Jay Winder

Jay Winder, beloved husband, father, loyal friend, and cherished presence, was born on March 17, 1971, and passed away on August 29, 2026, at the age of 55. A resident of Illinois, Jay leaves behind a legacy of deep love, quiet strength, and lasting devotion to the people and pets he held dear.

Jay is survived by his wife, Mary Winder, who shared more than three decades of life, friendship, and love with him. From the time they were young, Jay had a way of making Mary feel seen, protected, and free. He encouraged her fiercely independent spirit, never trying to contain it, but instead opening the door and cheering her on as she became fully herself.

He was the proud father of Drew Winder, Tristan Winder and his spouse, Paulina, and Kyra Winder. He marveled at the unique paths each of his children chose and encouraged them in every way he could. Jay loved his family unconditionally and more deeply than words could always capture. His love was expressed in his own quiet and steadfast way: loyal, constant, and unmistakably his.

Those who knew Jay knew he was entirely his own person. He had a distinctive sense of humor, a strong will, and a personality that was unmistakably his. He could be tough on the outside, sometimes awkward in tender moments, and not always quick with the right words. Yet beneath it all was a deeply loyal heart, a steady light, and the making of an amazing man.

Jay found joy in simple things and had a special love for his dogs, often showing them a patience and tenderness that revealed another side of him. He hoped for the best but planned for the worst, and when it mattered most, he was steady, practical, and strong. To his family, he was a rock, an anchor, and a source of protection.

Jay grew throughout his life. He tried, he learned, and in the ways that mattered most, he succeeded. He may have worried that he was not good enough, but to those who truly knew his heart, he was more than enough. His memory will live on in the stories that still bring laughter, the quiet spaces where his absence will be felt, and the ordinary moments that became everything.

Jay will be deeply missed and lovingly remembered by all who knew and loved him.

Visitation Thursday, September 3, 2026, from 4pm until 8pm at Oehler Funeral Home, 2099 Miner Street, Des Plaines, IL. Mass of Catholic Burial Friday, September 4, 2026 at 10am at St. Mary Church, 794 Pearson Street, Des Plaines, IL. For more information, please call (847) 824-5155.