OBITUARY
Jerry L. Mallicoat
December 8, 1960 – January 8, 2021
Jerry L. Mallicoat, age 60, of Miamisburg, OH; died Friday January 8, 2021. Jerry was born in Middletown, OH on December 8, 1960 to the late Horace and Freda (Coffey) Mallicoat. Jerry was LGBT Health Iniatives Manager with Public Health – Dayton - Montgomery County, and chair of Rainbow Elder Care of Greater Dayton. His sister, Janice Dearth, preceded him in death. Jerry is survived by his husband, John Cummings; his sisters, Bobbie (Ray) Kirkpatrick, Rhonda (Gary) Hangen, Carolyn (Patrick) Muthert; numerous nieces and nephews. A Memorial Service will be 1pm Saturday January16, 2021 at Anderson Funeral Home 1357 E 2nd St Franklin, OH with Pastor Ruth Hopkins officiating. Visitation will be Saturday from 11am to 1pm at the funeral home.
In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Rainbow Elder Care (rainboweldercare.org) or Lambda Legal (lambdalegal.org)
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ADD A MEMORYAlicia Fagan
January 16, 2021
John and Jerry's Family,
We share your sorrow. We also share your joy and laughter thinking about our wonderful lucky time with Jerry.
Every time we look up we see a beautiful, keen-eyed Cooper's hawk flying over, we think of him. We call out, we wave. We are certain the hawk dips its wing in reply and tells us Jerry's looking out for everyone.
He was my best friend 40 years ago at Ohio State until we had to go separate ways for school and work. We found each other again in person and online and it's been the best thing about my life.
He was beautiful, courageous, delicious, larger than life, my brother, my hero. The Earth is worse off but Heaven has now been enriched. I actually picture him in Heaven trying to change the mind of the bigots who snuck in. :-) We love you John. So much. We will see you as soon as we can.
XO,
Alicia Fagan and Kathryn Yung
Julie Goode
January 16, 2021
I am deeply saddened by the passing of Jerry. I was honored to get to know him when he started at PHDMC and we were office neighbors. Jerry made a tremendous impact at Public Health and for the community that will continue to grow and remain for generations to come. On a personal level Jerry was so kind and welcoming. He created a safe harbor to be yourself. He inspired me not just to want to be better but to do better. Sincere condolences to Jerry's loved ones. He will be remembered fondly.
Al Butler
January 14, 2021
Sending my love, prayers and heartfelt sympathy
Emily Gamble
January 14, 2021
John,
I was so sorry to hear of Jerry's passing.
With Jerry at the Alzheimer's Association office, dull moments didn't exist. His bold, bright personality made the office so lively. Whenever I hear "Can't Stop the Feeling," I imagine Jerry dancing around at our Walks with a huge smile on his face. That song will always be Jerry's song, something to remember him by.
The impact of Jerry's work will certainly live on well beyond his passing.
Sending lots of love, warm thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
- Emily Gamble
Jose Rodriguez
January 14, 2021
I was so sad to learn of the loss of Jerry. His contributions to the LGBTQ+ community in Dayton and around the state will leave a huge void in many ways. We can honor his legacy by continuing his work.
My condolences and peace to all his loved ones.
Jose R. Rodriguez
Equitas Health
Jennette Caden
January 13, 2021
Jerry was a heck of a cook and an advocate for LGBT people. I worked with him on several occasions, most recently on the Rainbow Elder Care board. Gone too soon. Rest well, Jerry. You earned it.
Kay Yung
January 13, 2021
Oh John. My heart is breaking for you.
I don’t know why, but Jerry and I loved each other the MOMENT we set eyes on one another. He was so full of life, of fun, of snark, and of love. I would secretly send him pics of my latest get-up (aka “costume” according to ADF) whenever she was out of town. He and I were just getting started, and I looked forward to when we could see and hug each other again.
Please please reach out anytime you need to. Alicia and I will see you soon. The separation is such an awful cruelty of this pandemic.
Judi Allbery
January 12, 2021
John,
I wanted to let you know how saddened and shocked I am about Jerry. I loved working with him at the Alzheimer’s Association. Jerry made everything so much fun, and happy, his laugh and wonderful ways made the office so lively. It wasn’t the same after he left. Not long after he left I was lucky enough to have dinner with him, we laughed and went through a great bottle of wine. He was so brilliant and everything he created and put forward made a huge impact. I will miss him so much, but remember he is smiling down on you, Rosie and his family and friends. He is forever our angel.
Judi Allbery
Michael Sheline
January 12, 2021
Jerry was a giant when it came to caring and shouting out against injustice. I am a better person for knowing him! I will always remember the last time I spent with him at lunch in Dayton - he had away of uplifting your soul and accepting you for you. Jerry made his mark!
Ann Daniels
January 12, 2021
We had enjoyed our many conversations with Jerry and John at Jerry's family and friends gatherings as well as the many times our paths crossed in our community. Jerry will be missed by so many due to his friendly and outgoing personality. We pray for his family members and friends during this time of great loss.
Ann & Ty Daniels
Anwyl Scott
January 12, 2021
I had the enormous honor of being a witness to Jerry and John's lovely wedding. Standing up with them on the day they were legally wed was one of the happiest days of my life. I knew we were celebrating not just their touching love and mutual devotion, but their tireless efforts for LGBTQ rights and equal rights for all. Jerry was a role model for all the rest of us. . I have many memories of him at Courthouse Square showing up for equality and justice for every group whose rights were being trampled or ignored - nearly always with his rainbow flag.
Terri Tyson
January 11, 2021
I will never forget that first communications meeting at Harmony Creek Church where Jerry and I met. I knew almost instantly that this was going to be someone significant in my life. The years that followed have certainly played that out. From his and John's hospitality in opening there home to me when I traveled back to Ohio to our concert in the rain to see Lady Gaga and Tony Bennett I have benefitted from his friendship. I loved his political FaceBook posts, with classic rants a daily joy. I loved his smile and that laugh that came from the belly. I loved how much he loved John and Rosie. My world became a little darker with him gone. John, I love you and you will always be part of my life. Grieve him well but celebrate him too. He is above organizing something and irritating God to make heaven better. I love you Jerry, always.