Robert Lee Crites

April 27, 1947March 3, 2019

This is Linda, Bob’s wife, writing this obituary. I thought about how I wanted to tell you about Bob and decided to go about it the way he would, informal and conversational.

Bob was born in Kansas to an Army Air Corp pilot (later to be an Air Force pilot) and his supportive military wife. His father’s duty stations took him to Okinawa, Arkansas, Newfoundland, Hawaii and multiple times to California. He learned how to make friends quickly at each new place he moved to. He graduated from Punahou High School, perhaps best known by one of its celebrated alumni, Barak Obama. He spent a year at the University of Hawaii and then transferred to UC Riverside when his father got orders to the Pentagon. To say Bob enjoyed college life is an understatement. After 5 years, his advisor called him in and said “Congratulations, you’ve graduated”. Bob said “Great! What did I major in?” Turns out they created a major for him, Physical Sciences, just to get him out of school.

Bob arrived in the DC area at the invitation of the Federal government to become an entry level computer programmer trainee. He needed a job and it sounded interesting so he said yes. And that, as they say, was that. He spent the next 36 years of his life working in the Information Technology field at various different businesses and loving every minute of it. One of his assignments even got him me. He liked to tell the story of how I pursued him and I was more than happy to say that his story was true. I knew a good thing when I saw it.

For this next part, I want to borrow from a message I received from a longtime friend. She captured Bob’s essence beautifully.

The first thing that people noticed about Bob was that he was tall. But if you spent any time with him, you realized he was so much more. His height wasn’t what defined Bob unless you think of height in terms of his important qualities.

He stood tall in friendliness and warmth for all those he met.

He stood tall in kindness and gentleness. He was a gentle man and a gentleman.

He stood tall in concern for his family and for Linda’s family.

He stood tall in enthusiasm for lunch time volleyball at work and after work volleyball on the Mall.

He stood tall in his avid interest, support and love for GMU volleyball and basketball.

He stood tall in his obvious love for all those young people that he encouraged by his presence at games.

He stood tall in the acceptance of his “married into” family and all their events in Rhode Island.

He stood tall in his support for his wife and their weekly visits to his mother-in-law.

He stood tall in integrity and in patriotism.

He stood tall in loyalty to his longtime friends and making friends his family.

He stood tall in optimism and in determination. He fought to recover from every medical challenge that was dished out to him. And he did it with a big grin on his face.

Most of all, he stood tall in his love, devotion, affection and pride in Linda. Bob and Linda were, and will always be the perfect Mickey and Minnie.

Bob and I were married for 33 years and I was so incredibly lucky to love him and be loved by him. Yes, I wanted more years with him, but I’m so happy for the ones I had and the memories I will always have.

If people wish, a contribution can be made in Bob’s memory to The Crites Family Men’s Volleyball Scholarship Endowment at George Mason University. Checks should be made out to the GMU Foundation with a notation in memo line of “Crites Volleyball Endowment”. If you wish to make a donation online, the link is You can designate where to direct your donation in the comments section of the giving form.

Checks should be mailed to: Patriot Club 4400 University Drive MS 5E1 Fairfax, VA 22030


23 March

Celebration of Life

11:00 am - 1:00 pm

Murphy Funeral Homes

1102 West Broad Street
Falls Church, VA 22046


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Cindy Duncan

March 19, 2019

Bob you will be forever missed, you were always so kind, happy and so caring! I will be forever greatful for you and Linda for making the trip for six years to be the best helpers in the world for the Rainbow Race! You will be so missed and we loved you lots!
I pray you and Cassie keep an eye on us all🌈🤗❤️❤️

Greg Duncan

March 19, 2019

When ever Bob was here for a visit he would alway sit with me and talk to me. He was a great listener. I will miss him, Love, Greg

Liza de Guzman

March 19, 2019

I loved how Bob used to tower over my cubicle to say hello. When I told him I was taking a class in photography, he lent me his awesome camera to use and he was so excited to show me all of its functions, which at that time overwhelmed me since I was just a beginner. It was so cool how he took his time showing me how it works! I will never forget his kindness and generosity. He was one of the few colleagues from the IMF that made me smile when I'd look back. He was such a warm and friendly person. He will be greatly missed by many.

Clark Taylor

March 7, 2019

It's been well over forty years since the last time I spoke with Bob. But it seems like the comments I've read today are a good fit for the guy I knew. Bob and I attended UCR together and lived in one of the on-campus dorms. My first contact with Bob happened while we were standing in line at the cafeteria. For some reason, I turned around and found myself staring right into Bob's belt buckle! I probably made some lame comment, and we began talking. Among other things, I found out that Bob drove a Volkswagen and was a sporty car nut. He loved his Bug, but mentioned a problem with his knees: there was no room for them by the steering wheel. A few days later we drove to Riverside's J&M Speed Center and Bob purchased a small diameter steering wheel. Knee problem solved!

I've had such a flood of memories about our times together at UCR; whether it was school intramural sports, car rallies, or just getting together with our friends for dinner. Eventually we all left UCR and moved on with our lives. I knew from some of our friends that Bob had gone back East to work for the IRS. It figures that Bob took on the job responsibilities he faced and became a valuable member of the teams he worked with. That's just the guy I knew!

Charles Blose

March 7, 2019

I first met Bob at American Security Bank where he helped to install the bank's ATMs. Bob was a key technical support consultant who was invaluable in the success of the project. When I moved to the IMF, I suggested that Bob be asked to join the project team as there was no one else who knew personal computers and many of the technical issues we were dealing with better. If he didn't know about something, he would study the issue and let you know what he thought. Bob had great integrity in that he would tell you what he thought whether you wanted to hear it or not. I still remember going into Bob's office on many occasions to ask for something or his advice on something. There would be piles of paper stacked all over the office, but he always knew where to find something. Bob was always my "go to guy" for technical advice -- both work and personal. I remember when Bob and Linda got married, my wife, Vicki, and I had been in Hawaii but planned to get back to DC on the morning of the wedding. Unfortunately, our plane developed engine problems between the West coast and DC so we got stranded in Philadelphia and missed the wedding. Always a regret as Bob and Linda loved a good time. He will be missed.

Lida Peterson

March 7, 2019

Bob was one of the kindest, gentle man I’ve known. I will always remember how he used to leave Hershey kiss on my and everybody’s desk on every Valentines Day.

Rachel Rudowich

March 6, 2019

So beautifully written, I can picture Bob asking what he majored in :) always up for a joke, Bob will certainly be missed. Lots of love ❤️

Jim Ruland

March 6, 2019

Laurel and I have lived across from the Crites for almost 20 years. Bob was always helpful, entertaining, and available in time of need. On one occasion, Laurel was returning from Florida with our sons when her car broke down near Woodbridge. When I asked for Bob’s help with driving down to pick them up, Bob’s only question was when should we leave?

Bob was a fabulous neighbor and a kind spirit who will be missed. Our teen sons enjoyed seeing “Mr. Bob” and appreciated the opportunity to help with chores. And despite being well over 6 feet tall myself, he was one of the few people that I looked up to.

Eric Moore

March 6, 2019

Although I didn’t know Bob well, I was always overwhelmed by the kindness and warmth that he exuded every time we talked.

Linda and Bob lived across the street from my parents for many years. After my family bought the house from them, Bob would frequently ask how they were doing and always relayed a kind word regarding them, or shared a memory concerning my father. I will always remember Bob’s thoughtful offer to use the extra space in their large driveway as needed due to bad weather and such. Bob was definitely both tall in stature (I especially loved his story about trying to find a smaller car that would accommodate his height.) and warmth.