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OBITUARY

Carol A. Greiner

May 19, 1935March 24, 2020
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The Wife of UB’s 13th president was a tireless community leader and University supporter.

Carol Ann Greiner (nee Morrissey), the wife of former University at Buffalo President William Greiner, died Tuesday March 24th of natural causes, surrounded by family at her home in Williamsville. She was 84. Carol Greiner will be remembered as a quintessential University citizen, a tireless advocate for UB, an active civic leader, a warm and giving friend, and loving mother to her four children and thirteen grandchildren. Carol and Bill Greiner began what was to become a life-changing journey to Buffalo in 1967, when Bill accepted a position on the Law faculty at the University at Buffalo. The couple soon became a fixture at the University, community events, local politics, and youth sports. Bill rose through the ranks at UB, and with Carol’s support, eventually led the University as it’s 13th President. In addition to raising four children, Carol worked throughout her life as a community volunteer and supporting student life at UB. Carol lived a long life of public service. While living in Seattle, she organized a campaign to raise funds for the establishment of the first kidney dialysis center in that city. She was a longtime member of the Kiwi Club, organizing a national alliance of stewardesses, a PTA member and President, Cub and Girl Scout leader, and she helped organize the first Teen Center in Amherst. She served on numerous boards, including the American Association of Universities Partners, a term as Chair of the National Association of State Universities and Land Grant Colleges, and the Executive Committee of the Partner's Program of the Association of American Universities (AAU). Locally she served on the boards of the Bethel Head Start Language Development Program, the Amherst Youth Foundation, the Women's Committee of the Buffalo Philharmonic Orchestra, Women at Studio Arena Theatre, Women for Downtown, the UB Women's Club, and the Friends of the UB Center for the Arts. While remembered for her prominent roles in the community and at UB, Carol was born to extremely humble beginnings in Meriden Connecticut, the daughter of Robert and Lydia Morrissey, a mailman and factory worker. She was a star athlete at Meriden High School, and from age five throughout her high school years she danced with childhood friend Tomie dePaolo, the famed children’s book author and illustrator. The couple performed throughout Connecticut and performed in the industrial show circuit in New York City, winning several competitions. Mr. dePaolo remembered her “…as my oldest and very best friend in the world. Carol was talented, vivacious, and never took no for an answer. ‘Senorita Swing,’ as I knew her, was the one person who would play dress-up with me. Half my heart is gone.” After high school, Carol was accepted to the University of Connecticut. After University, she was accepted into the American Airlines training program in Chicago, completing the program as its outstanding graduate. She then moved to Dallas, and for two years worked as a stewardess on most of American’s domestic flight routes. On West Coast runs she frequently met celebrities, including her idol Gene Kelly, who helped her serve breakfast to the plane’s passengers. Later she helped organize and served on flights that transported refugees from the Hungarian uprising to new homes in America. According to Carol’s oldest son Kevin Greiner: “My mother was fiercely independent, competitive, and felt strongly about public service — values she passed on to each of us. What most people don’t know is that she was also way ahead of her time. In the late 1950’s, when women her age were expected to marry and start raising children, she moved across the country to start a career on her own. By the time she was 24, she saw more of the country than most people see in a lifetime. That attitude, and experience, led to a lifetime of working for women’s rights in the workplace, and promoting opportunities for women to advance within UB.” Her early life was marked by adventure, and her entire life was defined by her story book romance with Bill. The two met as youngsters in Meriden, and by high school were officially sweethearts. Though Carol loved her work, when Bill proposed she bowed to company policy forbidding married stewardesses and left the airline. After traveling the country on a 90-day gift pass from American’s management, the two began a life together in which they were never far apart. The couple moved to Seattle, where Bill accepted a position at the University of Washington, and promptly started a family, raising four children — Kevin, Terrence, Daniel, and Susan. Bill freely admitted that he never would have had the life or career he had without Carol. She put her own career on hold to support him during law school. In an interview in 1999 he said as much: “Through all this, Carol is my partner. The truth is I’d be much more reluctant to do a lot of things I do if she didn’t come with me...It sounds trite, but it’s like that line from the movie ‘Jerry Maguire.’ She completes me.” According to Tom Headrick, one of Carol and Bill’s oldest friends who was recruited to join UB as Dean of the Law School in 1976: “In 1958 Carol formed the Yale law students’ wives club, and immediately, in her gregarious way, befriended my wife Maggie and me. Our lives were interwoven from then on — Carol’s enthusiasm was infectious, and as a couple they had a unique magnetism. Those same qualities shaped her life with Bill as a partner both in love and in his role as UB leader. Carol was the one who insisted that Bill build connections not just with faculty and state leaders, but an emotional bond with students and the people across Buffalo. In her mind and heart, the University was a family living in a neighborhood where everyone cared for each other. She inspired and guided Bill and together they made UB a much better and friendlier place.” Carol was known for her spirit, boundless energy, generosity, and deep commitment to family. She often talked about how fortunate she was to live the life she did and travel the world with Bill in support of the University’s many initiatives. Yet she also built an established public service career in her own right. It was during Bill’s tenure as President that she led multiple initiatives at the University and across Western New York supporting access to higher education for students of limited means. According to and Cindy Letro: “I’ll never forget as a student seeing Carol picking up Bill in front of the law school with all the kids in the back seat. Carol and Bill were coequals in their love of the University and of every student. They left their mark on all of us and UB, and our community is better for knowing them. Carol and Bill were giants in our lives. Amazing people with big hearts and personalities. Carol made a difference in hundreds of lives, and such a bright spirit — beautiful, strong and committed to all she cared about.” Carol was also known for the deep friendships she forged throughout her life. Carol Petro, who knew Carol from her early days in Buffalo, put it this way: “Carol was a warm and gracious woman —- always ready to laugh and enjoy the moment. She welcomed the stranger and took pleasure in her friends.” Mary Kate O'Connell, who for years led DIVA, A Celebration of Women! Noted that “…her class, kindness, generosity, humor, love, dedication, strength and, friendship represented the DIVA Sisterhood. Her favorite quote from the show was, ‘The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.’ She also made sure to say in each show that ‘Dreams do come true if you keep believing in yourself. Anything is possible.’ Thank you for you, my friend.” Carol Greiner will be dearly missed by her four children and thirteen grandchildren. Funeral services will be private. A public memorial service will be held later this year. Those whom we love and lose are no longer where they were before. They are now wherever we are. (Attributed to St. John Chrysostum) In lieu of flowers, you can direct donations to UB Center for the Arts, Carol Greiner Memorial Fund, UB Foundation, Box 900 Buffalo ,NY 14226-0900

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  • UB Center for the Arts, Carol Greiner Memorial Fund, UB Foundation

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  • A Celebration of Carol's Life will be held at a later date., No Prior Visitation

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Jo-Anne Wylie

April 1, 2020

To The Family Of Carol Greiner,
I had the pleasure of meeting Carol through her friends at the Twentieth Century Club. It was an honor and privilege to know such a warm, intelligent and gracious lady. On the few occasions we spoke, she always wanted to hear about my adventures as a flight attendant for thirty-six years and her face would light up when speaking of her career at American Airlines. My favorite meeting with Carol includes seeing her in CVS with her daughter, there was Carol, wheeling her cart while wearing bunny rabbit ears, complete with price tag as she was shopping! The smile on her face light up the whole store!
This very fun and gracious lady will be sorely missed, however, we are all very fortunate to have known her.
May the blessing of grace be with her soul.
With Warm Regards,
Jo-Anne Wylie

Marilyn Ciancio

March 31, 2020

My greatest memories of Carol include her warm welcome and her surround sound laugh. We worked on several projects together both in harmony and fun for the Center for the Arts Advisory Council and UB Womens Club. When I was president of UBWC , Carol worked on the Masquerade Ball and the World University Games Events with me as we worked with joy and enthusiasm through it all. She was a good friend, leader, and a great inspiration to all.

Amber Witkowski

March 30, 2020

It was such an honor to care for this brilliant, traveled, loving, lively,incredible woman. A pleasure to share time with Miss Carol as well as this incredible family. My heart will forever miss our long talks, and this womans tenacity. I will miss you all. With all the love in my heart I am so sorry, she will be so missed. Xoxo

meena rustgi

March 30, 2020

Dear Sue, Kevin,Terrence and Daniel and Family,
I was very sad to hear that my dear friend your mom Carol passed away. I saw her about three weeks ago and planning to have lunch with her at Trafalgar. Sue called me when she heard my message and informed me mom is in the hospital. It was very hard for me to believe my beautiful and loving Carol has been gone. She has left so many generous good memories with me I have no words to express. She was specially very good to me when I was the President of UB Women's Club in 2000-2001. President Bill Greiner and Honorary President Carol Greiner gave us such a memorable Welcome Dinner Reception to In-coming and Out-going UB Women's Club Board Members with our spouses. She had a special photo album with Board Members just made for me to take it to India and share with my family. She will be missed sorely by the people who knew her. We pray to God to give you courage to bear this great loss. Susan come and have a lunch with me when situation get better. Keep in touch if I can assist you in any way please count on me I am just phone call away.
With heavy heart and sadness,
Meena Rustgi

Ken Joyce

March 29, 2020

Carol was fiercely loyal to Bill and her family but to me and Rita the genuineness of her smile and laughter said it all.

Judith Champlin

March 29, 2020

So long for a while-dear friend.....we will miss your warm, loving presence at our U B Gourmet Luncheons, also at the Art N" Lunch Events you partook in with us. Our's may be a short friendship in years as my being coordinator for these programs, but dear Carol, you gave me enlightened enrichment by just knowing you, & all our members by always cheering everyone on. Your loving memory will always be with me & all our members at every U B event I shall put on!

U B Event Coordinator..........Judie Champlin

Michael McKay

March 29, 2020

Dear Greiner Family-
Thank you for sharing your Mom with us. I will always remember how Mrs. Greiner greeted us with open arms during the holiday gatherings at the President’s house. We experienced nothing but warmth and happiness when we were with Mrs. Greiner.
Peace.
Michael McKay

Walter Kunz

March 29, 2020

Carol was an extraordinarily accomplished women. In day to day interaction , however, one would never know it. She was totally unassuming. She made you feel as if you were her best friend ever.
Carol had over the top social intelligence.
She had a wonderful sense of humor, and would laugh at anything. When ever I saw or heard anything funny I would think of Carol . On a few occasions if I heard a good joke , I would drive to her house, ring the bell and, when she answered, would tell her the joke and drive away while she would go to her knees on the front steps.
I loved Carol dearly. I will miss her.
Walter Kunz.

Rebecca Bernstein

March 29, 2020

Carol Greiner touched lives in big ways, but what made her memorable and loved were the small genuine ways. A smile, a laugh, a gracious note, a thoughtful note. I will never forget after my late husband passed, a bouquet of roses showed up at my door on Valentine’s Day with a note from Carol that she was thinking of me and my loss. It touched my heart. Carol, I am thinking of you and your family and sending my deepest condolences on their loss.

Lori DeFranco

March 29, 2020

I met Carol and Bill on my first day at UB Athletics and spending time with them over the years was an absolute joy! So honored to have a friendship with both and will remember them and include them in all we do at UB! I smile to think you are together again!

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Biography

Carol Ann Greiner (nee Morrissey), the wife of former University at Buffalo President William
Greiner, died Tuesday March 24th of natural causes, surrounded by family at her home in
Williamsville. She was 84.

Carol Greiner will be remembered as a quintessential University citizen, a tireless advocate for UB,
an active civic leader, a warm and giving friend, and loving mother to her four children and thirteen
grandchildren.

Carol and Bill Greiner began what was to become a life-changing journey to Buffalo in 1967, when
Bill accepted a position on the Law faculty at the University at Buffalo. The couple soon became
a fixture at the University, community events, local politics, and youth sports. Bill rose through
the ranks at UB, and with Carol’s support, eventually led the University as it’s 13th President.
In addition to raising four children, Carol worked throughout her life as a community volunteer and
supporting student life at UB. Carol lived a long life of public service. While living in Seattle, she
organized a campaign to raise funds for the establishment of the first kidney dialysis center in that
city. She was a longtime member of the Kiwi Club, organizing a national alliance of stewardesses,
a PTA member and President, Cub and Girl Scout leader, and she helped organize the first Teen
Center in Amherst.

She served on numerous boards, including the American Association of Universities Partners, a
term as Chair of the National Association of State Universities and Land Grant Colleges, and the
Executive Committee of the Partner's Program of the Association of American Universities (AAU).
Locally she served on the boards of the Bethel Head Start Language Development Program, the
Amherst Youth Foundation, the Women's Committee of the Buffalo Philharmonic Orchestra,
Women at Studio Arena Theatre, Women for Downtown, the UB Women's Club, and the Friends
of the UB Center for the Arts.

While remembered for her prominent roles in the community and at UB, Carol was born to
extremely humble beginnings in Meriden Connecticut, the daughter of Robert and Lydia Morrissey,
a mailman and factory worker. She was a star athlete at Meriden High School, and from age five
throughout her high school years she danced with childhood friend Tomie dePaolo, the famed
children’s book author and illustrator. The couple performed throughout Connecticut and
performed in the industrial show circuit in New York City, winning several competitions. Mr.
dePaolo remembered her “…as my oldest and very best friend in the world. Carol was talented,
vivacious, and never took no for an answer. ‘Senorita Swing,’ as I knew her, was the one person
who would play dress-up with me. Half my heart is gone.”

After high school, Carol was accepted to the University of Connecticut. After University, she was
accepted into the American Airlines training program in Chicago, completing the program as its
outstanding graduate. She then moved to Dallas, and for two years worked as a stewardess on most
of American’s domestic flight routes. On West Coast runs she frequently met celebrities, including
her idol Gene Kelly, who helped her serve breakfast to the plane’s passengers. Later she helped
organize and served on flights that transported refugees from the Hungarian uprising to new homes
in America.

According to Carol’s oldest son Kevin Greiner: “My mother was fiercely independent, competitive,
and felt strongly about public service — values she passed on to each of us. What most people
don’t know is that she was also way ahead of her time. In the late 1950’s, when women her age
were expected to marry and start raising children, she moved across the country to start a career
on her own. By the time she was 24, she saw more of the country than most people see in a lifetime.
That attitude, and experience, led to a lifetime of working for women’s rights in the workplace, and
promoting opportunities for women to advance within UB.”

Her early life was marked by adventure, and her entire life was defined by her story book romance
with Bill. The two met as youngsters in Meriden, and by high school were officially sweethearts.
Though Carol loved her work, when Bill proposed she bowed to company policy forbidding
married stewardesses and left the airline. After traveling the country on a 90-day gift pass from
American’s management, the two began a life together in which they were never far apart. The
couple moved to Seattle, where Bill accepted a position at the University of Washington, and
promptly started a family, raising four children — Kevin, Terrence, Daniel, and Susan.
Bill freely admitted that he never would have had the life or career he had without Carol. She put
her own career on hold to support him during law school. In an interview in 1999 he said as much:
“Through all this, Carol is my partner. The truth is I’d be much more reluctant to do a lot of things
I do if she didn’t come with me...It sounds trite, but it’s like that line from the movie ‘Jerry Maguire.’
She completes me.”

According to Tom Headrick, one of Carol and Bill’s oldest friends who was recruited to join UB
as Dean of the Law School in 1976: “In 1958 Carol formed the Yale law students’ wives club, and
immediately, in her gregarious way, befriended my wife Maggie and me. Our lives were interwoven
from then on — Carol’s enthusiasm was infectious, and as a couple they had a unique magnetism.
Those same qualities shaped her life with Bill as a partner both in love and in his role as UB leader.
Carol was the one who insisted that Bill build connections not just with faculty and state leaders,
but an emotional bond with students and the people across Buffalo. In her mind and heart, the
University was a family living in a neighborhood where everyone cared for each other. She inspired
and guided Bill and together they made UB a much better and friendlier place.”

Carol was known for her spirit, boundless energy, generosity, and deep commitment to family. She
often talked about how fortunate she was to live the life she did and travel the world with Bill in
support of the University’s many initiatives. Yet she also built an established public service career
in her own right. It was during Bill’s tenure as President that she led multiple initiatives at the
University and across Western New York supporting access to higher education for students of
limited means.

According to and Cindy Letro: “I’ll never forget as a student seeing Carol picking up Bill in front
of the law school with all the kids in the back seat. Carol and Bill were coequals in their love of the
University and of every student. They left their mark on all of us and UB, and our community is
better for knowing them. Carol and Bill were giants in our lives. Amazing people with big hearts
and personalities. Carol made a difference in hundreds of lives, and such a bright spirit —
beautiful, strong and committed to all she cared about.”

Carol was also known for the deep friendships she forged throughout her life. Carol Petro, who
knew Carol from her early days in Buffalo, put it this way: “Carol was a warm and gracious woman
—- always ready to laugh and enjoy the moment. She welcomed the stranger and took pleasure in
her friends.”

Mary Kate O'Connell, who for years led DIVA, A Celebration of Women! Noted that “…her class,
kindness, generosity, humor, love, dedication, strength and, friendship represented the DIVA
Sisterhood. Her favorite quote from the show was, ‘The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit
on a porch and swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best
conversation you've ever had.’ She also made sure to say in each show that ‘Dreams do come true
if you keep believing in yourself. Anything is possible.’ Thank you for you, my friend.”
Carol Greiner will be dearly missed by her four children and thirteen grandchildren.

Funeral services will be private. A public memorial service will be held later this year.

Those whom we love and lose
are no longer where they were before.
They are now wherever we are.
(Attributed to St. John Chrysostum)