Gerard brought it up. But he was always such a cool guy that I looked up to. I wanted to do what I could to spend more time with him and hopefully impress him.
I was instantly hooked. We’d spend time after he got off work and days off at the driving range. Regardless of how tired he was, we went. He did what he could to scrounge together a beginner set of clubs for me and before I knew it, we were out on the course. As with everything else in his life 😉, he took his time teaching me about techniques, stances and club selection. As I began to get better, I’d occasionally hit a better shot than him. He’d say, “Get the hell outta here!” or “That’s it kid! Now you’re walking!”
I still play golf. I taught my wife how to play using the same lessons that Uncle Gerard taught me. We enjoy playing very much and it is a big part of our life together. I’ve never played a round of golf without thinking about Uncle Gerard and never will. I am grateful that he took the time to teach me the game he loved and help mold me into the man I am today.
June 23, 2020
The first time we played golf with Kathy and Gerard, Gerard kept correcting Kathy on her stance, her swing, her choice of club, etc. Kathy would toll her eyes and say, "yes, Gerard". He just wanted her to do well! Damn...with each hole Kathy got better and better and attained a score better than Gerard, Paul and I!! She sure showed him and made him proud!!