Richard Herbert Toder

March 21, 1938April 15, 2018

Richard Herbert Toder, age 80, of Fresh Meadows, New York passed away on Sunday April 15, 2018. Richard was born March 21, 1938.

A funeral service for Richard will be held Wednesday, April 18, 2018 from 11:30 AM to 12:00 PM at Schwartz Brothers-Jeffer Memorial Chapels, 114-03 Queens Blvd., Forest Hills, New York. Following the funeral service will be a burial at 1:00 PM at Locust Valley Cemetery, 117 Ryefield Rd, Locust Valley, New York.

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  • Funeral Service Wednesday, April 18, 2018

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Carmine Rende, Jr.

August 30, 2018

Richard and I both went to the same trade school in Brooklyn and broke into engineering at the same time. A few years later we worked for the same company. We stayed there for many years.
When we both went on our own we shared offices for years. When he got married I was at his wedding. Richard had a flair for life and was a great trusted and generous friend. I will miss him. Bon Voyage old friend. Carmine

Harris Fogel

April 18, 2018

Richard was my cousin; my mother Arlene Fogel (Pelcyger) was Richard's first cousin. We grew up looking forward to seeing our "Cousin Richie" when we were kids during trips from CA to NY. Later, when the trips became more frequent, we would see him every time, always with a trip to great restaurant, with more food that you could manage. His enthusiasm was infectious. We would walk in, he warmly greeted the maître d' and waiters as if they were long lost relatives, and soon he would be spinning stories about projects he worked on. My mom's favorite was when he did work for the Getty family, during the time of the kidnapping. She asked for the story every time we met up, and Richie never tired of telling it, and my mom loved it each time.

I got to know Richard as an adult when I moved to NY for graduate school. I had worked designing darkrooms, and had lots of questions, so my time during lunches wasn't about stories, but learning the issues facing the creation of a healthy HVAC environment. I used the knowledge he passed on for years, calling him regularly for help, which he was always eager to give.

Two stories stand out for me. About 20 years ago, Richard came to Philadelphia, at the same time that my mom was visiting. Despite a sudden snow storm, we all headed for the original old Bookbinders, where Richard greeted everyone and said, "Bring out your best lobsters!" My mom and Richard were like kids again. I remember him telling the waiters to bring the lobsters to the table before they were cooked, for approval. One of them wasn't large enough so he sent it back! Despite a blizzard, somehow he got us home safely, and then back home to NY he went.

In 2016 we went to the Topping Ceremony on a building he worked on. Everyone knew and loved seeing him. I had a great time, taking photographs of him, sitting down sharing great food above the city, and trying to grasp the enormity of the job. I loved my Cousin Richie, as did our entire family.

Ana agurto

April 17, 2018

Paco and and I have so many good memories of you. Your simplicity your willingness to help us in any circumstance . Did not matter what you were there. I will not forget when you rescued my Lucky from dying under a car. You took the risk and walked to middle of the street and saved him.
The list could go on and on . You were truly a good neighbor .
May God grant you the best place in heaven. You earned Rich.
Until we meet again.

Paco y Anita

Louise Wasoff

April 17, 2018

The first thing that comes to mind when i think about Dick Toder is that he is One In A Million
He was a kind and generous soul, a truly selfless human being
Dick loved to show you a good time and always had a story to tell...........
Now.........Some of the stories he told i have heard many times before but he told them with the same enthusiasm as the first time, I will forever hear him laughing as he told them
Wishing you Peace on your journey My Beautiful Friend
I Will Miss You Dick Toder...............
Love You
Louise Wasoff

Craig Wasoff

April 17, 2018

Sooo many unique and unforgettable memories of one of my oldest and dearest friends.
Dick schlepping his shopping cart full of plans and colored pencils throughout Manhattan
Ben & Jack's for lobster and steak, and every appetizer and side dish on the menu, and of course a "wash down" of sorbet afterwards even though he could hardly move at that point
Welcome baskets in a vacation hotel room on our arrival, even though I purposely never told him where we were going
His beloved "Blueberry" list of contacts
Completing and billing a job before I finished explaining the project to him
The only other engineer, besides myself to pass the Master Plumber's test without having any hands-on field experience
Balsley Park in the middle of the night with flashlights looking for a manhole he knew had to be there
Pleated ties, eclectic collars and matching cuffs that was his trademark
His alter ego the mysterious Sol Schwartz
Generous and caring to a fault, I will miss you forever Dick