Elizabeth Rule Caldwell

Lilly Rule Caldwell was a beloved wife, mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, cousin, and cherished friend. Lilly was born on April 22, 1952 in Carlsbad, NM, to her parents Charles and Refugio Rule, and she passed peacefully on January 8, 2024 surrounded by family.

Lilly is survived by her beloved husband of 48 years, Dr. Steve Caldwell. They were married at St. Clement's Episcopal Parish on June 11th, 1975. She is also survived by her daughters Amy and Stacey (Javier), sons Greg (Maria) and John (Nicolette), grandsons Oliver, Rex, Clark, and Ellis, granddaughter Isla; siblings Charlene, Gladys, Cynthia (Bill), and Alice (Paul), as well as many nieces, nephews, and cousins.

Lilly’s father was an English mining engineer, whose career took him and his family across Latin America and eventually to Liberia, Africa, where he built and operated an iron ore mine for 14 years. Lilly spent her early formative years abroad in Bolivia, Peru, and Nicaragua, moving to El Paso when she was in the 1st grade. She attended Crockett Elementary and Bassett Middle School, before moving to Liberia, Africa for two years after the 6th grade. In Liberia, she attended a two-roomed school at the mining camp, before returning to El Paso where she was a boarding student at Loretto Academy. She regularly returned to Africa over summers and Christmas holidays to spend time with her parents. She graduated from Austin High School in 1970.

This diverse experience profoundly influenced Lilly, shaping her into someone with a unique and close bond with her siblings and friends when she lived in El Paso, while her parents continued to live abroad. These experiences gave Lilly an unparalleled openness and acceptance, fostering deep connections with those around her. These qualities defined her character, leaving an indelible mark on the lives she touched. She loved these opportunities in life and shared these memories with those she cared for.

Lilly attended The University of Texas in El Paso and earned a degree in Business Administration. During her time at UTEP, she was a member of Tri Delta Sorority. She later obtained a certificate in Business Education from the University of Houston. Early in her career, she worked as a Mortgage Loan officer in Houston, TX while supporting her husband as he completed dental school.

She later devoted her passion to raising her four children in her beautiful home in El Paso. Lilly’s family was the center of her world, and she radiated warmth and love. Lilly shared a special bond with her grandsons and granddaughter that was nothing short of beautiful. She showered them with thoughtful gifts that reflected her deep understanding of each of their personalities. Her weekends were often filled with laughter as she patiently taught them chess and checkers, creating cherished memories that will forever hold a place in their hearts.

Lilly was also a pillar of love and compassion in her community. Known for her boundless generosity, she went out of her way to help those in need. She connected with anyone she met, and her phenomenal rapport left a lasting impact on countless lives. She devoted her time to volunteering for Ronald McDonald house, Meals on Wheels, El Paso Junior League, Casas por Cristo, El Paso District Dental Society, Pan American Society, the Legion of Mary, and the Holy Family Refugee Center where her legacy remains in what is now called “Lilly’s Boutique”.

Lilly was the source of endless laughter, quick wit, and lighthearted spirit that created an atmosphere of joy. She had a unique talent for turning every event, birthday, and celebration into a joyous occasion filled with meticulous detail and thoughtfulness. She created such a warm and inviting environment, her children’s friends often lovingly thought of her as their “other mom”. She had a knack for turning ordinary moments into unforgettable comedic experiences.

Lilly was not only a beacon of love and laughter, but also a woman of deep faith, finding solace and strength in her Catholic faith, which carried over into the broader community. She dedicated countless hours to various church activities, embodying the values of compassion and service. She was always ready to extend a helping hand or comforting word to her fellow parishioners. As we remember her, we honor not only the joy she brought, but also the profound impact of her faith-filled life on those fortunate enough to share in her journey.

As we say our goodbyes, let us celebrate the life of Lilly, remembering her for the love, laughter, and the countless memories. May her spirit of humor and lightheartedness be a lasting reminder that even in sorrow, joy can be found.

A Vigil will be held on Friday, January the 12th at 6pm at St. Matthew Catholic Church, El Paso, Texas.

A Funeral Mass will be held on Saturday January the 13th at St. Matthew Catholic Church at 10:30am.

Informational Website: https://www.lillycaldwellmemorial.com/

In the spirit of her fight with ALS, please consider a donation to The ALS foundation: https://www.als.org/get-involved in lieu of flowers.