Murphy Funeral Homes


Eleanor J. Parker

January 31, 1942June 17, 2020

Eleanor Joan Parker (née Miller), 78, of Portsmouth, VA died peacefully in Falls Church, VA on June 17, 2020.

Born on January 31, 1942 in Rockaway Beach, NY, she was predeceased by her parents, Edward Miller and Mary Frances (née Bennett) Miller, her sister Mary Blessing (née Miller), and her daughter, Donna Marie Parker.

She is survived by her husband of 59 years, Captain Robert C. Parker, Jr. (USN, ret.), her son, Robert C. Parker III, and her daughter Colleen P. Vorbach (Joseph). She is also survived by her three grandchildren Leia Parker, Dylan Vorbach, and MaryFrances Vorbach.

By the time she graduated from Saint Agnes Seminary High School, Eleanor had already met the midshipman from nearby Kings Point with whom she would build a life and family. Bob and Eleanor were married on November 26, 1960, and their early years together as a Navy couple brought them far from the Long Island bowling alley where they had their first date -- Rhode Island, South Carolina, California, Massachusetts, Guantanamo Bay, Cuba; and finally, Portsmouth, Virginia, where they lived for over 40 years.

Over the next five decades, Eleanor planted deep roots. As Bobby and Colleen’s doting mother, she was a fixture on the sidelines of their many activities and the mastermind of their celebrations and gatherings. She was a devoted daughter to her mother, Mary Frances Miller, who joined the family in Portsmouth in the later years of her life.

From her work at The Famous and as an orthodontic assistant, to her constant volunteer leadership of various ministries at the Church of the Resurrection, she also became the ringleader of a loyal group of friends. With Eleanor at the helm, the Parker household played host to regular dinner parties, teas, luncheons, and prayer groups, complete with an abundance of home-cooked food and seasonal decorations for all occasions.

Eleanor’s greatest joy in more recent years came from showering thoughtful and generous love on her three grandchildren. Leia, Dylan, and MaryFrances grew up knowing that a visit with Nana meant an adventure, a feast, and a ceaseless assortment of gifts collected throughout the year.

A mass of Christian Burial will be held at St. Philip Catholic Church in Falls Church, VA on Tuesday, June 30, at 11 AM [Brief visitation will be held prior to Mass at St. Philip from 10-11 AM]. A private burial will be held at Quantico National Cemetery. Condolences and fond memories may be made at,

The family wishes to express its sincere thanks to the staff of Brightview Woodburn Senior Living, who cared for Eleanor with attentive compassion during recent years.

In lieu of flowers, donations to the United Services Organization (USO) at are welcome.


  • Visitation

    Tuesday, June 30, 2020

  • Mass of Christian Burial

    Tuesday, June 30, 2020


Eleanor J. Parker

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Cathy ( nee. Lorne) De Anne

May 6, 2021

I just found out that Eleanor had passed out of our lives! I knew her from the time I was about 5 years old, when she attended a birthday party for me given by my mother at 8807 Rockaway Beach Blvd. Rockaway Beach NY. We both attended St. Francis de Sales Academy together, in Belle Harbor until my parents moved to Lynbrook, NY in 1953. Eleanor's mom was my mother's godmother when she became a Catholic to marry my father. Eleanor's husband's (Bob) father sang at my mother and father's wedding. I was a bridesmaid in Eleanor and Bob's wedding in 1960, at which time we worked together in a Wall Street firm at 20 Broad Street, NYC. She and I always kept in touch through the years and a couple of years ago I lost touch with her. Perhaps she became ill at that time but, I have never been able to contact her since. I was thinking of her and Googled her, which is how I landed on this page, showing a beautiful photo of her. If her husband Bob or her daughter Colleen get a notification from this message I would love to hear from either one. (919-522-8132. I loved her like a sister and my sympathy is with the family, even though it is almost a year anniversary since her transition. Sincerely, Cathy (Diane Lorne) De Anne The photo is from 2002 when I visited Eleanor and Bob in Portsmouth VA. The last time we were together was in 2004 or 5 when she and Bob visited me in Raleigh, NC.

John Gossner

June 30, 2020

My late wife, Lorraine, and I had a special attachment to Bob and Eleanor. We were both married on the same day and year in the same city, and Bob and I were classmates and graduates of the U.S. Merchant Marine Academy. Eleanor was truly a good friend and a wonderful person devoted to her family. We enjoyed many get togethers with Bob and Eleanor for lunch, dinners, and alumni gatherings. I believe Eleanor has now joined the mystical body of the Lord. Rest In Peace Eleanor.

Julia Babbitt Williams

June 22, 2020

I have so many memories of "Mom" Parker. She and "Dad" Parker welcomed me into their home as if I were family. There were endless sleepovers on the pullout sofa in the den, many games of pool, old time movies, and chats around the island in the kitchen. She fed me, laugh with (at?) me - lol, and cared about my well-being. I love her daughter as my sister, and they loved me as their daughter. On my wedding night (and she and Bob's anniversary I believe), at the reception, I remember Eleanor telling me that she had never taken off her wedding ring since she had been married, how special a symbol it was to her, and that she wished Greg and I all the happiness, and stick-to-it-ness that she and Bob had. Twenty-seven years later, we have that. I am so grateful to have known Eleanor and had her in my life during my formative years and beyond. Her sparkle will live on in her loving family, which Col will share with me until we are old(er) and grey(er). Much love to the Parkers...

Sherry Ferki

June 21, 2020

I met Bob and Eleanor through PACMOAA in 2000. Bob talked me in to running for President of the organization the term after he was President assuring me he would help whenever I needed assistance. I called their house on a regular basis during my first term as President. I can still hear Eleanor's voice - "Bob, Sherry is on the phone. You told her to call you whenever she needed help!" Thinking about that still makes me smile.
I also remember going to their house for many years when our Scholarship Committee met and even though Eleanor wasn't usually there, she always left great refreshments for us that were much appreciated.

John Doyle

June 21, 2020

June 21, 2020

Dear Bob and Family,

John and I send our most sincere Sympathy for the passing of Eleanor.
Our hearts are filled with sadness it is hard to put into words. I choose to go back to the time when we first met, the 4 of us, and the friendship that came to be between us over the years.

Eleanor and I shared a special bond. We had many interests we shared, the estate sales, the yard sales, the white Elephant sale at church, (our Shrink sessions}, the many wonderful dinners at the Parkers! She was such a great cook and hostess. The dinners at the officers Club, oh, I can just keep going. Eleanor’s happy and bouncy personality was catching.
Eleanor was and is my Sister.
The trip up north changed everything. Moving to Colleens was the best solution. Because of my limited driving ability we just could not get together any more. In my heart and mind we will always be together.
I will say that Eleanor never failed to express how much she loved each and every one of you, and we had many talks about our lives. She was a proud and happy Wife. Mom, Grandmother

I am very sorry that we cannot attend the Funeral. The traffic ,the covid 19 situation makes it impossible. Please know that we will be with you all in spirit and prayer.

Eleanor has gone ahead and we will follow some day.

Until we meet again
With love and friendship
John and Rosemarie Doyle

Linda McCoy

June 21, 2020

Bob and Colleen, I have missed Eleanor. She was the “people person “ who would get our group of friends together: coffee at McDonalds after the Y, concerts at Willet Hall, lunch at the Green Bean Restaurant, and lovely lunches at your home- all the best china and silver set out!
She was a special person ! My sincere condolences to you and the family.

Linda McCoy

Jean Burr

June 21, 2020

Eleanor and Bob were my neighbors in Portsmouth. Our kids played and went to school together. What i remember best is Eleanor’s infectious smile!.
She will be dearly missed.

George Burr

June 21, 2020

Dear Bob, Bobby, and Colleen
Kolleen just told me that Eleanor has passed, I would like to express my deepest condolences to all of you!
George Corky Burr

June Austin

June 20, 2020

Dear Beloved “Family,

It is impossible to take thirty-five years and do it justice with a small paragraph. She was so much more than that. I often referred to her as my little Pixie. The “little” was stature only. Her heart was bigger than her body. To list everyone she touched with that generous and kind heart from her childhood until now is innumerable. Her faith was very important to her as well. She was not embarrassed to talk about it and the many things she did through the church. It was part of her fabric as a loving, gentle person. That being said, we would laugh together when her Irish ire would show now and again. I will miss many things that were uniquely hers. But, If I had choose a memory that is etched on my brain and heart it would be when the sparkle hit her eye at the same time her mischievous giggle erupted, as though she was holding the greatest secret. Love you my little Pixie! I love you all dearly!

Cindy Mason-Jones

June 20, 2020

My love and sympathies to Grandpa Parker, Colleen, Joe, Mary Frances and Dylan on the passing of Eleanor. Heaven has ganged an angel! I will never forget her love, warmth, hospitality, friendship, spunk, and spirit. She always treated our family as an extension of her family. She always had an encouraging word, a twinkle in her eye, and a hug ready for anyone in need. I was blessed to have her in my life as my dear friend’s Mom. May she enjoy eternal life with her Heavenly Father and Savior and watch over her family on earth.