Alice "Joan" Files
January 5, 1933 – May 16, 2020
Alice “Joan” Files passed away on May 16, 2020 in Norman, OK. She was born January 5, 1933 in Prole, Iowa, to Bruce and Ruby Smith. Joan took pleasure in the simple things in life. She enjoyed sports and was a huge Thunder fan. She loved taking care of the house, cooking for her family, tending to her garden, plants, and flowers, visiting with her neighbors, and occasionally watching her favorite soap opera. She also loved taking care of and spoiling her grandchildren, playing games, and reading books. Joan was preceded in death by her husband of 54 years Glenn Files. She also leaves behind her sons; Gary and wife Jan, & Craig and wife Stephanie, six grandchildren Zach Stephens and wife Monica, Lindsay Files, J.T, Files and wife Audrey, Jennifer Hallam and husband Chase, Taylor Files, Megan Files, and five great-grandchildren Skylar, Kayson, Bryce, Addyson, and Harper. She is also survived by her sister Vera Albright and brother David Smith.
Saturday, May 30, 2020
Alice "Joan" Files
May 30, 2020
Our family have been neighbors/friends of the Files for 50+ years.
We have shared many memories of happy times and of loss.
Joan had a gentle spirit but she was tough too! I recall her mowing the yard and taking care of her plants. She shared with me one of her beautiful
peony’s, which I have planted in my backyard.
I read this at my moms memorial last year.
Grief never ends but it changes.
It’s a passage not a place to stay.
Grief is not a sign of weakness nor a lack of faith.
It is the price of love
To Gary, Craig and families, I grieve with you over the loss of Joan because I loved her too. She will be missed, 20th street won’t be the same!
Janell Butler Powers
May 23, 2020
Joan and Glenn use to pick me up on a weekend morning and we would spend all day together. She always fed me everytime I would visit. She sometimes would get onto Glenn for making a joke she felt i shouldn't hear at a young age. Of course it was always in good fun. Glenn and Joan took me in and shared family stories that otherwise I might never have known. She started my path in family history research with a few names only. Now its over 3000 names. She will be greatly missed.
My condolences to her children and grandchildren.
May 21, 2020
I will miss my sister Joan so very much. The past few years, especially the last few months, we spent a lot of time on the phone and I am going to miss those calls. I am so grateful that I was able to visit with Joan several times the past few years in her home and especially glad I was able to see her in January. Though the January visit was short I have happy memories of that time with her. I had received a box of chocolates for Christmas so thought I would share a couple with her and have the rest on my trip South. But as I got up to leave, with a twinkle in her eyes she said " now you are not going to take that box of chocolates with you are you?" We both laughed and the chocolates stayed. I still see that twinkle in her eyes and that makes me smile.
As teenagers we were known as "the Smith girls" if you saw one you saw both. I always thought of her as "the good Smith girl" and that never really changed through the years. She was always the unselfish one, putting others first and giving in to bratty sister more than once. All her adult life she reminded me that she often did my chores because I would have my nose in a book. She would always repeat " you would always say 'let me finish this page--chapter...' whatever and then I'd do your chores". I am not sure she ever forgave me but I know she didn't forget.
She was always the good one in my eyes ; I could never quite live up to my big sister and I will miss her.
We always missed our mom and Joan and I talked about her often. I think she is very happy to be with mom again and sharing together the presence of Jesus.