David Michael Relue

May 12, 1967March 12, 2021

David Michael Relue, 53, passed away Friday, March 12, 2021. Born in Fort Wayne, IN on May 12, 1967, he was the son of the late Ralph W. Relue and Marilyn J. (Griebel) Relue. He graduated from Homestead High School in 1985. At Wabash College, he played football and was a member of Sigma Chi Fraternity, where he developed life-long friendships with men he now considers his brothers, to whom he is known as “Rels.” He graduated in 1989 with a Bachelor’s Degree in Economics. He married Rebecca Schaab, on July 7, 1990. He faithfully loved his wife in their 30+ years of marriage. They were best friends who loved to laugh and dance together. They raised three children. Some of his best memories with Caleb and Jack involved traveling together for soccer games and the quality time spent together in the car. As the boys grew into men, his sons also became his friends. In 2011, David and Rebecca followed the call of God in adopting Phoebe. He and Phoebe’s favorite memories together were at the annual father/daughter dances. He has been a managing partner of DeHayes Insurance since 2006. David loved hosting friends and family at their cottage on Crooked Lake. From serving his signature “bacon bombs” to pulling people behind the boat, his selflessness made all feel loved and welcomed. Dave will be remembered by many for his unfailing sense of humor and humility, his seemingly endless energy and generosity, and being the person family and friends could always count on. Dave balanced the values of humor and wisdom encompassed in his favorite quotes: e.g., “wisdom learned is less expensive than wisdom earned.” David was a man of steel wrapped in velvet; a consistent, reliable man of integrity clothed in compassion, humility and gentleness. He wore many hats, and he wore them well. Faithful husband, loving father, servant son, caring brother. His love and respect for both his father and his country shone brightly when he accompanied his father, Ralph, on the honor flight to Washington D.C. Even though he was the baby, he was more like a big brother in the way he cared for his sisters. He got his work ethic, humility and love for chocolate chip cookies from his dad, and his thoughtfulness and patience from his mom. David is survived by his three children: Caleb Michael, Jack David (Megan) and Phoebe Jean; three sisters: Julie (Brad) Borum, Josie (Jim) O’Donnell, Becki (Steve) Lentz; six nieces and eight nephews and a large extended family. David professed Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior and has now met his Maker. Visitation will be Friday, March 19th from 11am-2pm at Pathway Community Church, 1010 Carroll Road, Fort Wayne, IN with the funeral service immediately following. The family sincerely requests that in lieu of flowers memorials be made to True Vine Adoption Ministries at Pathway Church, Honor Flight of Northeast Indiana or toward a Wabash College memorial scholarship fund to be established in David’s name. To attend virtually: then click on Church Online


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Tom and Kelly Vandergriff

March 21, 2021

Our memory of David is of a great athlete, a man of character and a very kind soul. Our deepest sympathies to the family as we offer our thoughts and prayers.

Chris Ervin

March 19, 2021

Dave was a great fraternity brother and teammate in football. He was one of the brothers from the Ft. Wayne area that helped recruit me to the Sigma Chi house. Dave was a hard worker and an all around good guy that we all enjoyed being around. In recent years, I saw him annually at the Monon Bell game and enjoyed catching up with him and his classmates / fraternity brothers. Rels always had that same engaging smile and friendliness that he had in college. He will be missed! Prayers to all of his family and friends on your loss.

Ted Toscos

March 19, 2021

Dear Rebecca, Caleb, Jack & Phoebe,
We are so sorry for your loss, our thoughts and prayers are with you and the family during this difficult time.

May his memory be eternal.

Love Ted, Tammy, Zoe, Eva & Mia

Anita Jones

March 18, 2021

My Deepest Sympathy to David's wife, children and family. I hope their love and faith will guide them through this difficult time.
Dave was very much liked and respected in the insurance industry and will be missed

Mike Funk's Sister, Margo & Stepmom Peggy

March 18, 2021

We share your great sadness as we shared victories and defeats on the football field at Wabash College! We became one big family as the "brothers" lived their love and allegiance to one another. We were always in the stands cheering them on! Mike undoubtedly met "Rels" at the Pearly Gates upon his arrival! Our love to each.

Jennie Schaab-Maiden

March 18, 2021

Dave was a part of our family for 30 years. He was the most kind, loving, faithful, gentle person that I have ever known. I will forever cherish the time spent with him. There will always be a special place in my heart for him. Words cannot describe the loss his family and friends have been through. I pray for my sister, their children, and his siblings. I love you all, so very much. God Bless all of you! ⚘

Anne Tiernon

March 17, 2021

I have fond memories of David from my early years teaching at Homestead High School. Even as a teenager he was respected and admired by his teachers and coaches and loved by his friends and teammates. I am not surprised by the man, son, brother, husband and father he became in his adult years. Praying for the Relue family during this difficult time.

Mark Campati

March 17, 2021

Julie’s and my heart go out to you in this moment. We are just stunned by the news. We know that Jesus is near to you,
as it is scriptural. He is near to the broken hearted and those who mourn. Praying for you, the children, family, and siblings.
Our deepest sympathy 💐

Michael and Natalie Axel

March 17, 2021

Rebecca and family,

Our deepest sympathies on the passing of Dave. I got to know Dave in our many Econ classes at Wabash and through mutual friends in Sigma Chi. I always looked forward to visiting with him when I saw him in Fort Wayne or Crawfordsville. He was some "Little Giant."

God bless,

Mike and Natalie Axel

Robert Green

March 16, 2021

Favorite memories of Dave and the Relue's were all the times at the fire pit with the rest of the Hidden Oaks gang on Friday and Saturday nights. We had some really great times. Loved to eat, play ball, watch the kids play on the playset, share a beverage (or two), wait for dark so the kids could play flashlight tag and enjoy the evenings!!!

Miss you Dave.

Rebecca - so terribly sorry for your loss. Words can't begin to describe the pain when I got the news. Always will be remembered in our prayers.