Helen M. Bender

December 7, 1923November 7, 2012
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Helen M. (Synnott) Bender, age 88, passed away, Wednesday, November 7, 2012 at St Luke’s Hospital. She was the daughter of the late William and Blanche (Morin) Synnott.

Born in Fall River, Mrs. Bender lived in the South coast area all of her life. She was a graduate of New Bedford Vocational Technical High School and worked as a home health aide for Coastline Elderly until her retirement. She was a legendary friend of Bill W. for 47 years. She has gone to heaven where she is enjoying double cheeseburgers, hot fudge sundaes and no migraines.

Survivors include her children, Steve Bender and his wife Sue Ann of Mattapoisett; David Bender of New Bedford; Susan Hart and her husband Nick of South Dartmouth, 5 grandchildren, Dawn Bender Sciascia of Maine, Josh Bender and his wife Claudia of Wareham, Danny Bender of New Bedford, Stephanie Bender of England, Lauren Hart of South Dartmouth; 2 Great-grandchildren, Adlai and Daphne Sciascia of Maine and many nieces and nephews.

Her funeral will be held Tuesday, November 13, 2012 at 10am at Waring-Sullivan Homes of Memorial Tribute at Fairlawn Mortuary followed by a funeral mass to be celebrated at 11 am at St Joseph Church, 74 Spring Street, Fairhaven, MA. Burial in Riverside Cemetery. Visiting hours will be Monday from 4-7 pm. Donations in her memory may be made to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital, 501 St. Jude Place, Memphis TN 38105-1942.



  • Visitation Monday, November 12, 2012
  • Funeral Mass Tuesday, November 13, 2012


  • Burial

Helen M. Bender

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Ethel Pastie

November 29, 2012

Susan, I just found out yesterday about your mom. I also found out I was a patient in the hospital the same time. I got released the night before she past. I'm so sorry for your loss. We had Good times I remember at Lizz"s house yrs ago. What a wonderful woman your mom was. Ethel


November 15, 2012

Mum, the reading on Nov 7,the day you died, said " if one person gets well, the whole family situation improves" thank you for giving us a chance! I love you so. Susan

Michael Favreau

November 15, 2012

Susan, I just heard the news last night I'm so sorry for the loss of your Mom. She was a wonderful women, a power of example and with a great sense of humor. I always enjoyed listening to her. She surely will be missed but will never be forgotten. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Nicky Snipes Cusson

November 14, 2012

I grew up following Sue around like a puppy and Mrs. Bender was like a second mother to me. I have so many memories of her as someone I could always look up to and get great advice from. She was a wonderful, loving woman with a huge heart that was always ready to expand to include one more. She always welcomed me with open arms and was always there for me in difficult times. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you. God bless you all

Leslie Partridge

November 14, 2012

Susan, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. She was a special lady. The pictures of her and your family were great to look at. Love, Leslie

Annette Kelley

November 12, 2012

Helen you will be greatly missed. Your complete honesty, openness and humor meant so much. Thank you for being such a wonderful power of example to me. Annette Kelley

Sharon and Joe Christmas

November 12, 2012

All our love and prayers are with you Susan and Nick and to your whole family. Your mom gave us so many wonderful things, messages of hope and the gift of laughter. Christmas caroling and playing cards are some of my fondest memories. We will miss her.

Paula Malamphy

November 11, 2012

Helen's spirit always filled the room. She touched many lives and will be sorely missed by all. She is safely home... My heartfelt condolences go out to the family. God Bless

Kim Richard

November 11, 2012

Helen, Thank you for continually demostrating to me that no matter how difficult a situation, you can do some work, apply some humour and get through a seemingly bleak situation in tact. Thank you for giving the world a friend like Sue too! Love ya! Kim

November 11, 2012

Dear Helen,
It was my pleasure having known you for the past six years.Your guidance always came naturally from the heart. You will be dearly missed.
Bob R.