Paul G Feinman

January 26, 1960March 31, 2021

Paul G Feinman was born on January 26, 1960 and passed away on March 31, 2021 and is under the care of Parkside Memorial Chapels.

Graveside Service will be held on April 2, 2021 at 11:30 am at Wellwood Cemetery, 1400 Wellwood Avenue, West Babylon, NY.

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Chris Chale

April 10, 2021

I have wonderful memories of Paul in law school at U of M. He was truly a unique and wonderful person who brought his warmth, passion and deep concern for others to his work. My sincerest condolences to Robert and Paul's family.

Lewis Milrod

April 5, 2021

I just found out today about Paul's passing. Paul and I were in many of the same classes in junior high and high school as well as band. He always had interesting things to say, was very thoughtful, and wore a broad smile. Although we didn't stay in touch, Paul is a big part of my high school memories and I was proud to learn today of all he had accomplished. My heart felt condolences to the family.

Debbie Weisbrot Shapiro

April 3, 2021

My brother, Mitch, and I want to send hugs and lots of love to the immediate and extended Feinman family. Paul and I were a year apart in school, but we had the same sense of humor. We were, also, in music and Hebrew club together. He always made me laugh. I think he made everyone happier. I will always remember him as a smart, funny, talented, devoted, and amazing human being.

Inez Ragone

April 3, 2021

It broke my heart to hear of Paul’s passing.
My children, Scott, Lisa and Randy Pianin grew up with Paul. We lived just a few houses away on Leonard Lane in Merrick, NY. A sweet bright respectful young man who grew up to be an even sweeter, smarter more amazing man. My heart goes out to Judy. Philip and Fran . God give them the strength to endure the pain of yet another loss at such a young age. My condolences to his husband Robert Ostergaard. You were blessed to have had each other in your lives.
I am happy that we got to see Paul at the Leonard Lane Reunion.

Karen Bower-Brown

April 3, 2021

Paul and I became friends right from orientation week at Columbia when I had just started as a freshman at Barnard. We were close friends ever since. As I was from the UK, I did not go home very often, and his family home became a second home for me. I was welcomed wholeheartedly by his whole family. I am so sorry that his life was cut so cruelly short by his illness. Paul and Robert were very kind to my family and Paul will be sorely missed by us all. Robert, you are a dear kind person and we are so happy that you and Paul had some years of happiness together. I am so happy that you were both able to visit us in Lincoln on a recent visit to the UK. Very best wishes from Karen (and Malcolm, Angus, Susie and Alex)

Susan Karten

April 3, 2021

We met when Judge Feinman clerked for Judge Mazzarelli The last case we were involved in together was the 91st Street Crane Collapse. He was always warm and welcoming and most importantly had a love of life that was so apparent when we spoke. He will be sorely missed. My thoughts are with his entire family whom he always talked about in glowing terms.

Randy Pianin

April 2, 2021

To the Feinman family,
We are so saddened to hear of Paul’s passing. Amy and I enjoyed seeing him at Andy Nachamie’s kids’ bar and bat mitzvahs. We often reflect on David and the entire family and it brings a smile to our faces as we recall wonderful times on Leonard Lane. Your mother liked to recall when we sent pizzas to the Baines’ house across the street. We hope you take comfort in those memories too. You have our deepest sympathies and wish peace and comfort to your families.
Randy and Amy Pianin 561-212-8516

Timothy Kebbe

April 1, 2021

Judge Feinman was first year my legal writing instructor at the University of Minnesota Law School. We were both from downstate New York, which made us somewhat unusual for students at the law school during the mid-1980's. Judge Feinman was demanding - he would never allow you to settle for something less than your best effort - fair, a mentor, and had a wonderful, dry sense of humor. Thanks to the Judge's tutelage, I did well in the 1L writing course, and the memo I finally drafted enabled me to get invited to join several moot courts, and sufficiently impressed several law firms that I was offered a sought after summer associate positions at substantial Manhattan firms.

As I look back at the arc of my career, I know that I would not have been afforded employment opportunities without the Judge's guidance and instruction in legal writing. He laid a foundation and standard of excellence that has enabled me to practice law in New York for well more than 30 years. And during that time, I have been humbled by and proud of Judge Feinman's accomplishments, not only as a reflection of his exceptional teaching, but also of his extraordinary qualities as a human being.

I will miss him.

Tim Kebbe, UM-Law '87

Matt Baer

April 1, 2021

Twenty years ago I won an essay contest for NYC high school students on "The Independence of the Judiciary." I can't imagine too many other people entered the contest!

Anyway, my "prize" was to spend a week shadowing a NYC judge. I sort of forgot about the prize and moved on with the rest of my senior year. I spent most of the summer doing other things, but in the last couple weeks before I went off to college I had nothing to occupy myself with. So I decided to "cash in" on my prize... I called the essay people who promptly set me up with Judge Feinman when he was on the NYC Civil Court.

I don't think either of us knew what the "shadowing" was supposed to entail, but I did get to sit next to him for a week watching him preside over cases and make rulings. He was very willing to explain what was happening and what his job was like as a judge. For a 17-year-old, it was pretty exciting. I didn't become a lawyer or a judge but really appreciated the experience, and was excited when Judge Feinman was elevated to the Court of Appeals.

I'm sorry for your loss.
Matt Baer

Steve Strauss

March 31, 2021

Robert and I are so saddened by Paul's death. We had both been out of touch with Paul for a number of years while I was in DC and had hoped to reconnect but time ran out.

I have good memories of collecting nominating signatures for Paul's early Civil Court races and introducing him to then Assemblymember Espaillat when Paul began his campaign to win a Supreme Court nomination in New York County.

Paul broke barriers for gay and lesbian lawyers wanting to become judges and this year in Queens we have our first openly gay attorney seeking a Civil Court seat with the County Organization supporting him.

Thank you Paul for your contribution to the NY judiciary and legal system and for being a friend.