Patricia Jane Hudgins
March 18, 1963 – June 23, 2020
For those whom were unable to attend the services this past Sunday, here is the lovely letter that her wonderful husband Robert wrote:
June 26, 2020
My Beloved Wife, Patty,
I met you on a Friday night in late August 1993, in a local night club that has since closed. You looked beautiful that night, as you strolled past me, complimenting me on how I looked. I, of course, returned the compliment, wondering just who this blonde beauty was. Mesmerized, I gazed at you from across the dance floor and found that you were gazing at me too. Eventually, I worked up the nerve to move a little closer, afraid that someone else might steal you away. Needing a little “liquid courage”, I downed my drink and asked you to dance, it was the beginning of the end of my bachelor life. We danced all night together, talked, and laughed, and enjoyed each other’s company.
You asked me, what plans I had the next day and I told you none (when in actuality, I had a blind date that I eagerly canceled in order to spend that next day with you.) We drove to Colorado Springs, where I met your sister Gail and her future husband Miguel. I met your parents Don and Bev that day and your grandmother Louise the day after that. It was the start of a whirlwind romance, call it love at first sight if you will, but you and I were inseparable from that moment on. Two months later, we moved in with one another and on our first night in our first home together, I asked you to marry me. Luckily for me, you said “yes”. I swear that I got the better part of the deal, but you insisted that we were both equally lucky. I married you on a Saturday, one year to the date of our fortuitous meeting in that night club, August 27, 1994, and for the next 26 years, you would be my wife, my lover, my confidante, my biggest fan and my best friend. You showed me what love truly was, not by kisses, not by hugs, not by words, but by how much you dedicated yourself to your family, your friends, your colleagues and to the world in general. You gave yourself freely and wholeheartedly to anyone that needed a kind word or a bit of encouragement to get through the day. Total strangers would tell you their life story in a matter of minutes, while standing in the checkout line at the grocery story, all because you complimented them on how they dressed or how their hair looked. This was the impact that you had on others. Look around here baby, all these people here today are here because you somehow touched their lives, either through actions of your own or perhaps through me.
Our friend Meredith said to me the other night, “You had such a difficult childhood Robert, how is it that you turned out so well? What was the turning point for you?” I told her that, “Patty was the turning point in my life.” At 28 when we met, I was floundering trying to figure out what to do with my life. You were educated, you had a great job, a great family, and many great friends. You made me want to be a better man. You made me want to strive to do something great with my life, because I knew that if I did not do everything that I could with the potential that I had, I would surely lose you to a better man than I. So, you pushed me, you poked me, you prodded me to finish school and begin my teaching career. A move that placed me in the company of the greatest educators that I could ever have the pleasure of working with. You were my turning point honey, and you are my light and my love, for now and for always.
You died on a Tuesday in June of 2020, the worst year of my life. We both battled the Corona Virus valiantly, I survived, yet you did not. I asked God why I was spared, instead of you and the only answer I can come up with is that God knew about your pre-existing conditions, what this plague would do to your body and that I would have to help take care of you in your time of need. In reality, I feel I did little to truly help you, other than to support our family, who were the real heroes of this tragic story. From your sister Cheryl who oversaw every aspect of your care from beginning to end, my sister Chaz who took care of me and helped nurse me back to the man I am today, to the army of siblings, nieces, nephews, great nieces and great nephews who descended upon on our home when we were sick, and took care of everything from taking care of our little furry children, to paying our bills and handling our finances, to disinfecting our home so that we could come back to a clean, COVID-free house. Unfortunately, you never physically made it back to the home that we built together for the last 22 years, but I know that your beautiful spirit will always be with me there.
My dear, sweet Patty, when I am alone, I often wonder how I will ever get along without you? How will I ever continue to live in this hard, cruel, world that feels so vast and so empty, now that you are gone? So, I place my Faith into the guiding hands of the Lord, and then I look around at all of these beautiful people who are here today, and I know that with their love and support and a good swift kick in the ass every now and then, I can do it for you and for us, if I can just focus on things, one day at a time. It will be difficult, it will be heart-wrenching, and I know that I will sometimes lose my way in the grief that I feel, but I have so much more life to live in your name and in the name of our wonderful 27 year relationship. Your light may have been extinguished prematurely, but the ember of your soul continues to burn brightly and I will see you again my sweet angel, in a much more wonderful place than here.
Until then, I will continue to love you unconditionally and eternally,
Your Loving Husband, Robert
Patricia Jane Hudgins, age 57, of Highlands Ranch, Colorado passed away on Tuesday June 23, 2020. Patricia was born March 18, 1963.
Patty worked as a Registered Nurse in home healthcare for the past 32 years. The best years of her career were spent when she worked for FirstChoice Home Healthcare.
Patty loved going to the Bronco games, doing ceramics with her mom Beverly, shopping trips to Estes Park, going on road trips with her husband Robert, oceans and beaches. She was fond of caring for others, was loved by all and was considered the matriarch of the family.
Patty was survived by her husband of 26 years, Robert Hudgins; her fur children (her wonderful cats) Sierra, Sophia, Sassy, Sammie, Socks, and Smudge; her brother Mark (Linda) DeHaven; her sisters Gail (Miguel) Garcia, and Cheryl (Carlos) Hernandez; Nieces Kim, Krystal, and Jackie; nephews Nick, and Adriano; great-nieces Caitlyn, and Isabella; and great-nephews Christopher, Jon, and Matthew.
Patty was pre-deceased by her parents Donald and Beverly DeHaven; her grandparents Bert and Louise Ireson; and her fur children Saffy, Samoya, Sugar, Spice, and Sinnamon.
Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.olingerhampdenmortuary.com for the Hudgins family.
Patty's memorial is on Sunday, June 28 at 10AM. It will be held at Charles Hay World School located at 1221 E. Eastman Ave., Englewood, CO 80113.
Out of respect for Patty and Robert and in addition to following state law, social distancing and masks are mandatory.
Sunday, June 28, 2020
Patricia Jane Hudgins
July 3, 2020
Patty, my heart broke when I heard the news of your death. I can't believe you are gone. Every memory I have of you involves laughter and smiles. Nearly falling over backwards in our chairs at a conference is still one of my favorite giggles. I thought they were going to ask us to leave because we were laughing so much! I haven't seen you in a while, but I am so sad for the loss of your light in this lifetime. Your heart was the biggest! I will see you on the other side.
June 27, 2020
My heart is so broken. I worked with Patty at First Choice. Then about 5 years ago I was working at BrightStar and my boss came in and said, I hired someone I think you know, Patty Hudgins.” I laughed and said, This place will never be the same” and it never was. We were buddies, partners in crime and friends. I loved that beautiful lady and Robert you’re in my heart. I’m praying for you. She loved you so very much!!!
June 27, 2020
Dont know you personally; however your sister Gail is my sister- m - law. I have heard her pain as well as my neices on how sad they have been/ are. Reading your history as a hospital nurse and a wonderful loving Aunt know I am praying for you! My prayers right now are of a swift voyage to be with our Lord. Blessings always to you, your family members, and my sumister-n- law and her family!
June 27, 2020
I am in complete shock. Robert and Patty were among the few that were invited to our wedding and although we haven’t seen one another for a long time, we had that kind of relationship where we loved each other and were lifelong friends. Neil and I are moving and I just came across a note from Patty and Robert and some photos that feels like more than just a coincidence. Robert, we love you and we are here for you. We are moving back to Denver and we would love to celebrate Patty. I really can’t believe this. We were friends 25 years ago and I remember how excited I was that Robert might teach my kids. Patty was special. Very special. I’m devastated.
June 26, 2020
How you will be missed in this world. Such a special, delightful human being. I have so many fond memories of you and your mom while we were taking care of your grandma in the community where I worked.
I have always honored your professional ethics, professionalism and your commitment to the care of seniors.
I have always enjoyed and will always keep with me your mega watt smile, your playful spirit and your kindness to others.
I am most grateful our paths crossed in this lifetime Patty.
Comfort to your family as they adjust to the physical loss of you. May your beautiful spirit be with them always.
June 26, 2020
We had so many fun times together. I especially enjoyed playing pool on your mini pool table a couple years ago and our trip to Vegas when we spent 6 hours in the pool. When I would go to Denver to attend a Bronco game, I knew you’d always be willing to be there sitting next to me cheering. I am grateful I was able to spend 9 days with you in April and share a few laughs with you watching movies. You will always be in my heart!
June 26, 2020
Patty was such fun to work with at First Choice. I would sometimes call her on my way to work and pretend I was calling in sick with this terrible pretend sick voice. She would always laugh so hard, and I loved to make her laugh, as she had the best laugh ever. I can still hear it. She will be dearly missed.
June 26, 2020
She helped and loved so many!! She was an amazing nurse and friend to so many people! My heart is with her husband and family. Only love ❤️ she was one of the best!!
June 26, 2020
I cannot find the words to say how much I will miss her or how sorry I am that her family lost such a fun and bright light in this world. She cared for everyone and had a genuine love for those who were hurt, struggling or in need of a friend. Patty and I met when I was her mom's nurse at LCCL. I was honored to be able to care for her mom and I met a wonderful person and friend. She could make me laugh, she would do anything for anyone. She was an awesome nurse and friend. It was a blessing to know Patty, I will miss you my BFF. Love ya!