Neil Joseph Pappalardo Sr.

March 16, 1941September 12, 2020

Beloved husband, grandfather, father, brother, uncle, and friend, Neil Joseph Pappalardo, Sr., 79, passed away on Saturday, September 12, 2020 at Fairfax Hospital in Fairfax, VA. He was born on March 16, 1941 in New York City to the late Louis and Eleanor (Thayer) Pappalardo.

His wife of 34 years, Carol (Thornblum) Pappalardo, and his siblings Karol (Cannizzo), Andrew, Louis, and Lois, precede him in death. His wife of 16 years, Sharon Woodward, his sister Linda (Palminteri), and three children Neil Jr. (Anne), Lisa (Erick), Denise (Chris) and Sharon’s children Sheryl (Wayne), Susan, and Tom (Cassandra), survives Neil Sr. He is survived by his grandchildren Cory, Kristen (Garrett), Vincent, Austin, Emily, David, Caroline, Ryan, and Charlotte and Sharon’s grandchildren Morgan, William, Seth, Christopher, and Nicole. Neil Sr. is also survived by his many loving nieces, nephews, cousins, and a number of other relatives.

Neil Sr. grew up in Springfield Gardens, NY. He attended Saint Catherine Sienna School until 8th grade and graduated from Andrew Jackson High School. After high school, he entered military service with the U.S. Army. He was stationed in France serving four years in the Army. He always spoke fondly about his time in France. After leaving the Army, Neil married the late Carol Thornblum in 1965 and together they raised their children in Lindenhurst, NY.

If you knew Neil Sr., you knew he was a people person and his choice of profession mirrored that. He worked as a bartender in several establishments including 20 years of service at the Helmsley Palace in Manhattan owned by the infamous Leona Helmsley. When asked how he liked working for her he said, “She was always good to me.” Neil Sr. spent his retirement years volunteering at Fair Oaks Hospital, where he met his wife Sharon, earning the Volunteer of the Year award in 2015. He also volunteered with Hospice in Northern VA primarily donating his time in the nursing home in Reston where his first wife, Carol, passed away. He enjoyed spending time with his family and watching his beloved Yankees on television.

On September 24, 2020, we will celebrate the life of Neil Pappalardo Sr. at Demaine Funeral Home, Fairfax, VA 22030. We are holding visitation from 10:00 a.m. to noon when a funeral service will take place. We are holding a graveside service at 1:30 p.m. at Quantico National Cemetery, 18424 Joplin Road, Triangle, VA.

In lieu of flowers, please consider making a memorial contribution to Stop Soldier Suicide ( or the Wounded Warrior Project (


  • Visitation

    Thursday, September 24, 2020

  • Funeral Service

    Thursday, September 24, 2020

  • Graveside Service

    Thursday, September 24, 2020


Neil Joseph Pappalardo Sr.

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cory pappalardo

September 23, 2020

Poppy you were and will always be loved much. Thank you for early poolside memories. Thank you for florida room hangouts with slobbering dogs. Thank you for making your grandchildren laugh when you spoke italian. Thank you for always accepting, loving, encouraging, and praying for me. Thank you for hanging my art on your yankee room wall. Thank you for every email and phone call.
Thank you for everything Poppy.
I love you,

Roselle Campbell

September 23, 2020

Words can’t describe the sadness. I’m so happy I had such a wonderful long conversation with Uncle Neil on his birthday. He was always such a big part of my life and so good to me. Spending summers with him spoiling me as a kid. I think of him and his father every 4th of July. Such amazing family filled parties, cook outs, pool parties. We are truly blessed with a wonderful family and beautiful memories. Love you Uncle Neil. Hug and Kiss Aunt Carol for us. RIP xoxo

Sheryl Bryant

September 21, 2020

From our family to Neil’s children, extended family and my Mother Sharon, please know you’re in our family’s hearts and prayers. Our children had a wonderful relationship with Poppy and I enjoyed the laughs and hugs shared with Neil. God speed Neil, rest easy Poppy, we love you.

Linda Palminteri

September 18, 2020

Neil you will be missed!  I have such wonderful memories of your kind words and prayers when our sisters Lois and Karol were ill.  All of your daily phone calls while I was in Roslyn with Lois and in Selden with Karol will be cherished always.  Having my oldest brother guiding me through losing our sisters is kindness that will never be forgotten.

Thank you for your prayers when I was diagnosed with lung cancer. Having the Nuns pray for me was beautiful. You were a true comfort to me during that difficult time.

My love and prayers go out to Sharon, Neil, Lisa and Denise.

All my love,

Patrick Reilly

September 16, 2020

Neil and I have shared many great stories ever since he came down from NY. We first met after Mass at St. John Neumann. We talked about volunteering and I encouraged him to be a volunteer at Fair Oaks Hospital. He has been such a good friend over the years. I will miss him greatly. God Bless you Neil.

Debbie Sammler

September 16, 2020

Neil was one of the first volunteers I met when I came to Inova. He was a funny man who I enjoyed talking to even though he was a Yankees fan and not a Phillies fan. At the end of his volunteering he was the person I looked forward to talking with on Wednesday mornings as I entered the hospital. He will surely be missed and I will always remember him when I pass by the Information Desk. My prayers are with his family at this saddened time. 🙏🙏

Vincenzo Pappalardo

September 15, 2020

R.I.P. to the greatest man I've ever've been my best friend my entire life and always stuck with me even down every dark path I've walked and never gave up on me and were the coolest and funniest man to ever to walk the planet. Goodbye for now I know you'll always be with me in spirit 👑I cherish every moment we've ever shared Always & Forever💙 Really gonna miss laughing on the phone with you everyday. You were the heart of the family. I'll see you later down the road but for now watch over ya boy. Ima keep you tucked in my heart. Rest in paradise to the real Don👑🇮🇹 La Cosa Nostra. From and King to a Legend..Salute and cheers to you! Thank you for everything.
Love you more than life itself Poppyyyy.
The Yankees gonna win the world series this year for you!
- Vinny Bambino

Marilyn Suszko

September 15, 2020

I have very fond memories of times spent exchanging stories about everything and anything in Volunteer Express at Fair Oaks Hospital. Neil was a true New Yorker and me a Jersey Gal so we got each other's odd sense of humor. Neil was well liked and LOVED by many at the hospital he will be missed.

Shara Szollosi

September 15, 2020

I’m deeply saddened to hear the loss of my Uncle Neil . I have many fond childhood memories that will always hold a special place in my heart . He will be missed so much . Wishing him a happy reunion with Aunt Carol and my parents , also others that will be glad to see him enter the gates of Heaven 😇. Rest In Peace Uncle Neil ! Until we meet again xoxo ❤️
Love , Shara

Gina Soviero

September 15, 2020

My prayers and love are with my family at this very tender time.

Uncle Neil you will be missed! My memories of you run deep, I will treasure them always.

Go Yankees!!


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