

Ray was a devoted husband to his beloved wife Phyllis, and a loving and supportive father to his children, Kevin and Kim. In his youth, he enjoyed working on cars and boats, playing football, and fixing things. He also loved photography, especially capturing Phyllis at the piano, the kids in the theatre, or on the lake. An avid reader, Ray pored over everything from newspapers to non-fiction to novels to financial publications, always keeping an eye on the markets. Family and friends counted on him for the latest on current affairs, or a deep dive into a myriad of topics. During the course of his career, Ray used his MBA-Finance as a business manager in multiple industries, including executive search, health care, and education. But Ray was happiest on the water – driving the boat, pulling skiers, especially his kids and grandkids – and sharing laughter.
Faith played a central role in Ray’s life. At church, he was a Confirmation teacher, board member, volunteered for the choir (aka PartyTray-Ray), attended and brought others to Family Camp, and served as Treasurer and Business Manager for several years… always seeking to strengthen the community he loved. Beyond his church, Ray was deeply committed to service. He was a staple for PizzaMania and other initiatives during his tenure as treasurer of Kiwanis, served on the District 34 School Board as well as the condo association of Clear Lake – his cherished “happy place”.
Perhaps what defined Ray most was his quiet, everyday kindness. He showed his love through action – driving friends to medical appointments or the elderly to church, delivering donuts to brighten someone’s day, and clearing snow from neighbors’ driveways. He never sought recognition; he simply saw a need and met it. He was known as Raymond, Raymie, Dad, and lastly, Boppy, a name he fulfilled proudly for his five grandchildren. Ray was admired for his work ethic and sense of priorities, which he instilled in his family. When thinking of Ray, people remember his love of Lou Malnati’s, Caruso’s, a cold beer or dry martini, nice cars, church volleyball, Happy Hour shakes, and his answer (“sure!”) to almost anything… but most of all, his steadfast dedication to family.
Ray is survived by his wife, Phyllis (nee Herzog), sister Joanie O’Hare, brother John Scott (Joan), children Kevin (Lindsay) and Kimberly, and grandchildren Sarah, Alyssa, Caroline, Clayton, and Austin.
A service to celebrate Ray’s life will be held on Saturday, June 27, 2026, at 11am. Due to construction at Northfield Community Church, services will be held at neighboring Lutheran Church of Ascension, located at 460 Sunset Ridge Rd., Northfield, IL 60093. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be directed to Kiwanis of Glenview-Northbrook or Northfield (IL) Community Church, or that you honor Ray’s memory by performing a simple act of kindness for someone in need just as he so often did.
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