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Anita Hamil Frazier

August 2, 1963March 3, 2019

It’s difficult to define Anita Hamil Frazier’s life in a few paragraphs because she was a dynamic woman who was incredibly loving, spirited, gentle, smart, funny, and fearless. Anita made such a positive and lasting impact in her 55 years, and will be deeply missed but never forgotten by all her family and friends.

Born Anita Marie Hamil on August 2, 1963 in Lancaster, California, she was the third child of Lafayette and ElDora Hamil. Anita spent her childhood years in the Antelope Valley and graduated from Quartz Hill High School in 1981. She excelled at every subject in school, garnering the accolade of being 3rd in her class. She also loved being a part of the drill team, performing at numerous foot-ball games and local parades. Anita always dreamed of attending college at UCLA, it was her first choice and she lived her whole life as a proud Bruin. Anita received both a Bachelor’s of Arts in Communications (graduating magna cum laude), and a Master’s of Business Administration from UCLA (Class of 1991). While an undergrad, Anita got the opportunity to be a flag-bearer for the closing ceremonies for the 1984 Summer Olympics in LA.

Anita spent the majority of her working career in sales and marketing in the en-tertainment and video game industries. Anita worked for Warner Bros., Sony Pictures Entertainment, and Vivendi Universal Games in executive sales and marketing positions. Anita spent 12 years with the NPD Group as an executive director representing both their video games and toys practices and was responsible for both client and business development. Most recently she was the Senior Vice President for Marketing and Sales for IDW Publishing in San Diego. Anita loved her work and was a highly regarded and respected as a senior-level executive. Anita developed many lasting relationships over the course of her accomplished career, and took great pride in mentoring junior executives with whom she worked. 29 years ago, Anita met and fell in love with her husband Grant while both were attending graduate school at UCLA. They were married on November 11, 1995 in Napa, California. Together they had four amazing sons: Alexander, Rhys, Kevin and Aidan, who were born and raised in California until they relocated to Amherst, New Hampshire in 2010. There, they lived until 2017, when they re-turned to Carlsbad, Ca. where the family resides today.

Anita had a magnetic smile and a distinguishable laugh that would ignite a room. She loved to cook and made many dishes that have become legendary, such as Hunan dishes and post-Thanksgiving turkey-bone gumbo. She was passionate about music of all genres and was always the first on the dance floor. She enjoyed traveling and had countless friends all over the globe.

Anita passed away on March 3rd, 2019 and is preceded in death by her parents and sister, Hester. Anita is survived and will be greatly missed by her husband Grant, sons Alexander, Rhys, Kevin and Aidan, sister Melisa, brother Jeffrey, many nieces and nephews, and a large extended circle of family and friends. A Celebration of Life will be held Thursday, March 14, 2019 at 4:00pm at El Camino Memorial-Encinitas.


  • Celebration of Life Thursday, March 14, 2019

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Jonathan (JD) Deitch

March 19, 2019

Anita and I were colleagues for many years at NPD and never failed to collide whenever we were within a couple hundred miles of each other. I will remember her always for her magnetic presence and charm, but also because she had a son named Alex and I had a some named Alex. When her Alex grew up, she gave me his monogrammed backpack for my Alex, who was still small. We've still got it and it gets used regularly. Warmest thoughts to Grant and the boys.

Linda Reed

March 15, 2019

I was so devastated to hear of Anita's passing. I had the pleasure of attending business school with both Anita and Grant and watched the two of them form a loving bond with one another. Anita was a great friend and business school classmate and I've enjoyed keeping in touch with her over the years and following her adventures with Grant and the boys. I'm so very sorry for all the loved ones she's left behind. My very best to Grant and her 4 sons.

Best Regards,
Linda (Schwartz) Reed

Liam Callahan

March 14, 2019

Anita was a dear friend and cherished mentor to me. We worked together for 7 years at NPD and she had an immense impact on my career and life. Put simply: I would not be where I am today professionally and by extension personally if it wasn't for Anita. But beyond work… Anita was fun! She had a great sense of humor, big heart, and a deep loyalty and love for her friends and family. I have countless memories from fun work trips that I will always keep with me. My heart goes out to Grant and the boys. We have never met personally, but I feel like I know you from how often Anita spoke about you. Rest in peace my dear friend.

Mary Yedlin

March 14, 2019

I am so deeply saddened to hear that we have lost Anita far too soon - and moreso because we were out of touch for too many years. We worked together at Warner Bros., and she was truly magnetic, insightful, and fun. What a great spirit - and we have all been so blessed to have known her. My great love and prayers for healing to all who are feeling this loss - especially to Grant and her much-adored boys. May her peace now be with all of you.

Max Schenkein

March 13, 2019

Anita was one of my favorite people to work with. Through hard discussions and unreasonable colleagues, she always displayed a sense of grace and strength. An example to look up to. Will miss working with her dearly.


March 8, 2019

I am devastated to learn of Anita's passing. We were roommates in Newport Beach. Grant and Anita were dating. When Grant walked through our front door they both beamed at each other with true love. We nicknamed them Granita after a restaurant in Malibu. Anita and I had fun times being roomies. She loved to cook and was always reading new recipes from Bon Appetit magazine. She was funny, full of laughter and loved life. We both moved on to get married, have kids and lose touch with each other. Then Facebook brought us back together as she was moving to New Hampshire. When she got back to CA we messaged that we need to get together and get our kids together, but that will never be. You always think there is time on your side. My heart aches for Grant as I remember their love and also for her boys. I will cherish my memories with my sweet friend. I am beyond sad that we did not have the chance to reconnect. Sending hugs, prayers and love to her family. Rest in peace my dear sweet beautiful talented loving friend.
Our deepest condolences, Dawn and Tommy McGrath

Angelika Silva

March 7, 2019

I am totally devastated and my heart is in pieces to hear of Anita’s passing. A few days have passed and I still can’t hold my tears ever time I think about you. Among many other qualities you were loving, human, funny, generous and patient person I have ever met.
I was one of the lucky persons that had the pleasure to babysit her boys, and I remember as if it was yesterday when I went to meet the family for the first time in Santa Monica, before the twins came in to our lives and, from the first day, Anita made me feel so comfortable and home. After about 3 years of being part of their family, because that is how she always made me feel, I still remember when she approached me a little afraid of giving me the news that she was pregnant with the twins, but despite that, she was glowing with excitement. We had our hands full with 4 boys, but would do it all over again and again just to share more moments with this beautiful soul that always liked to hear peoples “stories”, and had always a beautiful smile on her face. Even after they moved to San Diego, I drove a few times a little over a 1 hour to stay with the boys, just because was that much worth it.
In my memory, I have moments that I will cherish for the rest of my life and, I thank God for giving me the honor to meet you.
My thoughts, love and prayers go out to Grant, Alex, Rhys, Kevin and Aidan.

Morgan Kyle (Towle)

March 7, 2019

I love you so much Anita. You and your family were so special to me. We met in your pursuit to find a new caretaker and nanny for the boys <3. I remember sitting on the couch in the great room chatting with you and Grant about all the things that you look for in this person and I fell in love. Sure enough you picked me and brought me into your beautiful family. I instantly felt the love and appreciation. I was freshly out of college and I was so inspired by you, your work ethic and incredible drive to succeed in all aspects of your career. The love you shared with your boys and your husband. You truly meant the world to me.
My favorite moments with you were in the kitchen. We would laugh and cook together. Share recipes and different cooking techniques. You taught me how to cook my first meal in a tagine! You taught me the best, lemon chicken and asparagus tortellini pasta salad with dijon sauce. I smile writing this because I still make it to this day. Most of all you brought 4 handsome, smart, driven young boys into my life that will forever leave a mark on my heart. They loved me, never judged me and always challenged me- in the best way! Things they all learned from you and Grant.
You supported me in my life choices, you kept in touch always, you kept it real with me and offered the best advice. You were just the best. I love you forever and always.
My Whole Heart,

Kimberly Smart

March 7, 2019

My heart is in pieces. I'll never find the right words to string together.... Anita was brilliant, loving, funny, generous and a host of other adjectives you would describe of someone none other than an saint. She had a way of making you feel like you were “home”, spreading love and light into each person she came into contact with.

I had the pleasure to babysit for Anita's boys while I was in college, after she moved her family from California to New Hampshire. I wasn’t just a babysitter to her – Anita truly made me feel like I was a part of her family. Even after I moved on from college and into my career, Anita was there on my wedding day and we kept in touch after all of these years.

Her pride and joy were her four boys. My heart aches for the loss they have endured.

The world lost a lot of its light now that Anita is gone.

Rest in the sweetest peace, Anita. This seems completely surreal. My heart goes out to her husband Grant Frazier, and her wonderful boys. Sending love to all of Anita’s family & friends

Theresa Burnley

March 7, 2019

Anita and the Frazier family came into my life the first week both of our families moved to San Diego. Together Grant and I coached soccer for years. If our families were not on the soccer fields together we were at swim team, or various camps like Jr Life Guards. The years we spent together were nothing shy of a blast. Seven blonde boys including two sets of twins we were out numbered! To my delight Anita called and said she was moving and decided to follow me to Amherst NH. We picked up where we left off, sports. We had more great times with the Amherst Patriots Pop Warner and skiing. The sun and great weather was replaced with rain and snow but laugh we did! To say I am sad is simply an understatement. Anita, you had so many great qualities and I will miss our phone calls and text messages. Your last text message you said you loved me! Anita, I love you!!!