Freda Aurell Jones
November 13, 1925 – March 4, 2019
Freda Aurell Jones passed away peacefully Monday, March 4th, 2019 at home in Edmond, OK.
Freda was born November 13, 1925 in McPherson, KS to Harold Frederick Aurell and Mildred (Westbrook) Aurell.
Freda and Fred married in 1945 and lived first in Great Bend, Kansas then settled in Cushing, OK where they raised their family. Freda went back to college when her children did, earning her Bachelor’s, Master’s, and Doctorate in Psychology from Oklahoma State University. Widowed at age 54, she pursued a successful career in clinical psychology at the Child Study Center of the OU Med Center.
Family-centered, courageous, adventurous, and fun-loving, Freda built a life around family, friends, colleagues and her church family where for many years she trained Stephen Ministers and was a leader in that ministry. She is also credited for being the catalyst for the expansion of the Presbyterian Cursillo movement from SC to OK where, renamed “Pilgrimage,” it has expanded exponentially throughout OK and surrounding states. In addition, she was an avid tennis player, a docent at the Cowboy Hall of Fame, a Great Books book club member, and world traveler.
Freda was preceded in death by her husband, Charles Alfred (Fred) and son, Bradley as well as her siblings, Phoebe, Bud, and Nancy. She is survived by daughters, Pam (Robert) Dickson of Charleston, SC; Judy (Mark) Phelps of Seminole, OK; 7 granddaughters: Evy (Chris) Silcox, Polly Dickson, & MariElena (Joe) Raya all of Charleston, SC; Lauren (Brad) Schatzel of Seminole, OK; Lane (Jess) Royall of Venice, CA; Liz (Cameron) Cannon of Denver, CO; and Sus (Chris) Kramer of Lawrence, KS; and 14 great-grandchildren. Although her family is dispersed throughout the US, Freda has been a very present and positive influence in all our lives, a participant in life’s milestones, and the source of inspiration for us to celebrate each moment.
Services will be held 2:00pm, Thursday, March 7, 2019 at First Presbyterian Church, Edmond. In lieu of flowers donations may be made in her name to First Presbyterian Church, 1001 Rankin, Edmond, OK 73034 designated for Stephen Ministries or to “Pilgrimage” mailed to the same address.
- Memorial Service Thursday, March 7, 2019
Freda Aurell Jones
March 23, 2019
Well, I can remember going out to Great Bend, I guess in the 1950’s and Fred would like buy out a fireworks stand. Because we had the best fireworks show I can remember.
Freda, was a wonderful woman.
Peace be with her family and friends.
March 8, 2019
Freda lived being the hands and feet of Jesus.
Freda lit up a room with her exuberance and laughter, and was loved by so many. I count myself blessed to have been one of her countless friends. When you were with Freda, she made you feel like you were the most important person in the world. She was a gifted woman-in so many ways.
Freda was the one who suggested I might benefit from having a Stephen Minister after the sudden passing of my husband. The Stephen Leaders gifted my life by the presence of my Stephen Minister. Freda was the inspiration for me to go on and become a Stephen Minister, and with her encouragement, later a Stephen Leader. Working with her was an amazing thing, where she always showed kindness, compassion and encouragement.
Freda and I met regularly for coffee in one of the many coffee shops in Edmond where we always started our visit with prayer. Her prayers were always heartfelt and just beautiful. I now picture her having coffee with Jesus and him saying "Job well done, my servant" for she lived her beliefs, and carried them on to others. I am going to miss you Freda...until we meet again.
March 8, 2019
My last evening with Freda was really special. She wanted to sing "Jesus Loves Me" so we did and then I ask her if we could have our picture taken together. She agreed and Pam took our picture. I will always treasure that time with her.
March 8, 2019
Known as Freda to many, doctor to some, friend to everyone, MiMi to her greats, and Gram to her favorites. I was one of the lucky ones to call her Gram. She was courageous, ambitious, fun-loving, loyal and even a little sassy in the best way. Gram was a constant in her family’s life. She made sure every milestone was celebrated and never missed an opportunity to host a gathering at her wonderful home. Her home at Covell Road is the setting of so many of my childhood memories that I will forever cherish. Everytime I walked into Gram’s house, I would smell that distinct “gram’s house” smell, and immediately be overcome with all the love. Like the house itself gave you a hug when you walked in the door. Oh, how I wish I could bottle that smell. The hours spent around the kitchen island, all the granddaughters in the bath, swimming in the pond, jumping off the stairs, the play closet, the “tree” house, and so many meals around the dining room table that always started with the Swedish prayer, followed by laughter, storytelling, musings about our Swedish Family Tree (which was hanging in the dining room), and always ended with Uncle Brad infamously being the last one at the table, slowly finishing every bite of his ginormous plate of food while still telling stories to us down in the living room.
Gram was a determined lady and an inspiration to all the women in her life. I’ve always admired how she earned her PhD, and had a successful career as a child psychologist. Gram was my favorite example of a successful, independent woman. She wanted the same for each of her granddaughters. She was so proud of our achievements/careers. She loved us fiercely and always with style and grace. Radiating with positivity and encouragement, she hardly had an ill word to say about anything.
I will miss her laughter, snuggles, and never ending toasts. Until we meet again, gram, I toast to you. I love you. I love you. I love you.
Viv and Rock Rockett
March 7, 2019
Dear Jones Family,
I've been thinking of you all day. Know that you are in my heart. I know the service was lovely just as Freda was. So sorry that we couldn't attend.
Our families have enjoyed each other for many generations. When Rock and I would visit Freda I always felt those family ties. May those ties be unbroken.
We enjoyed our time with Freda when we made it back to Oklahoma. She was such a joy and we would leave feeling inspired by her. What a special person she was. The world is definitely a better place because of Freda! She will be missed......
Much love and peace to all,
Rocky and Vivi
PS: Our new home is now in Phoenix. If you should get out our way you are always welcome.
Viv and Rock Rockett
15550 S. 5th Avenue, #112
Phoenix, AZ 85045
March 7, 2019
Gram- You are the best! You took time with everyone to hear what we were up to and wanted to be a part of it, even if you were miles away. Even in the last 2 weeks you wanted an update every day on what everyone was doing. You led our family by showing us strength, courage, laughter, compassion, and love. I'll always remember you dancing with your shoulders up and down when you got excited or with a cup of coffee in your hand. I'm grateful that I was named after you. I hope I can represent our name Freda the way you did. I'm grateful for the trips we got to go on- whitewater rafting with you and the cousin, Sweden with you and mom, but the best was the family reunion at Kanuga. It takes a lot of work to get us all together, but you were determined and my goodness did your determination pay off! You told each one of your 7 granddaughters that we were your favorite and while we will probably argue the rest of our lives over who your favorite really was, each one of us knows we are loved by you- more than we could every imagine. I love you other Freda!
March 7, 2019
My grandmother was the best grandmother a girl could ever ask for. She put her family first and was always an example of pure joy. A joy that is not conditional on circumstances but a joy that comes the fruit of the Spirit.
Gram was always wanting to learn. Meticulously taking notes in every subject of her life. She poured herself into us by desiring to know more about our passions, skills and traits. My sweet grandmother even donned a chef coat and cooked with me in the restaurant one time, eager to learn! Ever the constant student, but she was the one who was teaching us. She desired to make a connection with each of her grandkids, and I assume, that is something she did with everyone.
She signed the guest book at our wedding “Know that you will always have a family that loves you dearly.” and that is true. Thank you, Gram, for loving me unconditionally. For being a strong willed, persistently fierce fighter for those you loved and for spear-heading the memories that we will hold for all our lives. We will miss you but we will not forget you.
March 6, 2019
I had a cabinet to give away and heard that a Pilgrimage group needed it for a project. Freda invited me to a meeting and ask me to bring pictures and measurements . Little did I know that God was orchestrating an eleven year long friendship with one of the most amazing people I have ever met. Freda was a doer. She used time wisely. A typical accounting of her day was that she got a lot done. She was always on time which meant 5-10 minutes early. Time with Freda was always pleasant and goal oriented. We had many meetings over the years and they always began and ended with prayer. Freda was the keeper of papers. She helped preserve the history of Pilgrimage because she had never thrown out any of the paperwork associated with her long history with Cursillo and Pilgrimage. I also had the privilege of knowing of Freda when she was with the Child Study Center on the OU Health Sciences Center campus. Her work with children was legendary. As our relationship deepened, I began to invite Freda to attend weekend Pilgrimage activities with me. She was always excited to go and it gave us more time to visit. We began sitting together in church. That gave us time to worship together. I began taking Freda to doctor and therapy appointments. Soon, Freda was family. We loved and cared for each other in the many opportunities that Jesus provided. I will miss her greatly but I know that I will see Freda in the great legacy she leaves behind through programs she started and people whose lives have been touched by those ministries whether they knew her or not. I also know that I will see her again in the great eternal presence of Christ that all believers are promised.
March 5, 2019
I was privileged to have been trained by Freda as a Stephen Minister, and then privileged to serve with her as a Stephen Leader. Freda was a carbon copy (literally) of my Grandmother with her looks and personality. Freda was quick to give you a hug when she saw you, which would make anybody's day get better! Freda was one of the most positive people I've ever known, and her positivism was so contagious! She was a great Christian and a person that was looked at by many of us as "Saintly", always willing to give a "Listening" ear to those who needed it. I'm so Blessed to have known her. My heart is saddened by her passing, but I know she got to meet Jesus, and Heaven is rejoicing.
I Pray for all of Freda's biological family, Church family, and many friends, that we all get through this difficult time.
I love you and I'm going to miss you Freda.
God Bless you and Godspeed...
March 5, 2019
Pam and Judi, I am so saddened to learn of your mother's passing. She outlived about all the moms in the Class of '67 and what a life she lived! She was like a 2nd mom to many of us and always welcomed us in your home on 9th Street. I still can't pass your house in Cushing without associating it as yours! You both definitely have her warm smile, love of life, success and talents! Cherish that when the hole she's left in your heart seems unbearable. She gave you a wonderful legacy. Hugs to you both.
Linda Clovis Polson
March 5, 2019
After meeting Freda in Pilates in Charleston a few years ago, I quickly saw she was a woman of great strength and perseverance. I greatly admired her tenacity to exercise ( she was more agile than me). She was someone to look up to. She was an inspiration. Thank you, Freda.