Pam

It's been 11 years today since I watched and felt the life leave your body. I still think of that moment when I watched the monitor flat-line as I held your hand under the mountain of blankets on you. Sydney was very near. Your family hates me about this, but that's ok. I was there, I was holding your hand as you left. There's not a day goes by that I don't wish I was with you. If God asked me today to come home? I'd say, as long as it's with you. I can only pray that I see you when I go. I think that'll be soon and we will have to stand above our daughter and guide her. I'll love you forever Pam. From then until beyond. I really want to see you again soon. Please come to me. That's all I can ask. Rest well my lady, the love of my life. 

Jack

Honey, it's been 11 years in two weeks
Please come to me. I need you. I love you.

Pam

Please, come visit me again. I'm so lost without you. I'm begging you, I know you read these. Please come visit me. 

Jack

Hi honey! It's your birthday today. You world have been 51. I look at your picture everyday, I think of you daily and wish you were here. Sometimes I do get angry that you died, but it is part of life. Just know I'm here, I still love you so much and please come see me in my dreams. 

Jack

Hi honey. I know it's been a long time since I've written to you. Last night 4/19/25, I had a dream, of you. You looked beautiful as ever. I put my arm around you and it felt good. You were dressed only in an oversized t-shirt. Maybe you're thinking of me and you came to me, maybe I'm just missing you so much. Sometimes, I get a little angry that you died on me, but it's only for a second or so. I do look at a picture of you every day. Just know that you've never left my heart or mind. I love you Pam. I hope you're well.

My darling Pam

10 years ago, you left me. I'm as heartbroken today as I was then. I look at your picture everyday and always ask, why did you leave me. It wasn't supposed to be that way. I miss you, my heart misses you and I pray every day that we meet on the other side. 

I loved you then, I love you more and I'll love you forever. 

Jack

Good morning honey

Well it's your birthday, you would have been 50 today.  I stopped by to wish you a Happy Birthday . I sure wish you were here!

I love you and miss you!!

Jack

Hi honey, well you would have been 50 today. Hard to believe it's been almost 10 years since you left us. I still love you and miss you. I look at your picture everyday.

Honey, a week from mothers day. I'm crying over you. Every day, I look at your picture and ask, why did you die on me. I still don't have your answer. I love you, I miss you. I need you.

Good morning honey

Nine years ago, you left this world. Hardly a day goes by I'm not thinking of you. I guess that's why I've never really had a serious relationship since. No one can ever compare to you. 

I loved you then, I love you more and I'll always love you. 

Jack

Hi honey, 

Happy Birthday! You would have been 49 today. I miss you so much and I love you.  I wish we were together!

Jack

Hi honey

I miss you. I read your letter you wrote me yesterday.  It was more than I expected but exactly as I remembered. In all my life, no one can compare to you. I guess that's why I'm still alone since you left. I would give anything for you to be here right now. Know I love you and always will. 

Jack

Hi honey, 

Well it's April 18, 2023 and I guess your mom died about 1am today, but I'm sure you know that already. Sydney is taking it pretty hard, so try to send good feelings for her. 

I love you and miss you

Jack

Honey, it's a new year. I've yet to meet our granddaughter, but will soon. She sounds so much like you and Sydney. I'm heartbroken because I miss you so much and wish you'd again come talk to me. You have before. Please honey?

I love you

Jack

Hi honey

It's been 8 years now. I still miss you and forever will. I wish you could see Sydney now, daughter of her own. She's doing well. I'm proud of her and I know you would be as well. 

Life is so different without you and at times it's very hard on me.  Just know that forever, you'll own my heart and be in my thoughts. 

I love you Pam 

Jack

Hi honey....

Happy Birthday! You would have been 48 today. I hope you're well. I love and miss you very much. 

Jack

Hi honey

I need you to answer a question for me. Why? Why did you leave me, us? Please come to me and talk to me. 

I love you
Jack

April 16th you became a granny. Her name is Allyson. I tried to post earlier, guess it didn't go through. I love you and miss you honey. 

Hi honey

I'm sure you know but I wanted to say, you're going to be a grandmother in April. I wish you were here to enjoy it with me. 

I love you

Jack

Hi, my Pam ,  Mom Loves you and I miss you, It’s been. 7yrs Today. My life has just been lost without you only a parent knows the hurt and pain loosing a child. You are on my mind all the time I just know that one day I will see you again and that keeps me going. You are going to be a Grandmother in April  Syd is with me and her boyfriend I think you would really like him he treats Syd like  a man is supposed to they are so cute together  She is going to have a little girl and they are going to name her after me her middle name will be Dean  I’m so happy for her and Chris. Pam your sisters and me Will always Live and miss you. You rest and we will see you one day.  Love Mom.

My darling Pam

Is been 7 years now. I still think of you daily. I look at your picture every day. I still love you and miss you more. I think back over these years and wish you'd still been here. I've been lost without you. 

To have and hold you one more time would be my dream. That way, I'd never let go again. 

I can only pray that there is an afterlife and that you'll be waiting for me when my time comes. My only goal is to see our granddaughter come into the world in the spring, beyond that, I'll be waiting to be back with you forever.  

I love you Pam, then, now and forever more. 

Jack

Hi honey, well I wanted to say happy birthday to you. You would have been 47 today. I hope you're well. I love you and miss you and I really would like you to stop by and chat with me. 

Jack

Well honey, I'm sure you know, our little girl is pregnant. I'm still not sure how to deal with it, but I'm sure I will. I really miss you. I hope you'll visit me soon. 

I love you Pam

Hi honey

Thought I'd say hello and let you know I'm thinking about you. I love you and miss you. 

Jack

Hi. My  Sweet  Pam,  it’s going to be another Thanksgiving Without  You, Me and your Sisters Miss You.  It’s been Six Years this month that we Lost you   Mom misses you all the Time. I Would Love so much to hear   Your Voice I miss our talks Syd is with me now .  And Pam she is so Beautiful  You would be so proud.  You Rest and do what ever Angel’s do in Heaven.     Mom Loves you then and Now. Forever.

Good morning honey, 

It's been 6 years and three days. For whatever reason, I'm crying. I know I'm missing you, I know I still love you. I didn't expect this to hit me today but it is. 

Come see me please! 

Six years ago at 1:45PM, we lost you. There are days when it seems like so long ago and days when it seems like yesterday. No one can understand the reason, no one can tell me why. That day, Sydney and I lost the biggest part of us. Today she struggles more than I do and that makes me feel even worse. I believe you're fine but would love a visit again honey. Rest well, I love you! 

Hi honey! Six years ago today started the worst time in my life, well all our lives. You gave your all to take care of me after my accident and ignored your own illness. That cost me you. Not just me, but Sydney lost you and that's more important. I'm trying to get her help, but maybe you could reach out to her and let her know that you are good. I love you Pam. Sydney needs you. 

Hi, My Pam you are 46 years old  Mommy misses you more every day. I so wish you could still be with us. Your sisters and you Dad told me to tell you Happy Birthday and we all Love you so very much.  Your daughter Syd is with me now she broke down last nite crying saying how broken she is it will be 6 yrs in Nov that you went home to our Heavenly Father I pray for Syd all the time she misses her mommy .But one day we will all be togather again you enjoy yourself and be at Peace, mom Loves you my baby girl.

Good morning honey,  it's your birthday. You would have been 46 today. I miss you and love you. Know we'll meet again one day. Rest well my lady. 

Hi honey

It's coming up on your birthday. 46th, I wish you were here. 

I love you!

Hi my Sweet Pam it is going to be six years this November, and I still miss and Think About You All the Time, I know you are looking down on me
  And Your sisters and your daughter Sydney ❤️ I can't believe she  turned 19 in June she has grown into a beautiful  young woman,. Pam I know you would be so proud. Well Mom will see you one day I have and will Always love My Baby Girl Pam







      
              











Hey my Sweet Daughter,  Pam , Me and your Sisters  miss you all the time I can’t believe it’s been 5years. I so want to see you and be with you one day I will be.  Syd is doing ok,  she loves you and misses you, well rest good my Pam and just  remember we will all be togather one day  , Mom Loves you and always will. 

Honey, it's been 5 years now. I miss you every day and really can't believe you're gone. I need you so much, I miss you so much. I wish I could turn back the clocks and bring you back. Rest well my sweet angel. I'll see you again one day. I love you now and forever!

Jack

Well Honey, I have an apartment in League City and live alone. I moved for a job and wish you and Sydney were here. Right now, things are all screwed up with Sydney and I am not allowed to see her, even though she is 18. It is all in court and will get fixed up. Know this, I love you and wish you were here. 

Hi honey

Well it's Monday the 16th. I'll be moving south this coming weekend and taking you with me. I wish and hope that you will reach out to our baby girl and help her make a few right decisions. Right now, she's not. I'll always have a place for her, but she needs you to talk to her. Anyway, wanted you to know we're moving. Your mom approves. 

I love you, come see me anytime 

Jack

Hey my Pam today is your Birthday and I so wish you were still here with me, but God called you home it will be 5 years on November, your sisters are doing fine we just miss you and much today as we did when you first left us I hope to be with you one day soon but not till God called me home, Pam mommy Loves you so much , with all my Love ( your Mom).

Hi honey! You came to me in my dreams again. Thank you! I'm glad you're doing well and so happy you came to me. I love you very much. 

Jack

Hi honey

You're home! Sydney gave you back to me. It is the best thing she's done for me. I'm so happy you're home with me. 

I love you so much and maybe now you'll come visit me. I'd love that. 

Jack

Well honey, you keep showing up as pennies but I need more. I need you to talk to me however you can. I'm stuck not knowing what to do. Sydney has abandoned me and her family. Please try to get to me soon. I love you. 

Honey, so much has happened. Sydney took you from me. I'm devastated but not one of your family cares. My life now it's crazy. I need you to talk to me 


Well my Sweet Girl, it's almost Christmas this will be four years with out you, mommy misses you so very much, your daughter Sydney is doing so well she is now in High School, and I know how very proud of her you would be. It has been a fight to get her where she now is but Pam, I have never seen her so happy. So you rest now because everything is going good for Syd, andom has kept her promise, beside all the odds I love you and me and your sisters wish you could be with us, but we know you are at rest and finely happy.

Hi Honey

Me again. I saw this and wanted to post it for you. 

I love you, now and forever.



Hi Honey

It has been 4 years now and so much has changed. I know you see what is happening and what the reality of it all is. Know this, I love you and miss you and know you were talking to me today with the signs you showed  me. Rest well Honey. Come visit anytime. 

Well it's been 4yrs, Nov 18th That I lost my Beautiful Daughter Pam, mom misses you every day it has been so hard not seeing you, or not hearing your voice, but I know your better off, You don't have to fight all the Demons that you tried so hard to get rid of. You are in the hands of our loveing Father. Your Daughter Sydney is growing  into a beautiful young women, Pam is looks so much like you. You would be so Proud. I'm doing my best to keep the promise you ask me to do for her to get her Edcation, it's been hard. Because some try to stand in my way, but it is being done Syd, will get her Edcation if it takes my last breath, it will be done, because you wanted it so much for her, so you rest now because mommy has taken care of it for you and her. Your Sisters miss you so much too, and we all Love You and wish you could still be with us.

Hi honey. It's getting late October. Almost 4 years since my injury. I was lucky to have you there for me. I miss you so much. I love you, come visit me please. 

Hi honey,  coming up on 4 years now. Still miss you and wish you were here.  I'll love you forever!

Hi honey. You would have been 44. Sydney and I miss you.

Well honey, been a while since I wrote to you. So much has happened since I last write you. Sydney is mine now, adoption complete. She is a Martin, but kept part of you -- she is a Gardner-Martin.  (Her choice and I am happy with it) We went to WV to visit my mom but she died before we got to talk to her. Maybe you and her can finally meet and talk. I still miss you and love you and wish you were here. I'll never forget you ever. 

Happy Birthday Honey

Today would be your 43rd birthday. I hope that you are well and happy. We sure do miss you. I love you Pam

Well Honey, I thought I would write you. It has been so long since I have talked to you and even longer since you came to me last. Life is rough right now with Sydney. She is a young woman now and it is hard to balance life as a dad, a friend and as a mom. Tamra is trying to help but until she is free, it makes it hard for Sydney. Sydney does like her and accepts her. I hope that is ok with you. Woman, I wish you would come to me again, let me know that things will be right. So many things to say, so many things I should have said. Just know that I am trying my best for Sydney and that I will always love you.

Hey Honey - well it is June 11th, our baby girl's 16th birthday. I so wish you were her to help me with her. It is more of a task than I expected - being a dad and a mom at the same time. I really wish you would come to me and talk to me and tell me what I should do. She misses you so much, she cried herself to sleep over you. I do the best I can, but I can't be you. I beg you to come to me and help me. Tell me what I need to do. Tamra wants to help but right this minute, she can't. She made a promise to you and she intends to keep it but I need help now. Please Pam, come visit me. Talk to me, tell me what you think is best to do. You may not think you matter but the tears in my eyes say differently. God I miss you. I wish it had been me that died instead of you. Sydney needs you and so do I. Please talk to one of us and soon. You have come to me twice before and I am begging for you to come to me again. Just tell me to trust in Tamra, to trust in my thoughts, to trust in Sydney -- something. I love you so much, it was supposed to be me go before you. Oh, the adoption will happen soon Honey. Soon, our daughter will carry your and my name. I would give anything to change the way life is today. I would give my life to get you back. Come see me please. I love you Pam.

Hi Honey

Today marks 2 1/2 years since you left this world for something better. I have a lot to say and wish you would come to me to talk to me and give me advice. It is our daughter and boys. I am a good dad, but not a good mom. I don't know how to deal with all of this. Please come see me and tell me what to do. I miss you so much and I will always hold you in my heart. Yes, I may be moving on in life but no matter where, when or how, you will always hold part of me and me part of you. I love you and always will. Please come see me soon.

Hi honey. It's been almost 2 and a half years now and I'm learning a lot. I know I need to talk to you. Sydney needs to talk to you. Tamra is trying but has only got time with Sydney once. I love you and miss you.

Hi honey, another birthday without you. Seems weird you not bring here, making me your cake. I still love you and miss you. Wish you'd visit me again.

Hi honey. 28 months today. I wish it had never happened. I miss you and I love you. 

Jack

Hi honey. Really would love a visit from you. It always cheers me up when you do. I know you are happy and that makes me feel good. Come visit me, I miss you and love you.

Hi honey. I hope you are well. Please come see me again. I love you and always feel better when you appear to me. You always feel great in my arms. Rest well my queen.

Happy Valentines Day honey. I miss you and wish you were here. Rest well my lady. I'll always love you.

Hey honey. Thank you for the visit Friday evening the 27th. It was wonderful to see you again and hold you again too. I'm glad you're ok and happy. I still love you and miss you. Hope you come visit again anytime.

Hi honey. Another year is gone and nothing changes. I still miss you and wish you were here but that's being selfish I know. Just know you are beside me everyday and always will be. I love you Pam

Merry Christmas honey. This is the third one without you. I did my best for Sydney as usual.  Wish you were here! I love you and miss you.

Hi honey.  Christmas is almost here and I miss you.  This will be the third one without you. I still miss you as much as ever. Come see me honey.

Well honey is been two years now. I miss you as much today as then and love you more. I still wish you were here. I need you but I know you are in a better place. Life goes on but it's not easier. I wish you'd visit me again. Just know I'm doing all I can for our daughter and love you more than ever. Rest well my lady. I love you.

Hi Honey

It has been 22 months today and I still miss you very much. You are still loved very much too and I still want you to come visit me again. I want that more now than anything. Rest well beautiful, I love you and always will.

Well honey, thought I'd tell you about something. It appears that after two years, I'll try to move on. It'll be hard, weird and not sure how it'll go. She and I both miss you and love you. Yes, she was your best friend in Texas. It'll be late this year before anything moves on honey. Sydney keeps telling me its time but still send weird. Love you beautiful.

Hi honey. Happy birthday! You would have been 42 today. I love you and miss you.

Honey it's been 21 months now. I still miss you very much and always will. Life hasn't been the same without you. Sometimes it's very hard but Sydney reminded me that you are in a better place and free of all the pain. I'm so grateful I have her, thank you for that blessing. I love you Pam.

Hi honey

I know you were here with me yesterday. I could only see you or of the corner of my eye but I know you were there visiting Sydney and I. I'm glad you came but I really need to see and talk to you. I miss you so much. I love you Pam, come see me please.

Hi honey. It's been a year today since Smokey died and almost 20 months for you. I'm looking at you right now and my heart is sad. I want you to come visit me again honey. Please know that no matter the road I go down, I feel you are right there with me. I will always love you and miss you.

Honey, I miss you. I pray that you'll come see me again. I'm lost without you. I never thought live would be guys way without you because I always expected you to out live me. Please come see me again, I need to talk to you about so much. I love you and always will. 

Jack

Hi honey. I'm sitting here looking at your resting place with you in it. I'm wondering how you are doing and really want you to come visit me again. I need to talk to you honey. I love you and miss you.

Hi honey. It's been a while sobe I've stopped by but don't think I've forgotten you. It's passed the 19th month now since you left. I still miss you and still love you. Your flowers are growing well and Sydney is doing fine. She still hurts and I try to be here for her. I miss you Pam.

Hi Honey, it has been a year and a half now. I posted something on facebook yesterday about it. I miss you so much and I love you. I am glad that you are at peace. I want you to come visit me again soon. I miss you that much. I want to feel your arms around me again. Rest well my lady and my angel.

Happy mothers day honey. I love you and miss you. I know Sydney does too.

Hi Honey - it has been a rough few days. Sydney and I are both missing you so much. She holds in a lot but told me she cried the other night because she misses you so much. I try my best with her but with having to work, I can't be with her all of the time. I wish you would come to her, come to me, let us know you are around us and watching over us. We both love you and miss you so much. Rest easy Honey........ I love you

Hi Honey - just a hello and to tell you I miss you and wish you would visit me again!!

Hi honey, it has been over 17 months now since you left. Each day seems like the last and I still miss you every day. I hope and pray that you are well and happy. I will always love you!

Good morning my love. It's been almost a year and a half since you left this world. I think of you all the time. I loved the visit you gave me and hoped to have you visit again. Maybe some day you will. You'll forever be in my heart and by my side.  I love you.

Hi honey. I turned 60 today. I miss you so much. You always did something special for my birthday. I miss that too. I wish you were here. Come talk to me again soon. I love you!

Hi honey. Just sitting here at work missing you. I wish you'd visit me again. I'll love you always!

Well Honey, it has been almost 16 months now since your pain ended. I think a lot about how hard it must have been to endure all you did for so long and all I keep coming up with is just how amazing you really were. I know that you were not fully appreciated in life and the only way I can show you is when we meet again one day. I am sorry that I didn't tell you or show you more just how much I really did love my life with you. You are forever in my heart and I will always love you.

Hi Honey. It is still strange that you came to me in my dreams. I am happy that you did but I wish I could have heard what you were trying to tell me. It would mean so much to me to be able to talk to you again. You were there and trying to talk but I couldn't hear you. I know that was the first real time that you came to me and I know you will visit again. I will be waiting for the next time and hope I can hear you then. Until I see you again, know I love you very much and miss you too. It was nice to see you though.

Hi honey. You just came to me in my dreams. You were at the between death and cremation stage. It was so real but scary. I kept having to carry you back to our bed and protect you from evil. You would hold onto me and talk to me. I don't remember anything you said though. I am not sure how to understand what your message was but I'm happy I got time with you. It felt good to hold you again even if just a dream. I love you.

Hi Honey

It has been 15 months now and I still miss you terribly. I wish you were here because there is so much I really need to talk to you about. You were my only friend and while Sydney tries to be my friend, there are things that can't be talked about with her. I wish you could visit me. I love you, now and forever.

Hi honey. Valentine's day and I was lonely. It's getting better but still hard. You were my life for more than 15 years. Thought I'd update you on Tamra. I think things are going well between us and Sydney does approve. I'm hopeful that you'll be ok with it too. I think you are.  I still love you and wish you were here but one needs to move on. Rest well beautiful lady. 

Jack

Hi honey. I got Sydney's supernatural tickets yesterday for this year. She was so happy. I wanted you to know that I'll keep our promise to her every year. Thank you for the visit you gave me yesterday, it was nice. It came right before someone called.  Oh I talked to Debbie Moore yesterday, maybe two days ago. She is supportive of me moving on and likes our choice. Yes she checks in on you too and reads what I write to you. Anyway, no matter what happens, you're always my love and my lady. I'll still find you on the other side.

Hi honey

Is the end of January 2016. I'm still missing you so much but I wanted to tell you that I may start dating your best friend Tamra. It's hard but I need someone that you trusted and I trust to help with Sydney. I hope you understand. I still love you and wish you were with me.

Hi Honey, it has been 14 months since you left this world. I would give anything to have you back. I miss you so much and there is a hole in my heart that is always you. I just want you to always know that no matter what, you are always part of me. I love you very much.

Hi honey. Sitting here beside you and missing you. A new year has started and the old one is gone. There are times when I'd rather be with you but I have to stay strong for Sydney. If not for her, I would join you. No one wants me anymore anyway.  I love you.

Hi honey. It's Christmas and I miss you. Is this one easier than last year?  Yes and no. Easier because Sydney is better and excited but no because I think I miss you more today than last year.

Hi honey. That time if year again. I wish so much you were here. I'm so lost without you.  I love you

Hi honey, well I made it through yesterday. First thanksgiving I've cooked since before you died. It was good, wish you'd been here for it. Anyway, I missed you. I live you Pam

Hello honey. It's been one year today to the minute that you passed. In lost and I don't know what to do anymore. Life was so much easier with you here. Sydney is my only rock anymore. I wish I could hold you again. I wish I could talk to you again. I love you and I miss you very much. Rest well my lady.

Well honey, it's been 11 months. I miss you and add I always told you, I'll love you forever and I do. It's lonely without you. Rest well.

Hi honey. It's been a while since I've talked to you. Tomorrow it'll be 11 months since you left our world. I'm having a very rough day today and it'll be worse tomorrow. I miss you so much it really does hurt. I'm lost. I'm hurting. I don't know what to do. Please help me.  I love you.

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Pamala Raye Gardner Fletcher

September 1, 1974 – November 18, 2014

Shannon Rose Hill Funeral Chapel & Cemetery

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