Carol "Cay" M. Wright

December 30, 1931June 4, 2021
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Carol Marian "Cay" Wright, age 89, entered heaven on June 4, 2021 while hosting Bridge at her home. Her gift was hosting - parties, family gatherings, loaning out rooms in past homes, etc. - and she was doing that right up to the end.

Cay was born on Dec. 30, 1931 and was raised in Chicago as the only child of Frederick & Gertrude "Pat" Zochert. She considered her cousin Barbara (Orelup) Bacon and family friend Elvia (Tarble) Murphy to be her "sisters". Cay graduated from Carl Schurz High School and also attended Coe College where she was a member of the Kappa Delta sorority, and where she met Howard "Em" Wright.

Cay & Em were married on April 12, 1952 and immediately began life together in the Air Force -- he served, she followed and supported in every way. She set up housekeeping in several places in the United States, and also overseas, while raising four children; and, she served for 23+ years as a Red Cross volunteer.

After Em's retirement they moved to Edmond and she again followed his lead as they immersed themselves in serving their new church family and their community at First Presbyterian Church in Edmond, OK. They loved singing in the choir and working with "One Incredible Moment", serving as deacons, and generally supporting the church in any way they could. Through the years they worked with Habitat for Humanity and Citizens Caring for Children, they went on mission trips, and were very active in the Cursillo/Pilgrimage community.

Cay never regretted her decision to spend her final chapter at Bradford Village and the 'family' she found there. She always enjoyed flowers, being with people, Bridge, wine, her involvement with her PEO sisters, her summers at the lake in Wisconsin, AND being the matriarch (Granny or Gran-E) of her growing family.

Cay is survived by her children: Deborah (Neil) Westby, Rebecca (Brad) Sutton, daughter-in-love Carol Wright, and Paul (Sara) Wright; 12 grandchildren: Nathan (Mary), Jeremy (Ashley), Joshua (Heidi), Andrea (Brad), Jessica, Andrew (Amy), DJ, Joel (Kailey), Jordan (Tessa), Ben (Briana), Timothy, and Caleb; and 14 great-grandchildren.

She was preceded in death by her parents; beloved husband, retired Air Force Col. Howard Emerson Wright; and son, retired Navy Chief Warrant Officer David Emerson Wright.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations can be designated for Turning Point Ministries Edmond (Edmond's chapter of Habitat for Humanity) or Oklahoma Presbyterian Pilgrimage, care of Christ Community Church in Edmond.

Cay requested that brightly colored clothing be worn by all who attend her service!!


  • Turning Point Ministries
  • Oklahoma Presbyterian Pilgrimage


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Chuck Murphy

June 26, 2021

Deb, Becky, Paul, and family,
Our thoughts & prayers are with you and your mom today. The Murphy's have so many wonderful memories of our annual summer vacations to Rocky Point on L. Adelade and our stay with the Zochert and Wright families. Our memories are many, Nancy and I (John may have been too young) learned to water ski behind the Hayes boys boat along with Paul, David, Deb and Becky offering instruction and moral support. Evening trips to the Winchester dump w/ U. Fred to see the bears then worrying the rest of the night the bears maybe outside the cabin kept my bathroom (outhouse) visits after dark to a minimum. Other memories include, A. Hazel, the Bacon family from Boston, Ginger, happy hour, pasties, the heat from the wood burning stove on a cold morning, 'running water', bathing in the lake, digging for fishing worms @ the special spot, fishing off the back dock, falling in the lake off the back dock, horseshoes with my dad, U. Fred and Emerson, the tomato smell of our car on the way up to WI.
Thank you for the mention of mom in Cay's obituary - mom's feelings for Cay were mutual- they were truly like life long sisters. God bless you Cay.
Warm regards,
Chuck Murphy

Cheryl Bretsnyder

June 26, 2021

While having met Cay & Em almost 40 years ago as they would visit Dave & Carol & the boys in CA & seeing Cay sporadically over the years my favorite memory of Cay has been my most recent memory..... She came to Nashville for Jeremy & Ashley’s wedding just about a month ago. After picking Cay & Carol up from the airport & getting back to my house the first thing that she wanted to do was have happy hour. I would say that pretty much described the whole weekend as she was so happy to be at the wedding. I wasn’t surprised to hear that she was having fun when she went home to be with the Lord.
Cay was true beauty & pure fun as God’s light shined through her everywhere she went. I could see that she was such a blessing to everyone around her, including us. Our hearts go out to her family for their loss but rejoices in knowing that she is living eternal with the Lord. May you all have a special time together as you honor her life while glorifying Him.
With love & blessings ~
Cheryl & Robert Bretsnyder

Dick Hastings

June 23, 2021

I recall vividly church mission trips to Merida and Cancun. On both trips, Mary Ruth and Cay did the cooking for the entire crew, having only a small old motel kitchen on the Cancun trip. There were no complaints about the food! Part of my assignment (maybe all) was to be chauffeured to the worksite each day with the sack lunches the two ladies had prepared that morning. We were also on trips together to Dallas and Atlanta in connection with Habitat for Humanity, as well as much work, as I’m sure you know, getting Habitat started in central Oklahoma. Both Em and Cay left a legacy of hard work and success in their volunteer efforts. I feel fortunate that our paths crossed when we all landed in Edmond in the early 1980s.

Michael Gerrity

June 23, 2021

Cay, we met you in 2008 at our cottage on Adelaide Lake in northern Wisconsin. We could not have asked for a better neighbor and friend. The memories you shared with us about the history up there were priceless. An occasional “get-together” while sharing a glass of wine was something we will never forget. Thank you Cay for being you, “a lady of grace.”
Mike and Eileen

Letty Schiesz

June 21, 2021

Cay and I have been friends since my first days in Edmond. For a while I lived in Forest Oaks and she and I walked together, and she and your dad often included me in their outings since my husband traveled so much with work. Her years as a military wife served me so well. They were always so kind. Her quirky sense of humor couldn't be ignored. Don and I played bridge with Em and Cay, were in church activities with them, and Don and Em worked together on the OIM set. She and I were in choir together for years and participated in Pilgrimage. Em was the moderator of our first Cursillo, and we caught a lot of flack from Cay as we had been resisting for years! Both of your parents lived full lives, and Cay went the best way without a long painful illness.

Judy Meier

June 21, 2021

Summers will not be the same at the Lake without Cay. Seeing her dive off the dock at her age was a trill. She sure lived life her way and loved every minute of it. Cay, I love you and will miss you. I am so happy that you are now with Em...and give Babe a hug for me.

Sandy Burton

June 21, 2021

Cay and Em welcomed us to Lake Adelaide in the 1980s. They shared the history of the lake, took our kids waterskiing (Willy’s famous bare bottomed trip around the lake), showed us good spots to fish, and allowed us to overflow onto “big kid hill” during our annual 4th of July family reunions.

We offered a bouquet brilliant yellow flowers on the lake to memories of Cay and others we lost recently.

Deborah Westby

June 15, 2021

Mom always loved to encourage young love.

Deborah Westby

June 14, 2021

When you get to be 82, you need help from your great-granddaughters to blow out your candles.

Deborah Westby

June 14, 2021

Mom always enjoyed being with family -- this one was during a family dinner while in Alaska in 2012