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Ian Andrew Hay

June 27, 1986April 11, 2021
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Ian Andrew Hay, a longtime resident of Falls Church, VA and Washington D.C., died peacefully in his home on April 11th, 2021. He was 34.

Ian’s life was filled with a relentless search for adventure, passion, and purpose. He was a traveler with a fondness for the French language and people. He excelled in athletics from an early age, playing youth soccer, tennis, and hockey. He was a runner, biker, snowboarder, and swimmer who found a pain-free measure of peace in water.

His competitive spirit was not limited to the field. As he grew older and embarked on a college career at Virginia Tech, he developed a mastery of economics, finance, and investing. He was named Virginia Tech’s Chief Investment Manager for their $5M student endowment fund. Upon graduation, he was selected by Bank of America to join their prestigious investment banking program in Charlotte, NC. Ian’s analytical ingenuity and ability to simplify the complexity of numbers was a source of pride and accomplishment, evident by his lengthy and successful career at the Federal Reserve Board.

Music was a significant influence in Ian’s life, and a gifted extension of his numerical creativity. From 2016 – 2021, Ian composed and released 74 electronic music tracks. Viewed as a collective, these songs tell the story of Ian’s life: a devoted husband, a fighter, survivor, philosopher, and a seeker of truth with an unquenchable desire for peace.

Ian is survived by his wife, Natalie, their son Ethan, and two cats Frankie and Primrose. He is also survived by his parents, Gordon and Jennifer Hay, his brother, Justin Hay and his wife Ellen. He was known as “Uncle E” to his two nieces. They will remember him as their fun-loving, goofy, patient uncle who read them bedtime stories and always brought a big smile to their faces. His family will remember him as a brilliant, loving, kind-hearted, funny, and handsome man. He will live forever in our hearts.

Those desiring may make memorial contributions in Ian’s memory to the National Fibromyalgia and Chronic Pain Association ( ). A GoFundMe page has been set up for Ethan and Natalie Hay to support them during this difficult time.

“Don’t let your pain get in the way of your passion"-- Ian Andrew Hay, June 2020


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Gordon Hay

May 5, 2021

I love you Ian. You are just the world’s best son and your mom and I were so lucky to have your love, your humor, your intelligence, your kindness, your consideration, your music and your love of family. But most of all, your love. You are just the son we always wanted. Thank you Ian. Thank you so much. I love you and I will love you forever.

Juan Melendez

May 1, 2021

Ian and I first met back in October 2011, as we were both hired for the same budget position at the Federal Reserve Board. During the course of our work together, Ian and I became more than just work colleagues, we became great friends. As I got to know Ian professionally and personally, I never met a more beautiful soul and mind as his. His passion for process improvement through automation was his niche, and he always made time to answer my technical questions and share his knowledge with me . What was most astonishing to me was that he was self-taught, watching various YouTube videos as his form of instruction. Another passion of his, being family, was evident and always known as he talked constantly about what and how much family meant to him.

To Ian’s wife, Natalie, and the entire Hay family, I’d like to express my sincerest condolences. I pray that the Lord be your source of comfort, healing, and strength during this difficult time. Ian was brilliant light that warmed and touched the hearts of many that were blessed to cross paths with him. His memory and legacy will never be extinguished. God bless you all. Ian, my brother, may you rest in eternal peace.

Troy Dibley

May 1, 2021

I had the honor to work with Ian at the Federal Reserve for 10 years. To put it simply, Ian was one of the most creative, driven, and genuine people that I have ever met. He was an “ideas” person. He was driven to improve a process, a report, a tool, or a way of doing things. He was never afraid to push the envelope (in a good way) to achieve something bigger, better, faster, and more efficient. He set a high bar for himself and others, and was always willing to share kind notes and words with others.

I spoke with Ian on a regular basis. Our catch ups were scheduled for 30 minutes and would routinely go an hour to an hour and a half. We would talk about work, family, and his ideas.

His technical skills, which were unmatched, were mostly self-taught and perfectly complemented his creativity. When he would run into a work challenge, all he needed was to talk through an idea or perform research on his own to solve it. That was one of the many things I valued about him.

To Ian’s family, I want you to know how much he spoke of you. His stories about his weekends with family were always positive. It was clear how much of his joy came from being a husband, a brother, an uncle, and a son. Thank you for sharing him with us. I learned so much from Ian and am lucky to have worked with him. He will be sorely missed.

chris mellinger

May 1, 2021

I concur with Gretchen: Ian was probably the brainiest of a very bright group. At first it appeared as frenzied busy-ness, but then we realized his process. My memories extend from the drooping diaper period to middle school when he tried to make brownies in a blender with his friend and was later "banished" from that friend's house, to an energetic teenager at Nana and Poppy's 50th wedding anniversary, to a thoughtful grandson at their memorial services. Like Cousin Becky, I take solace in thinking Ian is with them with no more pain.

Your cousins Gordie and Simon Greenwood are saddened by your passing and impressed with your amazing life, as we all are.

Shayda Tavakoli

April 28, 2021

Ian and I had French class together and he was always better at everything than I was. His kindness and spirit will be missed. My heart goes out to his family.

Becky Rohre (nee Limbird)

April 24, 2021

My arms are around my cousins Jenny and Gordon Hay and family as they mourn the heartbreaking passing of their son; Natalie's husband; Justin's brother; and soon-to-be Ethan's Dad.

I remember meeting Ian at his Grandpa, (and my Uncle Ray ) Mellinger's Celebration of Life service several years ago. I was so impressed with Ian's outgoing nature and friendliness. In his own grief for his Grandpa, he reached out to others there with his way of being kind and caring.

My prayer now for Ian is to be finally pain free and snuggling in the arms of his Grandparents. Ian bravely struggled with a debilitating and finally terminal illness. God Bless you Ian.

Jenny and Gordon: you know I will be with you all in spirit as you say Good Bye to Ian. Please reach out to me whenever and however you feel the need for comforting and love.

Sarah Slattery

April 21, 2021

When I think of Ian, my first thought always goes back to when he was around 4 years old. The memory is of Ian--along with his cousin, Caitlin--misquoting jokes from "Home Alone" and hysterically giggling together at their own silliness. I also picture him as a teenager engaging in lively conversations with his dad spoken in French and how I marveled at his natural ability to learn and excel in any interest, hobby, or sport that he pursued. Ian was loving, funny, and generous and will be missed by all who knew and loved him. I pray that you are at peace, dear nephew. Lovingly, Aunt Sarah

Gretchen Kirby

April 21, 2021

Ian was possibly the smartest member of our family which is saying a lot. He was so funny and gentle. I know his beloved Nana and Poppy were very proud of him and willed his grandfather's phi beta kappa key to him. Ian was very stoic and did his best to stay engaged with his family, joining us for memorial services and the surprise anniversary party he co-hosted for his parents. We will miss him while being grateful for the end to his suffering.