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Elizabeth J. May

November 21, 1929September 21, 2021

Elizabeth (Betty) Jane May walked peacefully into the light of our Lord on September 21, 2021 at her residence in Burke, Virginia. Born in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania on November 21, 1929. She moved to New York as a teen where she later met and married her husband Emory Carlton May on June 23, 1956. They settled in Babylon, New York and began to raise a family. They moved to Northern Virginia in 1967, and settled in Falls Church, Virginia where she resided until September 2020. Betty was known for being lighthearted, kind, and loving to all she met. She was especially fond of hosting gatherings with her family, preparing her famous lasagna, and playing lots and lots of games. A devout Catholic, she attended Saint James Catholic church in Falls Church, Virginia, was involved in many charitable activities, and women’s groups. She is survived by her children: Richard of York, South Carolina, Linda and her husband Daniel Shanks of Arlington, Virginia, Joyce and her husband KC Haar of Fairfax Station, Virginia, David and his wife Lori of Dogue, Virginia, and Brian of Fairfax, Virginia, her grandchildren: Kathryn and Gary Harding, and Lauren and Emma Jones. Her loving husband Emory preceded her in death on May 8, 2012.

A funeral mass will be held at 1:00pm on Monday September 27, 2021 at Saint James Catholic Church located at 905 Park Ave, Falls Church, Virginia 22046. Interment will take place on October 1st, 2021 at the family cemetery in Thomson, Georgia.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions can be made to VITAS hospice care, or the charity of your choice.


  • Mass of Christian Burial

    Monday, September 27, 2021


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Mary Ann Parker

September 26, 2021

Betty and I were on the St. James Social Outreach Committee together for many years. Betty always helped me at our yearly St. Patrick Day Parties for the seniors at Winter Hill. She was a regular and I am not sure what I would have done without her help--year after year. She will be missed!!

Joe Brown

September 26, 2021

I grew up at Betty's house as a best friend of Brian. She always welcomed me into the house and treated me like one of her children. I'm extremely grateful for her love and hospitality.

Mary Lou Becker

September 26, 2021

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.🙏
"Your mother's kindness was contagious and her memory will live on forever.”
I remember her smile and laugh 😁 when visiting your house in Falls Church...
Our younger years.
Beautiful ~ ❤

Patrice Heasly

September 24, 2021

I met Betty through our widows group in 2014. She was the kindest woman I think I’ve ever met. I can’t recall her saying one negative thing about anyone in the years I knew her. She loved her family so much and really enjoyed the time she spent with them. She also enjoyed being with all of us in the widows group and we loved her right back. She will be greatly missed!