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Monica Ellen Stabile

June 9, 1955December 15, 2019

Monica Ellen Stabile, loving wife and mother, and devoted Catholic and educator, passed away unexpectedly on Sunday, December 15, 2019, in Arlington, Virginia.

Monica was born on June 9, 1955, in Ogden, Utah to Col. Harold Tramel and Mrs. Ilse Tramel. She spent over twelve years of her childhood in Germany. She studied at the University of Maryland, Munich campus, for two years, and received her B.A. from George Mason University with a major in German and minor in English. She received a Masters Degree of Education from the University of Virginia. Monica was the recipient of three Institute for the Development of Educational Activity fellowships, sponsored by the Kettering Foundation, to Agnes Scott college in Georgia, Loretto Heights College in Colorado, and Harvey Mudd college in California. Monica devoted her life to education. She taught German for more than thirty-five years at Bishop O’Connell High School in Arlington. Earlier in her career, she taught French and English at St. Anthony’s Catholic School in Falls Church. In addition to teaching, Monica led approximately thirty-five educational trips for high school students and alumni to Europe.

Monica was passionate about inspiring students to maintain a lifelong quest to continue learning about different cultures. She is remembered by her family, friends, and students for her dedication, her kindness, and her wit. She has travelled around the world, and was among the first Americans to travel to China when she visited there in the late 1970s. Her favorite personal travel destinations were Italy and Bavaria.

Monica is survived by her husband, Dr. Daniel Stabile, her son, Daniel, her daughter-in-law, Gina, her sister and brother-in-law, Diana and Richard, her nephews, Dave and Steve, and her grandchildren, Siena and Luca.

Visitation is Friday, Dec. 20 from 4:00 to 8:00 p.m. at Murphy Funeral Home, 1102 W. Broad Street, in Falls Church City, Virginia. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Saturday Dec. 21 at 10 a.m. at St. James Catholic Church, 905 Park Avenue, Falls Church City. The burial will follow at noon at National Memorial Park, 7482 Lee Hwy, Falls Church.

In the coming weeks, the Stabile family will be establishing the Monica E. Stabile World Language Scholarship Fund to support O’Connell students who demonstrate a commitment to the continued study of foreign language and culture. The family requests that in lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Scholarship Fund. Details regarding the Scholarship Fund will be provided in the near future.


  • Visitation Friday, December 20, 2019
  • Mass of Christian Burial Saturday, December 21, 2019


Monica Ellen Stabile

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Sister Rose L. Harlan

December 22, 2019

I have so many happy memories from my days in DJO. Monica hosted so many of the gatherings at her house. They were always such a good time. May she rest in peace and may Dan and your son be at peace knowing that she was such an example to so many people of Christ's love. God bless you. You are in my prayers. Sister Rose

Vicki Cabrera

December 21, 2019

Dr. Stabile and the Bishop O’Connell Family,

We are so saddened for the passing of Frau Stabile. She brought a great light in her presence with her students and the whole community of Bishop O’Connell. To say she left a mark on so many is an understatement, and those who knew and loved her were blessed by her. May she be guided by the angels to Rest In Peace, and to Dr. Stabile and your family, please take comfort in knowing how much we loved and appreciated her. Thank you for sharing your precious angel with us. We feel for your loss.

With Love and our deepest condolences ~

José and Vicki Cabrera
Nicholas, Sean, Joseph and Matthew Cabrera

Eden Ingram

December 20, 2019

Dear Dr. Stabile,

I’m so very sorry for your loss. Mrs. Stabile was a great German teacher and I enjoyed seeing her comforting face in the hallways everyday at school. My prayer is that we are able to support you as much as you support everyone else. May God give you peace and understanding during this difficult time.

Eden Ingram

Mary Daly

December 20, 2019

You were the first of my teachers to reach out to me when I got sick and couldn’t attend school. You told me that I didn’t have to worry, we’d work it out and no illness was going to keep me from passing your class. Things didn’t go our way, but I know if I had been able to stay at DJO that you would have kept that promise.
- Mary Daly

Kathy Ellis

December 20, 2019

Dear Dan and Danny,
I was heartbroken to hear about Monica's passing. I have so many wonderful memories from our days in Falls Church and especially our summers at High Point Pool with the swim team. Monica was a good friend, wonderful wife and mother. She was always so good to me and my kids. I especially remember all the time that Doug spent at your home hanging out with Danny.
I can't imagine your loss but please know that I am praying for you at this time. Sending love, Kathy Ellis

Rose LeBoeuf

December 20, 2019

Dear Monica,

We were Friends for 30 Years, across the hall buddies for 27. We had our morning coffee together, maybe a donut but, always with Nutella. I'm the Spanish teacher that learned to love Salzburg, and of course, The Sound of Music.

We were four friends that travelled throughout Europe with your guidance. These are the memories that lessen this terrible grief.

Dear friend, it was so good to see you in May at graduation. We laughed and hugged and talked about our grandchildren. We promised to visit in Florida this Christmas.

This will be my last memory of you, a happy memory.

Rest in the Peace of the Lord, dear Monica. I will always love you..... Rose LeBoeuf

Daniel Dunn

December 19, 2019

Dear Mrs. Stabile,

To me, your class was an oasis. Tucked away in that little corner of that major complex, our time together was as the interior joy of family life. My only class that did not begin with a formal prayer, for me, yours was the most prayerful of classes. Slowly, each at our own pace, and as we chose, each student shared their lives with each other. Your warmth and kindness, your humor and anecdotes, your affectionate teasing, your interest in each of us - all of these were the unspoken guides of discourse. To do the hard work of learning the beauty of another's language, so that our hearts could listen to someone else, and so that we could learn anew how to share the treasures of our own interior life - this was daily life with you.

With deep sorrow that I did not send you this letter some months ago, with deep gratitude that I may at least sing your goodness to those whom you love, yours in Christ,

Daniel Dunn
class of 1983

Peter Jones

December 18, 2019

First and foremost, we all loved Monica. I can’t imagine the grief felt. We are in shock at the news. Monica has meant so much to us all. So much history intertwined. So many memories and so much commitment from Monica for the love of her students and her passion for traveling . It’s impossible to separate job from personal at this level. The genuine appreciation and partnership that Monica shows for ACIS when she speaks unprompted at our gatherings, moves everyone in the room. Her ability to want to share the world is her lasting legacy in our tiny piece of the universe. It’s so strange to know that Monica has left us. I am so sad and utterly devastated. No matter how painful, her voice and her influence will be forever with us.

I remember the first time I met Monica. It was in Florence. By the Arno River. Just a quick interaction with someone who would become a friend, a colleague and a fellow traveler. It felt so natural to see the two of you at the National Foreign Language conference, or in Rome at a global teacher conference. Always stepping in to add something. Always totally committed to ACIS and always believing in the urgency of travel overseas with students. I see her still. Elegant, beautifully dressed, and with this great ability to light up a room. Immortality is a strange concept. She has it. Her voice, her power of influence and her energy will carry us all through the sadness.

Much love,
Peter and all of the ACIS family

Kristina Henry

December 18, 2019

Mrs. Stabile made a lasting impression. Her intelligence, dedication and humor were in constant evidence in her German classes at O'Connell. She was truly a gem and we were so lucky to have had her as a teacher. My prayers and thoughts are with her family.

Kristina Tatusko Henry
class of ‘84

Sophia Price

December 17, 2019

Frau was one of the most wonderful people I have ever been blessed to meet. She was a friend to me and many others along with teaching us so much about life. She was someone I always looked up to & I will carry the lessons I’ve learned from her with me for life. She was truly an angel in the form of a mentor, teacher and most importantly, a friend. I love you Dr. Stabile & I hope you know how many people are here for you & how many people love you & Frau. ❤️