February 4, 1966 – October 10, 2021
Carl Hassell Benge was born on February 4, 1966, in Sparta, NC. His wife and youngest son were at his side when he was called to be with our Lord on October 10, 2021. He left an impact on anyone that he came in contact with. He was a hard-working man who loved his family and friends. He will be remembered as always having a smile on his face and his beautiful love for Jesus. Carl is survived by his loving wife of 22 years, Donna; his children, Wes, Donnie (Ashley), Brian, and Logan; his dad, Junior; his siblings, Earl (Bonnie), Roger (Faith), Betty, (Ramsey), Robert (Sherlee), Darlene, and Clay; and 6 grandchildren. He was preceded in death by his mom, Ruth, and many others that he will be reunited with in what he referred to as his heavenly mansion. He was definitely loved by many and will be greatly missed. His family would like to thank everyone for all the well wishes and prayers. Gone too soon. God Bless You
Service will be held at Englewood Bible Church, 501 Yale Street, Englewood, Florida on Friday, October 29, 2021 at 7:00 pm
Englewood Bible Church
October 24, 2021
Two weeks and I still can't believe it. I'm so alone without you. I don't know how I'm going forward everyday. Not much to say other than what I've been saying everyday. I miss you. Until I see you again. XOXO
October 24, 2021
Well Carl I just read the updates here and boy you left a void in so many of our lives. We will never forget your beautiful smile and your laid back ways. Still can’t believe you’re gone this is so crazy. Hope you have all the food you loved up there. Well we will be together next week to say our final goodbyes but we will never forget you. You will live forever in our everyday memories. Until we meet again. “There’s a gator over there…..
October 23, 2021
Hi sweetie, another Saturday and one day closer to a day that I am dreading. I don't know how to say goodbye to you. More so, I do not want to. I guess you'll be glad to know that I went to Aubrie's cheer and Zaiden's football game. It just mad me sad because I know how much you would have loved being there. We always did the sports stuff together, Heck, we did everything together. I don't think I'll ever get used to you not being here. I am going to Kaitlynn's dance recital tomorrow night. I am hoping it won't be too difficult, because you actually never came to one. They were too late and you were exhausted from work. But coming home and not seeing you sitting there in your chair, talking to one of your brothers on the phone is going to be hard. I used to tell you how beautiful Kaitlynn was and show you the video. But now I can't even do that. Sometimes life can be so unfair. Why can't I just sit here and do nothing but miss you? My heart isn't into any of this other stuff. I do it for my grandchildren. I think if they understood how unhappy it made me, they would understand it if I didn't go. Who knows? But I am home now and the house is quiet. Maybe too quiet. I should turn on the TV or something, but every little thing reminds me of you. I just wish you could come back to me. I know you would if there were any way possible. But there isn't! Well, I will close for now and will definitely talk to you tomorrow. Sleep has been far and in between but I still try. I love you honey. Always in my heart! XOXO
October 23, 2021
Well Carl, I still can't believe that you are gone. Donna has asked me to get your services together here and I am trying really hard to make it special. I want it to be special because it's the last thing that I will ever get to do for you. Dad and Ashley and others are helping, we just won't to celebrate the life that you had here. You were one of the best, I've been trying to think of a Time when I didn't see you smiling or see you happy. I don't think I ever saw you upset. Don't worry about Donna I know this is really hard for her. She is a part of this family and she and Logan and her boys will always be part of this family. I will see you again some day, until then I love and miss you very much.
October 22, 2021
Hey Carl. I hope you're doing well up there. And I hope this goes through because every time I write on mom's it never works!
Today sucks because I know it's one week away until we say goodbye and makes it more real. I feel sick. I can only imagine how my poor sister feels.
Please tell the big man upstairs I'm not happy with him. I am confused and left with so many questions. I can't understand how this could possibly be part of his plans. I'm just angry that I can't understand. And I know, that is normal. I guess it's just the unfortunate truth that the good go too soon.
I know we weren't close per se but you are a good, good man and anyone can see that. To know you is to love you. I'm thankful for the memories we do have (mostly food related! Lol) and that I had the opportunity to see you the day before you went home to the Lord. It's hard to say you're in a better place because I feel like you had a lot of life left to live and a lot of love to share, but you fought for so long and didn't need to endure that struggle and fight any longer.
Give mom a hug and kiss for me and not like I have to tell you, but keep an eye on my sister and help her be at peace. Love you big guy and I miss you more than you know. See you again one day.
October 22, 2021
Donna and family -
May the cherished memories in your heart comfort you and make you smile now and in the future.
October 22, 2021
Good morning sweetheart,
Well here it is Friday. The end of another week and pretty much nothing has changed. Although, it seems like forever since I last seen or talked to you. I think of you constantly. Things we would do, places we would go, shows we would watch and just about everything I do. You were such a big part of my life. Hell, you were my life! We did everything together. I never thought about the day that we wouldn't. Why would I? You left me too soon. We didn't have a chance to sit back and enjoy retirement or even get to that point in our lives. I am so glad that we talked about it all the time. At least I knew your dreams. That's going to have to take me through the years without you. I called your dad yesterday. He sounds good. He was happy to know that we were staying with him when we go up to Celebrate you. Tammy is taking care of everything. I can't even imagine what your service is going to be like in North Carolina. I am sure Tammy is going to make sure it's beautiful. She really misses you. Everyone does. I've been hearing from some of your old friends. You had many, but I am sure you know that. The last time your family saw you was at the family reunion. Who knew that was the last time we'd see your smiling face. Can't imagine next year's reunion. You can be sure that your son and I will be there. We'll visit all the places we loved. Well, I am at work and these memories are making me emotional so I guess I will close for now. I love you honey, Now and always! Forever in my heart. XOXO
October 21, 2021
Wow I am so use to writing on these memorial as if I am talking to my loved ones I actually forgot to say something to my loving beautiful sister who lost her husband.
Donna my dear beautiful sister and best friend, I don’t know where to begin. I have lost so many loves in my life but I don’t understand the pain of losing my best soulmate love of my life and the main support in my life. My hurt pains for you, I am so sorry you have to go though this pain. I am always here for you and I know you know this. But no words I can say will ease the grief and sorrows you are facing, the pain you will go through, the anger, rage, whys, and what if’s. This is something you do in time and have faith in God to help you through those days and nights. That alone should help you but you have a lot of people and friends and family who is always here for you. But most of all you have beautiful children, grandchildren and memories to insure you the world must go on, that’s why God blesses us with the best things in life and with that being said I think that is enough. Remember the great time you and Carl shared and someday you will be able to look up and say thank you for the blessed and great memories dear, until we meet again. Yes you are gonna miss him every single day, hour, minute and second of each day of your life but it is life and you are still here and you have to live it. But with all that I am so deeply sorry for your loss. And my condolences to Wes, Donnie, Brian and Logan. And your grandchildren too. My prayers are with you all forever to heal your void you all have had to deal with. May God give you all the strength to help you through the pain. Loving you all so so much.
Love your sister Elana See ya soon.
October 21, 2021
Hey there you, I wonder what you're doing up there? Do you see me? Can you hear me? I know that you are happy because you constantly told me that you were just waiting to get to your mansion in heaven. I am happy for you, too. I have always loved it when things worked out for you but I honestly didn't think that you would be there so soon. I never realized how big our house is until I started walking around all hours of the night just wondering about where you are and why are you gone. It's so cold and empty. I would turn off the air conditioning but you know Logan, he'd go crazy. I am sorry babe. I'm just rambling. I just feel closer to you when I am writing to you. I wish I knew something. God should allow one final conversation with your loved one if only to say "I love you and I'm ok." I wish I had some kind of warning that the last time I kissed you was going to be the last time. Or the last time we held each other was going to be the last. I would have kissed you longer and hugged you tighter! I guess I would have done a bunch of things differently. I need to stop thinking about the "what ifs" they can really drive you insane. Well honey, I am at work so I am going to close for now. I will never say goodbye, because this is not goodbye. You will always be in my heart and I know for sure that I will see you again someday. Always your wife XOXO
October 20, 2021
Good Afternoon Sweetheart, sorry it took so long for me to write to you today. Been a little busy at work. It takes me longer to get things done now-a-days. Cannot seem to concentrate on one thing for too long. It's so frustrating to know what you want to do one minute and forget two seconds later. I stare at your picture on my phone all day long. It is my screen saver. I miss your smile. I realize that it has only been 10 days, but I don't think I will ever be the same. My life seems like it's moving in slow motion. I wish there was a way that you could come back to me. I don't want to believe that I'll never see you again. It's just so unreal. Damn baby, I can't do this life without you. So many people are in stuck in relationships that they are unhappy in and are looking for a way out. I never wanted to be without you. I was totally content with us and our simple life. We were happy. This should have never happen to us. People say that things happen for a reason but for the life of me, I cannot think of one reason why this happened to us! I just want you back in my life and I can hardly breathe knowing that you will never be back. I am so sorry honey. I really do try to stay strong. Well, I gotta go now. I will talk to you later. You are always in my thoughts and FOREVER in my heart. All my love. XOXO
October 19, 2021
My deepest sympathy to Donna, Logan and the entire Benge family.
I pray your sweet memories of the laughter and good times will help to ease the pain and bring back the smiles again.
October 19, 2021
Hi babe, just another day here. Not feeling too good today. I think it is starting to sink in that no matter how long I sit and wait for you to walk through our door, it's not going to happen. I get sick to my stomach just writing it down. I can't believe that you are gone. I don't think I will fully comprehend the magnitude of the loss of you in my life. It's like I am not really here. You took my soul with you when you left. They say that in time you will heal, but how will my heart heal when it is no longer with me? There is just a big hole of emptiness. Sometimes I feel like I can't go on another day, but then I think of Logan. I wish there was some way you could talk to him. He is very quiet and has literally shut down. I hope you can help him. You loved him so much so, that I feel you can reach him. I don't think this is fair. I don't want to be angry but sometimes I just can't help it. I never planned to live this life alone. I never planned on being without you. You were my number one, my best friend, my confidence, my everything! I miss you so much and I will love you til my last breath. I will be strong for you because you gave the the strength to do the things I needed to do. You believed in me like no one else. I am lost with out you. I will miss all the things we did. There is such a void in my life that will never be filled. I am sorry for being so negative in this letter, but I just think this is not right! I shouldn't be here without you. You were so young and I am so unprepared to live this life alone. I thought were had so much time. I was so wrong. Well, I am going to close right now. I am not sure you are feeling my sadness, but just in case you are, I don't want you to worry about me. You enjoy your peacefulness. You deserve it. I'll be ok honey. I always am. I have no choice now. I love you and you are forever in my heart! Rest my love. Forever yours. All my love! XOXO Here's a pic of the grandkids. They love and miss you!
October 19, 2021
Carl my brother, it's so hard to imagine that you're not hearing that you left and went to a fairland. Carl we grew up together we've done a lot of things been through some battles. And you always seemed to have such a positive attitude and talk to me great need. The words can't explain how deeply I feel, and how much I'm going to miss you my friend and my brother. I know that we had our differences at things, but we always came close together in God's grace. I love you and will miss you forever, tears in my eyes tonight be enough shed for the love that you have for me. I'm going to miss calling you everyday, calling and talking about the NASCAR NASCAR. But how the football teams and the Steelers versus the Miami dolphins. Going to miss your good cooking coming over to the house when you cooked out on the grill. All the sudden good cooking that Mom has taught us, you should have touch with that. I remember the times that you took me down to the dolphins game, the very first time, that we met Derek's Bentley before he became famous, and I asked you who's that up on the stage singing, and neither one of us knew , were laughing talked about how good of the singer he was. Carl, my heart hurts ,but it's also I know you going to at place was there is no stress and no worries anymore. I love you brother. There's many more things that I could say. I wish that I was there with you while you were sitting there. I'm going to miss you Carl so badly, tell Mom and everyone I said hi God bless.
October 18, 2021
I don't remember exactly how old I was when you moved in next door. But I remember vividly your kindness, friendliness and your infectious smile and laugh. I remember being very sad when y'all moved out of that house. Imagine my surprise when decades later I saw Carl Benge pop up on the caller ID at my work. It was such a pleasure to catch up with you and I truly enjoyed talking with you everytime you called. Then the calls stopped. I figured you had moved on to other things and thought about reaching out to you but regrettably never did. Really wish I had now. So deeply saddened when I learned of your passing. I'll never forget you for I'm a better person for having known you. Continued thoughts and prayers to your family. Rest in Paradise old friend
October 18, 2021
Carl sure are going to miss my football buddy it just doesn't seem real going to miss calling you and having you to pick on Donna for me about the Steelers and because we are the smartest in the family lol I will never forget that time you and clay came to Orlando and took me out to eat that time I was laid over in Florida and hung out with you all that night enjoyed all your visits up here sure going to miss you you will always be one of my favorite cousins love you and tell poppy and mommy and everyone I love them
October 18, 2021
Well now that I can see and do this right imma talk to you always it seem I have a lot of family in this little box life, hope you enjoying them. We will enjoy what’s left here until we meet again. Hope where you are is everything you had dreamed it would be. Yeah could you give Donna a sign she would appreciate that much. I am there for her as you know I love my sista more then ever always did always will she’s my bestie forever. Your kids will be fine cause you know she’s the best!!! Well I’m gonna head out just had a minute to say why did you gotta leave so soon. As the saying goes we will learn someday. Love you so much miss ya always. And more so now cause I know when I come to Florida I won’t be seeing your sunshine smile. How do you know? There’s water ain’t there? Lol
October 18, 2021
Good morning sweetie,
Rough start today. I didn't want to come into work but if I stop now, I am not sure I'll ever start again. I don't want to admit that you are no longer with me. Life can be so unfair. I know I have been repeating myself, but I miss you so much. Logan called me after I got to work this morning and told me that he couldn't go to work. I can tell he was crying and it broke my heart. I think it's starting to feel real to him. He loved you so much. But sweetheart, I promise you that we will get through this. I just question the reason. I cannot comprehend why you were taken from our lives so soon. It is so unfair. I know I can go crazy thinking about all of the what if's, I just can't help it. You will be glad to know that although you left and I feel lonelier than I have ever felt, I am not alone. Your family has been wonderful. Roger and Faith have been Godsends. I don't know what I would do without them. Faith is still going through her own personal grief, but she never fails to be there every time I call. And I hear Roger in the background saying positive things. I thank God for them. I am just sorry that we didn't get together more often when you were here. Tammy is also wonderful. She has taken over your Celebration of Life up in North Carolina. She loved you so much and although she is hurting inside, she is just doing everything she can to make it easier on me. From your aunts, uncles, cousins and friends, everyone is being so supportive. Not to mention that they are totally shocked that you're gone. WAY TOO SOON. I am going to ask the same favor that I asked you before, please let me know in some way that you are with me. Give me some kind of sign, come to me in a dream...anything! I miss your smile, your voice, your laid back way. I miss everything about you. Well, I am reaching the limit of words so I am going to say bye for now. I will always love you!! Forever in my heart, always my soul mate. XOXO
October 17, 2021
Hi Carl, YEAP this is your favorite sister in law. I wrote to you a couple of times to let you know just how much I am missing you and apparently they just came straight to you cause I don’t see them here. As you know I’m gonna miss the life out of you, your beautiful smile, your love you have to my sister, and your children, your grand babies, and everyone you came in contact with. You always were such a happy laid back person. So glad I had time with you right bee you fell ill, just a few more memories would of been nice, still can’t believe you’re gone at such a young age. I hope your enjoying your eternal life in your mansion in the skies with so many other loved ones at your side. I will keep your wife strong and together all of us will keep your memories alive with such happiness as you always were. So gonna miss our little battles over the football games and most of all You: “There’s a gator over there!” Me: “Where?” You: “ Over there!” Me: How do you know?” You: “ There’s water ain’t there?” Chuckle chuckle Gone Way to soon, But you will NEVER be FORGOTTEN. Love you Bro-in-law.
October 17, 2021
Hi honey, it's just me. I hope you don't mind hearing from me so much. I just feel close to you when I'm on your site. It's been a week today, but you're actually still with me until 9:11 PM. I am going to a yard sale today. I know how much you loved them and it's going to kill me to go without you but I seen that they have plastic bins there and they only want $1.00 - $2.00 dollars for them. Remember, because of our air conditioner leaking water, you wanted me to put all the stuff in plastic. Well, I'm gonna to work on that for the next few weeks. I can't believe that you aren't here to help. That just means I can get rid of some of the stuff without you stopping me. Lol. You were the biggest pack rat. Believe me, if the carpet wasn't starting to mold because of the water, I wouldn't even attempt it this soon, but I have to get that carpet up and out of the before the smell of mildew makes Logan and I sick. I am not going to make any promises about any other changes. I can't even fathom changing anything in the house. I'm sick to my stomach just going to the yard sale. I love you so much that it hurts to even close this letter, but as you taught me, get there early before the good stuff is gone. Hopefully, the bins are still there. Well, I gotta get this trip over with. I'm glad its just right up the street. Until I jump back on here, enjoy your mansion. Miss and love you. Always your wife. XOXO.
Well, I wanted to add a picture, but I'm on your iPad and you don't have any pictures on it. I'll add it next time. Always in my ❤.
October 16, 2021
Good morning honey. Here it is 7:02am on Saturday morning. I've been up for a while now. Missing you so much, I can hardly breathe. I have so many questions. The one that I keep asking is why? I can't wrap my head around it. We were so happy. We had so many plans for the future. So many dreams. We should be sitting in a restaurant having breakfast and talking about what yard or estate sale to go to first. Instead, I'm sitting here missing you desperately. The memories are disabling. How do I do this life without you? I was still dealing with my mom's death. When it got bad and I would lay in bed crying, you were there to comfort me. Explaining to me that she is outta pain and happy. Are you baby? I don't have you here to tell me that everything's going to be ok. Did I love you too much? You used to tell me that God was a jealous God. You shouldn't love anything or anyone more than you love him. If so, he will take it away. Is that why he took you? I will never know, but if what you said is true, it makes sense. God is the only one who knew a how much I loved you. You were my whole life. I know people say that all the time, but I mean it. You helped me stay strong. You believed in me. You thought I could accomplish anything. And because of you, I exceeded my own abilities. I did some things that I never thought I could do. You made me believe in myself. There will never be anyone else who believes in me 100%. We made each other better. I'm so lost without you. After 22 years of marriage, I still got butterflies in my stomach when I turned the corner and saw your van. I loved coming home to you. Now I don't want to be in this house. You are everywhere I look. Give me strength honey. Make me understand. Give me a sign that you're still here keeping me safe. Well, I'll be talking to you again soon. It's getting harder to see through these tears that won't seem to stop. You still hold my heart until it stops beating. Always yours. With all my love XOXO
October 16, 2021
Miss you so much already!!
October 15, 2021
Carl I never thought that talking to you while I was driving back from Orlando would be the last time I would speak to you before your illness. Football just isn't gonna be the same without you cousin.. I'll never forget the times we spent picking at each other over our football teams and you always telling me Choppy was smarter than me.. lol... Carl I love you and will miss you so much.. but I know this you are in a better place where NO ONE will ever be sick again.. and one I'll see you again cousin.. rest easy and For you Carl it's Always GO 🐬 DOLPHINS!!!
Annette Holland Collier
October 15, 2021
Well youve reached your final goal! Evan though everyone wishes it could have been later, youve won the final race and Victory is yours! Im still in shock. We had our great times and our not so great times, but we have an amazing, handsome son, and we both moved on. Im thankful we eventually became friends again! You marriied a great woman, Donna not only chose to love you, but she chose to love Wesley as her own, and still does. We will never understand why God needed you home so soon, but we know you are rejoicing in His presence. If there's Rook in Heaven, I know that theres a big table there with your family just waiting for you to join. Continue looking over Wes, Donna, and all your family and let them to always feel your love! RIP.. never goodbye but see you later
October 15, 2021
Good morning sweetheart. It's been 5 days since you went home. Left for work this morning without my chapstick kiss. Sorry I ever complained about the waxy taste. Nights are hard, but I'm getting through them, barely. Today is tough day. Not looking forward to the weekend. We always enjoyed waking early, going to breakfast and then yard saleing all day. Do they have yard sales in heaven? I guess not because you have everything you need in a perfect place. I miss you so much. I didn't think people could live without a heart. Well, they can because you took mine when you left. Kimmie comes over a lot. You would have loved that. You always told me to "call Kimmie." I can still hear your voice saying that. I guess you can see her all the time now. Oh yeah, all the cousins on your fantasy football league changed their profiles to the Miami Dolphin logo. That really touched me. Of course, I cried. You would have loved it. It was actually Mitchell who suggested it but everyone jumped on board immediately. I can't watch westerns yet. Maybe someday. Way too soon now. Well love, I guess I better get back to work. Tell mom said hi. Oh, and your Toto sent us beautiful flowers. I'm sure you can see them but I'll still attached a picture. All my love! Forever Yours! Your Soul Mate. XOXO
October 14, 2021
I still just can't believe you are gone. I selfishly want you back so I can talk to you one more time, but I wouldn't call you back for anything. I know you are in your heavenly mansion celebrating making it home to Jesus and your loved ones. So glad you got to come to the reunion this summer, but boy I sure would have hugged you a little tighter if I had known that would have been my last time seeing you. We have so many fond memories together, we were so close growing up together. Playing ball at Mommie and Poppie's and Red Rover, and all the other games we played. You were always smiling and you had the most gentle nature and so soft spoken. I love you and I will help keep Donna feeling like she is and always will be a part of this family.
October 14, 2021
Your wonderful memories will live on through your grands.
October 14, 2021
Good bye, my wonderful husband. I would have never guessed that you would be gone so soon. You could be proud of me. I have been strong for the boys and grandkids. I am so glad that you are out of pain but I wanted to be the one to help you through the rough time. I had so much more things to do with you. We had some great plans. I will always love you. I believe with all my heart that you and I were soul mates. We talked about it so many times. I miss you so much, but I am grateful for the years that we had. Thank you for giving me a great life and a wonderful son. He is so much like you. I can't believe it took me so long to notice it. He wants to move to North Carolina in the future. All the boys miss you but I want you to know that they are doing ok. Don't worry about me, because of the way you always made sure they came over on my birthday and Mother's Day to be with me, they are all making sure that I am ok and well. They call me constantly to make sure I am not locking myself away in a depression. Logan has been by my side every step of the way and I am sure you know that. We are going to North Carolina to Celebrate your Life with all your family members up there. I hope you are happy sweetheart. Tell my mom, Don and Mel hi from me. I am sure mom is sad that I am without you but enjoying the heck out of having you there. She always wanted you to be a twin but now she has the original. Until we are together again, ALL my love, babe. I hope your are having the best time in your mansion in heaven. Keep it clean and wait for me. I'll love you forever. Until we are together again. XOXO
October 13, 2021
I remember all them times y'all playing cards. You loves cards hearing you get so excited. I miss it so much.
October 13, 2021
Uncle Carl I miss you so much. I miss seeing your smile and hearing you laugh. We have so many memories. Going to Miami Dolphins football game you wearing Dolphins Jersey and mom and dad and I and Bubba wearing Chicago bears shirt's. The look on your face when you walked in that morning. Lol. Mom been telling us stories when Bubba and I were little. Bubba got the plunger and put it on your stomach. We all laughed and laughed. You twirling my hair when we went on vacation which would be from Florida to North Carolina. I will continue the memories telling my kids the crazy memories we have with you. Love you forever Carl.