Murphy Funeral Homes

1102 West Broad Street, Falls Church, VA


Paul Terrence O'Grady

June 7, 1938November 2, 2019

Paul Terrence “Terry” O’Grady, age 81, formerly of Falls Church, VA, passed away peacefully on Saturday, November 2, 2019. He was at Loudoun Hospital in Leesburg, VA surrounded by his family when he died.

Terry is survived by his beloved wife, Catherine Harte O’Grady; their four children and their spouses: Maura Santoli and her husband Frank, Terrence O’Grady and his wife Marie, Catherine O’Grady and her husband Kurt Merkle, and Kerry O’Grady and her husband Jim Henon, sisters Patricia Dennis and Jeanne Scollin, and nine grandchildren.

He was preceded in death by his brother Fr. Joseph O’Grady. Terry was born in Lynn, MA on June 7, 1938 to the late Joseph and Anne O’Grady. He graduated from St. Mary's High School in Lynn (1955) and Saint Michael's College in Colchester, Vermont (1959).

Law was Terry’s passion -- he received his JD from Boston College of Law in 1962. He was admitted to both the Virginia and DC bars. He started his career with the Justice Department -- and then served as City Attorney for Falls Church, VA. The bulk of his career was in private practice in Falls Church where he was committed to helping his clients navigate legal matters with ease.

Terry was a photographer, avid reader, keeper of family history. He was known for his curiosity and interest in practically anything and anyone who crossed his path. He always enjoyed connecting with people one on one -- from his neighbors to clients to his many friends-- he shared a laugh and a bit of himself.

Though Terry accomplished much professionally -- nothing gave him greater pleasure than family, especially those who call him Grampy. If you ran into him, he’d always have a story about one of his beloved grandchildren -- Grace, Patrick, Tim, Liam, Steffen, Lewis, Daniel, Kaela and Emma. From their accomplishments in the classroom to sailing to Boy Scouts to swimming and their day to day lives. He’d make sure you saw a recent photo on his phone and heard the story behind it. Also on his phone -- pictures of his best date -- his wife of 57 years -- Cathy. They were an inseparable pair who shared a love of family, inside jokes as well as summer trips to Maine and fall trips to her home state Vermont to celebrate their marriage in the state where it began.

A Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Thursday, November 7, 2019 10 AM at St. James Catholic Church, 905 Park Ave. in Falls Church. Burial will follow in Oakwood Cemetery, and those who attend are welcome to join a reception following the burial at the Hilton Garden Inn at 706 West Broad Street, Falls Church, Virginia, 22046. Memorial contributions may be made to Franciscan Friars of the Atonement www.atonementfriars.org. Condolences and fond memories may be made at murphyfuneralhomes.com.


  • Visitation Wednesday, November 6, 2019
  • Mass of Christian Burial Thursday, November 7, 2019
  • Graveside Service Thursday, November 7, 2019


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Angela Mellon

November 8, 2019

Cathy & Family,
We are so sorry for your loss. We loved waving to Terry daily on our walks. He was such a kind & friendly man. We were sad when you both left the neighborhood & will miss seeing all his beautiful vacation photos now too. Please know you are all in our thoughts & prayers. Rest In Peace Terry.
Pat & Angie Mellon

June and Mike Beyer

November 6, 2019

Dearly Loved Cathy and Family,
Our entire Beyer family is just so very sad to lose a darling friend and the Patriarch of Buxton Road! Terry was wonderful!
We've been super lucky living across the street from the O’Grady family for 30 years. In 1990 Terry planted a garden of ‘Emma Flowers’ named after our sweet little girl! Terry and Cathy attended the weddings of our children and made every Buxton Road party/anniversary/graduation and Christmas at 203 so much more fun!
As busy as he was Terry always took time to chat, chuckle and charm everyone he met. I’d even hear the mailman laughing at the O’Grady’s front door!
Our hearts ache over the loss of ‘Mr. O’Grady’ as he will forever be known to our now grown children and young grandchildren.
Cathy and Terry inspired us every day with their beautiful marriage and wise (and always hilarious!) words on child rearing!
To their children and grandchildren we send sympathy and to Cathy we say thank you for your gifts of love with Terry. He will really be missed. With you all, we weep.
Love, June and Mike and Crew

John Gannon

November 6, 2019

Mary Ellen and I met Terry and Cathy in Falls Church nearly 40 years ago. I sat on our City Council when Terry served ably as our City Attorney. I quickly became exposed to his sharp legal mind and to the seriousness with he took his job as our city’s general counsel. I was the recipient of countless artfully drafted PTOG (Paul Terrence O’Grady) memos in response to member requests or at his initiative to keep us all in line. I was the beneficiary of his wise counsel in private conversations in which I came to appreciate his sound legal advice, his candor, his well-practiced sense of humor, and his dry wit. Professionally, Terry always showed himself to be a man of strong moral character and unassailable integrity. As our friendship grew beyond local government, I also experienced Terry as the gifted Irish storyteller, the apprentice Vatican theologian, the well-read historian and intellectual, the astute and sometimes sardonic political commentator, the friendly and supportive neighbor, and the skilled photographer. Above all, though, Terry was a husband and father who could not restrain the joy he drew from his long marriage to Cathy and from the impressive family they raised together. He would tell us now that family enriched his full and productive life in countless ways. It is sad to part with him, but we will always be grateful for the warmth of his friendship.

Jaime Iglehart

November 6, 2019

My family moved across from Terry and Cathy on Buxton Road in 2014. Terry was always a warm and caring person to all of us. He often sat at his desk in the front window that faced our house. His frequent presence there and thoughtful comments checking in on our family always made me feel like he was watching over us- much like a guardian angel. I am so very sorry to hear of his passing and my heart goes out to Cathy and the rest of his family. ❤️

Troy Curtis

November 6, 2019

Terry and I worked together for several years when my company came to Haymarket. From the first time I met him we hit it off and shared great stories. Even when busy schedules made it harder for us to meet face to face, he still made a point to communicate with phone calls and emails. He always took the time to be a good friend and colleague. His loss is a great one and he will be missed by all who knew him.

Nicole Ace

November 5, 2019

Dear Cathy and family,
We were lucky enough to meet Terry when you decided to become our neighbors here in Lansdowne.
Terry was incredibly witty and always interesting to talk to. But above all, a kind and sweet man. We will miss him.
Our deepest sympathy to the entire family.
Nicole and Gary Ace

Chris Avery

November 4, 2019

To the Entire O'Grady Family,

Please accept our heartfelt condolences, our love, and our prayers. We all loved Terry and considered him one of our closest family friends. Someone we could always count on for good counsel, great conversation, and a million laughs. He was so very proud of all you have accomplished. His love for you was fierce and unconditional. He was a wonderful man. God bless you all and may your hearts be filled with beautiful memories.

The Avery Family